How are we feeling about a Facebook page?

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

I searched and not much came up and nothing I could find of recent, just wondering where we were with this- now that we are getting a little further along, how is everyone feeling about a May Moms 15 Facebook page?

I know personally I am usually mobile, and mobile bumping is hard

littlecookie · November 2014

Still too soon.

littlecookie · November 2014

Bump burp. I don't feel that strongly about it

lladymack · November 2014

I'm not sure I see the point. Can someone explain to me why the need for a Facebook group? I'm just not that comfortable with random internet strangers knowing my name, and having access to my pictures etc.
is it just me? Or am I just overly paranoid?

Lezzie82 · November 2014

No. I already am sick to death of Facebook. I have over 1000 friends and don't know who half are. Hell no lol.

xcjump · November 2014

I plan on joining a FB group whenever one is created. I have a great group with my J13 girls and we have met up in person etc. I don't really care if it starts now or waits until third trimester. I find it much easier to use FB than the bump and I find that it is easier to get to know people.

tinalovescauliflower · November 2014

I'm not ready yet, no. But I'm sure some people are.

Poppy715 · November 2014

And invite all the crazies to view my whole life? I'll pass. X_X

chicagomomab · November 2014

I personally use Facebook a ton more than The Bump (I only sign on TB when I'm at work...) but I'm on FB all the time. I prefer it because it's easier to share pictures and to follow the threads. If there is ever a group formed, I would want to join but I'm okay waiting too. I joined the FB group for my DD right before she was born.

xcjump · November 2014

I would also like the group to form before the babies are born. It was really nice to have the FB group when I was up in the MOTN. The bump is just too much of a PITA to get onto.

texasmama15 · November 2014

I would rather wait because there are still too many random's in and out every day. Hoping they fizzle out sooner than later.

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

I am totally fine waiting as well - I will be joining whenever it is formed, but to answer the ladies who ask what is the point?

To me FB is just easier honestly. I prefer it over this format, bc I am usually mobile.

Also my group with my October 12 mamas has helped to form some of the strongest and closest friendships of my adult life. We meet up in real life and are truly part of each others lives.

And it is way easier to spot a faker/troll/scammer on a FB group. Any legit person on FB has more than 50 friends and pictures so it is fairly easy for an admin to weed through who to approve and who not to. Personally I feel safer in a FB group than here, where everything is out in the open for anyone to see ( a FB group is totally private) and anyone can be posting from their basement

Basically when it is time, a post will go up here of who wants to join and whomever is in charge and is an admin will have you PM them your full name on FB- then they will add you to the group. No one who wasn't already on this board will be able to join- in fact the group can be made secret so no one, even when searching can even see it.

Anyways, that is totally just my two cents.

Like I said, I am perfectly fine with waiting and will join when ever it is formed. I was just checking to see where we are- as it is hard for me to be as active here as I would like, being that I am mobile.

emu0013 · November 2014

I'll pass my Aug board started one in 2012 and then were all bickering, and someone started a second and it was nothing but drama....

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

shmeell25 said:

In defense of FB groups, it's not like once you join the group you are automatically friends with everyone in the group. I believe the initial person will have to friend you to invite you, but that's it. People would just see whatever you have public on your regular page, and whatever you choose to share within the group. Obviously it's up to you if you want to friend anyone within the group at that point.

I have a bunch of good friends I found on TB in a FB group, but we all went through TTCAL together, PgAL together, and then PAL together. The group wasn't formed until we all hit PAL, so we had known each other for quite sometime. I'm not opposed to it eventually, but I'm in no hurry.

That is all correct- no one can see anything they couldn't see of the searched you on FB.

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

robotpcr said:

gypsyheart85 said:

I am totally fine waiting as well - I will be joining whenever it is formed, but to answer the ladies who ask what is the point?

To me FB is just easier honestly. I prefer it over this format, bc I am usually mobile.
Also my group with my October 12 mamas has helped to form some of the strongest and closest friendships of my adult life. We meet up in real life and are truly part of each others lives.

And it is way easier to spot a faker/troll/scammer on a FB group. Any legit person on FB has more than 50 friends and pictures so it is fairly easy for an admin to weed through who to approve and who not to. Personally I feel safer in a FB group than here, where everything is out in the open for anyone to see ( a FB group is totally private) and anyone can be posting from their basement That is totally just my two cents.

Like I said, I am perfectly fine with waiting and will join whoever it is formed. I was just checking to see where we are- as it is hard for me to be as active here as I would like, being that I am mobile.

I'm not sure I have more than 50 friends. I'm a real person who's picky about who I add since I have wedding photos and most likely will have pcitures of my future kid up.

That's cool- you are the exception not the rule. But it certainly doesn't mean you are a scammer- But it would make me look at you more closely if i was approving your add into the group- thats all I am saying. I admin a "crunchy mamas" group on FB so I know some red flags

lakingsfan2015 · November 2014

I am in a FB group with DS2 and DS3 BMBs. With April06 we started on Pregnancy Weekly (which not longer has forums) but didn't go to FB till 2009 by then the group was down to 70 regular posters. I am not FB friends with all of them but I have met a large amount of them. Since PW stopped the forums and strictly has FB groups I joined the November 12 board but I am not friends with any of them and it is a ghost town there.

I would be open to it later on down the road because in the 3 years it took us to go private we did still have a troll among us and they were our pushing point to go private.

Pintobean39 · November 2014

Hell No!!!

Sarahbmcd · November 2014

I wouldn't mind joining. My fb is private anyway and a lot of ppl have my name

staccajaye · November 2014

Lezzie82 said:
No. I already am sick to death of Facebook. I have over 1000 friends and don't know who half are. Hell no lol.

Ahhhhh girl you need to sort that out. For you safety and the safety of your family and babies... Only have people on your FB who you personally know.

You are giving randoms access to photos, to places you check into, to when your family is out of town.
The things people can access now, I would strongly recommend cleaning that shit up.

xxstephh · November 2014

I would join one.

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

HilarityEnsued said:

You don't need to have more than 50 friends to be legit.

So I think I poorly worded that

All I was saying that as an admin of another group one of the red flags of a fake account is having very few friends and like no pics

staccajaye · November 2014

I think the people who want to join one now should. It seems there are a few of you. Just do it!!!!!!
I personally am not there yet, but for the ones that are, no need to wait for use slow pokes.
Do what ever makes you happy

annerz22 · November 2014

I joined my May12 FB group in 3rdtri and am still very active over there. It was easier to navigate and it had a good vibe. We did have an awful bought of catfish drama and "Amanda-gate" as we call it but once that was over everything died down and it's been low drama and wonderful since. At this point I think there are around 200 of us in the group and I've met quite a few in person. Even vacationed with some of the ladies I became close to.

With that being said, I'm not that active this time around on the bump and already being in a Facebook group with my May12 moms (and our spin-off groups) I don't think I would venture over for may15. I would rather be a bit more active over here in a smaller group than get back into Facebook.

Poppy715 · November 2014

Lezzie82 said:

No. I already am sick to death of Facebook. I have over 1000 friends and don't know who half are. Hell no lol.

There's a way to fix that you know...

Jillibean68 · November 2014

I think there is a time and place for a FB group. I joined one of the (3?4?) fb groups started by my A13 BMB, and it's been amazing. I've met some of the ladies IRL, and have formed some great friendships. I would have been lost my first year of parenthood without my A13Fbumpies.
That being said, it's still way too soon. There are still too many loonies coming and going from this board to make me comfortable making the move to an FB group.
Also, my A13 board has been the exception to the drama rule. All of the other FB groups that were formed (before and after ours formed) has been drama drama drama.
I can honestly say I don't know if I would join an FB group for this board knowing that my A13 board is a rarity with how we all get along so well with no drama. Lightening doesn't strike twice.
The absolute earliest I would even consider making the move would be late late 3rd tri when hopefully the drama and loonies have settled down considerably.

Eta- hit post too soon

Lezzie82 · November 2014

staccajaye said:

Lezzie82 said:
No. I already am sick to death of Facebook. I have over 1000 friends and don't know who half are. Hell no lol.
Ahhhhh girl you need to sort that out. For you safety and the safety of your family and babies... Only have people on your FB who you personally know.

You are giving randoms access to photos, to places you check into, to when your family is out of town.
The things people can access now, I would strongly recommend cleaning that shit up.

I have two pages actually. One I don't post shit on. The other I don't really post anything on either. The one with a ton of people has more to do with my old job with DH helping him out in the music biz. I really honestly don't know 80% of them. I just need to delete the whole page as I'm not even working right now. Lol. My regular page is full of people too though, that I don't really talk to or hang with. At first it seems cool to get a request from someone you were in third grade with..... But after awhile I question why?? What's the fucking point?

I'm like two steps away from being permanently done with FB

Lezzie82 · November 2014

Or maybe opening one with close friends only. I wish there was a way to see my friends without having a page.

xxstephh · November 2014

I joined 2015 May, June, July .
I couldn't find anything relating.

AshReneeRN · November 2014

I'm definitely in whenever a group is created. It's so much easier when mobile and I'm always mobile! Lol

I belong to many Facebook groups as part of my nursing school and bachelor's programs and I'm totally comfortable. Yes they can all see my name but we aren't automatically friends and they can't see any more of my page then any other random stranger

Tmakes3 · November 2014

I agree with @gypsyheart85‌ . I'm also in that Oct 12 group and have met some great friends through it. I'm way less active here because I feel like I don't know who's real and who's a troll. I think a FB group helps bonding. And you can't actually see anyone's profile unless you're actually friends with them

lgsdesigner · November 2014

Just make one and post the link. If people want to join, they will. If they don't, they won't. It isn't really that big of a deal.

Now-- let's talk about more important things. Has anyone seen my Twix bar?

VeganOnTuesdays · November 2014

No fucks given either way on this one. Do it. Don't do it. Not going to ruin my day either way. I may or may not join but not right now. It's too early.

kac22 · November 2014

But, then I couldn't express my feelings with GIFs?!

But in all seriousness, like PPers said, just make one. Those that want to join will, those that don't, won't. End of story.

TeacherMom2015 · November 2014

I agree that one should be made and people can join when they feel comfortable. I would join, but I'm way more active on facebook than I am here.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · November 2014

Lezzie82 said:

No. I already am sick to death of Facebook. I have over 1000 friends and don't know who half are. Hell no lol.

This puzzles me. Why would you be friends with people you don't know?

Anyway, I am with whatever. My full name is not on my account and I have my page super locked up, so I can be in a group without anyone seeing anything. So whatever.

xxstephh · November 2014

2015 May, June, July mommies

Sorry I left out mommies Accidentally . It's a group on facebook.

lauranicole91 · November 2014

I know I say all this every time this is brought up, but whatever.

My April 2012 bump board never went to FB. Well accept a few who gbcb'd over some drama, but it was so few people you didn't even notice them gone. We are still going strong (on the other forum that shall not be named) with well over 100 active members. 95% of us all added each other on facebook sometime after the babies were born. People formed off board relationships texting, phone calls, meet ups, etc. But we still continue to post publicly as a huge group. I love it.

Also I don't get the mobile bump hate? I mean sure it's annoying there isn't really a notifications tab, but it's not difficult to navigate, we can post pictures, the posts are organized. I just don't understand?

gypsyheart85 · November 2014

Ok so the consensus seems to be "Everybody who wants to join one should and we can stop talking about it" So I'll make one and post a new thread for people to PM me and I'll add you. If you don't want to be in it, just don't open the thread. Everyone has put a lot of input here and expressed their opinions on why FB does or doesn't suck in this thread- let's keep it here

rivers714 · November 2014

My friends and I have a fb group that's private invite only. It's pretty nice. You don't need to be friends with everyone in the group to be part of the group and participate.