Hello Ladies ... would just like to get some advise. I turned 36 in August. DH is almost 38. We would like to begin TTC right away, but our financial situation leaves much to be desired. We aren’t doing “bad” exactly. We make decent money. $135,000 a year in Hicksville, FL. The problem is that due to some medical problems and sheer stupidity we have a lot of credit card debt, student loan debt, and an embarrassing savings account. I have no idea how long it would take to pay this off. Im guessing 20 years or more. But because of our ages, Im hesitant to wait. I think we should wait another year to get our finances somewhat of an order, but Im wondering if another year is asking for fertility problems. I don’t actually have any known fertility problems. I had DS 6 years ago, but Im worried about fertility reduction and perhaps a need for IVF which we could never afford. Im just so mad at myself that we are in this situation and sad.I know nobody can give me an actual answer to my issue, but Id love to hear some opinions. Thanks, ladies J
Re: money troubles but want to ttc
I have a lot of student loan debt, but we've finally gotten the bulk of our credit card debt under control-- it means sacrificing, for sure. It may be a matter of selling off some possessions to chip away at some of your debt... It's partially a matter of prioritizing what you want vs. what you have vs. what you're willing to sacrifice.
Having a lot of debt definitely sucks, and I can sympathize. But ultimately, it's for you and your H to decide what you are comfortable with.
Good luck with whichever path you choose!
My Ovulation Chart
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
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I think you can only do the best you can do with what you've got. So, for us that means we are doing a little bit each month to move in the right direction, while TTC. I'm not being overly aggressive with TTC yet and might wait more than six months to see a doc (planning on right around my 37th bday next May) and in the meantime squirrel away what I can while working on the "urgent" debts first.
@vh2014 I'm going to check out mint.com you're one of many who has suggested it!
Edit: damn autocorrect
I would just like to reiterate that if you wait for the "perfect" time to have a baby, it may never come.
I think it's definitely important to get a handle on your debt plan wise so you and your husband feel more comfortable before moving forward.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
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All ALers welcome!