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Just for Fun and laughs- worst advice you've gotten/ thing you've heard another prego say

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edited November 2014 in June 2015 Moms
so I have two things both from the more *ahem* colorful side of my family I don't really interact with.. I think it's hilarious in its horribleness and I thought it would be fun to share and hear about things other people have had said to them!

So I have a cousin around my age and we both ride horses. I've been pretty ill the last year and haven't ridden much.. I said something on Facebook about my friend inviting me to ride and finally feeling well enough to do it but jokingly said I didn't think my fetus would appreciate it (all very light hearted). This cousin goes on a rant in the comments about how "u don't have to listen to da doktor" because they don't know what they're talking about and it's perfectly fine to ride up until you give birth because that's how people got around in the old days and they were fine. She then goes further to say that doctors are bullshit and that she rode up until the day she gave birth and that I'm not enjoying and living life just because I'm pregnant... She rode up until the day she gave birth even though her doctor said not to and everything was fine- she gave birth at FIVE MONTHS THREE WEEKS.

Ummm I think I'm just going to play it safe and not go riding like my obgyn says.. Thanks for the excellent advice though!

The other thing isn't really advice but it was just so incredibly ignorant I had to laugh so I wouldn't burst out crying for her son in my hormonal state.

Another cousin has a ten month old and I was telling her about going to a show at a bar a few months back and seeing a heavily pregnant girl chain smoking and drinking woodchuck hard ciders like they were water. I was being a smart ass and I said something about how if you're going to drink heavily and chain smoke while super pregnant you should have some shame and do it at home..

Her reply: "I never quit smoking and I drank out at the bar almost every night the whole time I was pregnant-- but I only drank wine spritzers so it was ok."

Are these people even real??
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  • GreenIvy08GreenIvy08 member
    Too funny! Just keep them around for entertainment purposes! You gotta love family!
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  • megronmegron member
    AmyCee said:

    having people try to peer pressure me into drinking wine while pregnant because they did it and their kids are "fine" pisses me off!!!

    I'm also generally unnerved by the fact that there is more of a stigma to abstaining than being an effing drunk! Pregnant or not! (For background my DH is almost 1 year sober and it gives you an interesting perspective (pregnant or not) when you get more of an eyebrow raise for turning down wine/beer/shots than when my DH used to down half a bottle of tequila and become a belligerent a-hole!)

    I SO get it! I have a rare blood disorder and live the life of a sage so anything processed that isn't tried and true in my diet is a big no-no including alcohol-- people are so shitty about me not drinking and think I owe them some sort of explaination beyond "I don't drink" when asked. The other night someone who knew I was pregnant was trying to get me to drink some wine and people kept asking to get me "a drink" (I had a non alcoholic beverage in front of me) I finally started saying, "yeah a double whiskey on the rocks." Shut them up pretty quick.
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  • megronmegron member
    mamabearMoni said:

    I was told to drink a beer a day to help my daughter's brain grow by a co-worker.... I was 18.

    A girl I used to work with said her obgyn told her to drink a glass of wine a day "for the health of the baby," so she did-- and the ONLY thing that's wrong with her daughter is that she has little tiny holes outside her ears because SHE STARTED TO GROW A SECOND SET OF EARDRUMS... Oh yeah, that sounds totally normal!

    Lol- man that was years ago, I totally forgot about it until your beer comment!
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  • BabyListBabyList member
    I told one of my co workers I was missing diet Pepsi and deli meat. She told me not to worry because with her first she drank, smoked, and smoked weed. Needless to say she thought I was crazy for avoiding certain foods/drinks.
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  • mlindzzmlindzz member
    edited November 2014
    Agreed. Lots of people online posting about how some pretty scary staff is ok.. 'as long as you're comfortable with it'. Yikes, I think I'll keep safety before comfort in my books. :)
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  • mommytobe43215mommytobe43215 member
    The placenta pills or rubbing whiskey on teething babies
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    On.their gums in addition to my first post
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  • megronmegron member
    This is just a rant so feel free to skip :-p
    This stuff blows my mind- like ok my cousin says doctors are stupid and I should just live my life and continue to ride horses (which is just the most dangerous sport, seriously I show jump and I've had two back reconstructions with rods and screws in my lumbar spine, broken my c5 and c6 in my neck and had a traumatic brain injury because even if you're super careful ((which ok I wasn't because I picked arguably the most dangerous part of an already dangerous sport)) horses are animals and they can freak out when you're just walking) because she did and her pregnancy went SO well.. Like bitch you gave birth at five months three weeks, your son was in NICU for seven months and at 20 months he still has to wear oxygen 24/7 because his lungs didn't get a chance to develop. There was no other medical reason why she should have went into labor besides the fact that she went on a nine hour trail ride at the end of her second trimester and she smoked- what on earth makes her think she is the poster child for a healthy pregnancy!?!! The stupidity, oh the stupidity!

    Perhaps the hard trail blazing while pretty damn pregnant isn't what caused the preterm labor, but the "stupid doctors" at the university of Michigan hospital seem to think it was, but I just don't understand why you would risk it let alone advocate it to others.

    Hell, why even bother to go to the doctor, it's not like they went through 8 years of harrowing post graduated study or anything.. Clearly you dropping out of high school at 16 and struggling to get a GED at 18 makes you just as qualified as them!

    I'm glad the women here seem to be erring on the side of caution. I personally just feel like if something does go wrong we probably don't want to have a bunch of things to look back on and think "maybe if I wouldn't have ______..."
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  • mommacandimommacandi member
    This thread came at the perfect time! I was a smoker pre-pregnancy, but quit completely during our TWW. I did the same thing with my first pregnancy. My neighbor, who is my age and has 2 kids 6 and 9, is also a smoker. She asks me every time I see her if I want a cigarette because "I smoked the whole time with both of mine and it was fine." I'm not judging anyone, I know quitting is hard; I just don't think it's ok to do anything that could harm baby. She's really grinding my gears and acts like I'm some prude for refusing to smoke while pregnant.

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  • megronmegron member
    honeybunches101 said:

    A couple of years ago I met a woman who was 6 months pregnant at a mutual friend's party. It was tex mex themed and I was eating queso dip right from the jar. Very classy, I know. She told me she was jealous but her doctor said to avoid soft cheese. I tried to explain that meant stuff that could be imported and unpasturized, not like Pace brand that's sealed in a jar. She was arguing back and then said forget it and went out for a smoke break. With a margarita.

    Hahaha, and she's probably outside smoking and drinking her margarita saying "this dumb girl inside thinks I can eat cheese even if it isn't hard.. What an idiot!"

    Haaahaha

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  • jjbdvmjjbdvm member
    Move to central Mississippi- the Southern Baptists control the population and a vast majority of them in the area (pretend that they) don't drink and will look at you funny if you do (in public). They'll also try to save your soul if you are Catholic.

    For the record, I know some lovely "normal" SBs and even married one (I'm the dreaded Catholic) so no offense to the good Baptists out there- this is strictly me hating on a particular subset of the nutty ones (I live in Louisiana now and they got some crazy Catholics over on this side of the river).

    Jesus, being PC is fucking hard...
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  • IsadoraBIsadoraB member
    I haven't heard too much crazy advice yet, but I'm sure I will during Thanksgiving at my MIL's. These are the same people that told me when I was 29 that if I didn't have kids soon my eggs would rot and go bad, and DH's aunt said if I waited too long my kid would be "retarded just like my son." (Her son has mild autism.) I couldn't believe she would talk about a child like that, let alone her own child. 

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  • EmilywooddesignEmilywooddesign member
    This girl today told me that labor wasn't that bad and that if I wanted to ask her advice I could bc obv everyone's bodies and labour is the exact same. Then she told me her kids were 18 months apart so it's basically the same as twins. My first experience with unwanted mommy advice
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  • sassypants2010sassypants2010 member
    edited November 2014
    My FIL's girlfriend told me eat a spoonful of castor oil after my water breaks so I won't accidentally have a bowel movement while pushing. This woman gave birth once in the 60's and gave her kid up because he was a wet blanket for partying. I didn't do it because who wants stomach cramps while having contractions?
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    mishmardhiono said:

    Can't stand the "I did it and my kids are fine".. Someone I know was telling me that I should smoke weed through the pregnancy cos the munchies helped with her MS and then she birthed a home with a bong and had the best pain relief efc.. Totally gibsmacked that a. People are literally that terrible that they could do that but then b. not even be ashamed of it!!

    She probably did a home birth so CPS wouldn't get called for having drugs in her system lol. People are crazy!!!
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    caseycruz02 said:

    My 21 year old sister just informed me that I should feel just normal cause at 9 weeks I'm barely pregnant. When I asked her what the fuck she meant she told me this. That I'm barely pregnant because I could still get an abortion and that my body must not be going threw that many changes if you can still get ride of a baby. Now this baby was planned and is very much wanted. I know she's just young and dumb but holy hell. I almost dropped kicked her face. She also told me that my losing as twin was Gods way of telling me that I would have been a horrible mother to twins so he eliminated one to even the field out. Oh lord, please help me.

    Holy. Shit. I am so sorry. I can't even imagine what I would have said.
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    edited November 2014
    caseycruz02 said:

    My 21 year old sister just informed me that I should feel just normal cause at 9 weeks I'm barely pregnant. When I asked her what the fuck she meant she told me this. That I'm barely pregnant because I could still get an abortion and that my body must not be going threw that many changes if you can still get ride of a baby. Now this baby was planned and is very much wanted. I know she's just young and dumb but holy hell. I almost dropped kicked her face. She also told me that my losing as twin was Gods way of telling me that I would have been a horrible mother to twins so he eliminated one to even the field out. Oh lord, please help me.

    Oh sweet lord in heaven. Family. *slow clap*

    Nice work not punching her in the mouth.
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  • C6091C6091 member
    As a rider myself. I would play it safe and listen to the doctors lol. Too risky of a bump or a fall. I'm 10 weeks and my partners little sister who is 14 insists I have a bump and I'm a fatty. I try to explain it's a bloat but she doesn't understand the concept she feels my tummy and always says yeah your fat. I take it lightheartedly. She is after all only 14 :)
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  • paintdadantapaintdadanta member
    Hmm, to each to their own. Apparently bumpies don't agree with riding but my OBs have all said it's fine and that your balance should determine your riding capability as you progress. I stay off my unpredictable one, but had a nice two hour gallop in open fields this morning with my mare. I won't continue running much longer but will certainly not quit riding until my ability or doctor say otherwise . . . but everyone has their own opinion.
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  • megronmegron member
    edited November 2014
    I'm a highly skilled recently top 25 ranked in show jumping and eventing, I just won't risk it.

    However, I'm generally working with horses that are purposely kept hot for the sake of being able to complete full Olympic level courses. I wouldn't want anyone on hot elite horses at any stage of pregnancy because, since you're apparently very skilled, you understand that the risk for injury exists even with the most skilled Olympians.

    I err on the side of caution anyway and realize as a former career equestrian that even a trail ride on a quiet horse can go awry. I myself would not ride a quad or go
    Snowboarding either, because of anything did happen doing something that is a risk I don't *need* to take I would never forgive myself.

    That being said, in the example I gave of my cousin being an idiot, her doctor did tell her specifically not to ride and she chose to go trail blazing for nine hours.. That is fucking stupid.

    In any case, I don't think either of us mention our riding ability as a reason for not riding... I had quite a lucrative professional career before I took ill, I just personally wouldn't risk it.

    I also don't really think it's an obgyns place to say that your balance is the determining factor in being able to ride- are these obgyn/ professional riders? It seems risky not to mention the glaringly obvious risks associated with any sport, especially one where you're mounted on something with a mind of its own. The professional riders I am close with, medalists from the usa, Ireland and Denmark all stopped riding or recommend that women stop riding at conception because of the risk for an accident and I'm pretty sure they have excellent balance.
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    caseycruz02 said:
    My 21 year old sister just informed me that I should feel just normal cause at 9 weeks I'm barely pregnant. When I asked her what the fuck she meant she told me this. That I'm barely pregnant because I could still get an abortion and that my body must not be going threw that many changes if you can still get ride of a baby. Now this baby was planned and is very much wanted. I know she's just young and dumb but holy hell. I almost dropped kicked her face. She also told me that my losing as twin was Gods way of telling me that I would have been a horrible mother to twins so he eliminated one to even the field out. Oh lord, please help me.
    WOW. I would have broken that bitches nose. 

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    Right? Homegirl deserves some kind of self control award!
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    crikit83 said:

    I remember my cousin showing up at a family picnic with her four month old. She had no diapers, no extra clothing, and no bottles so she was trying to feed the baby a piece of cheeseburger. Mom of the year.

    Hahahaha, omg the cheeseburger thing, just... Such ridiculous perfection.

    One of my cousins decided to change her three month old at our grandfather's funeral.. During the viewing.. On the floor.... In front of the casket. Even better, there was a baby changing station in the rest room.
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    megron said:
    I remember my cousin showing up at a family picnic with her four month old. She had no diapers, no extra clothing, and no bottles so she was trying to feed the baby a piece of cheeseburger. Mom of the year.
    Hahahaha, omg the cheeseburger thing, just... Such ridiculous perfection. One of my cousins decided to change her three month old at our grandfather's funeral.. During the viewing.. On the floor.... In front of the casket. Even better, there was a baby changing station in the rest room.
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  • megronmegron member
    edited November 2014
    Well, I guess if you can stay on for that you must be able to balance too.

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  • suzysurparissuzysurparis member
    I havent gone public so I havent gotten much stupid advice, but a lot of these are hilarious. The only thing that bothers me is the complete abstinence from drinking that is pushed in France. I keep explaining how I'll drink a one or two per week and I know my body's alcohol absorption, but they all act like I'm killing my kid. Then when I mention I've been taking folic acid supplements for months before getting pregnant (because you're supposed to start those early), other things about lifestyle and nutrition, and many of the other things about pregnancy that I've learned (like that statistic about women getting pregnant right after submitting applications for adoption, yeah, that's a completely bullshit myth), they usually shut up. But these are the same people that accept someone saying they're really sick because they ate too much sugary and fatty food, but the ten whiskies they had the night before were fine.
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    I've competed in rodeos since I was 6... Now 22 I do have a blood clotting disorder so am on a low dose blood thinner since I was 18. I stopped riding only bc my barrel mare can get hot, although will do anything I ask LOL and my gelding is green so no riding for this chick till baby is here...

    My bad advice was from a co-worker I'm a high risk pregnancy due to my blood clots and the fact that I'm AB- soy blood isn't dealing well with baby's any way co-worker said she didn't know why I was worried about lifting people (I'm a cna) bc she did it till the week before she dilivered and women use pregnancy to get out if work pissed her off.... I simply looked at her and asked if she had been high risk she laughed said no why LOL.... I said I AM! That's the difference here! That shut her up LOL
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