FFFC

groovysuvi · November 2014

I just told my BFF about my pregnancy yesterday. She freaked out, screamed a little, and was WAY more excited about it than I ever have been. I mean, I am super excited to have my first child, but boy did she make me feel inadequate.

babycarb · November 2014

ashtog said:

@babycarb I am the same way about telling my family.. we told my MIL and I told my sister and two close friends, but for some reason I am not at all excited to tell my parents. or the rest of my family. for me, I think it's because then it's even more real, and because we only lost Sawyer 6 months ago, I feel like everyone will be looking at me like I am a ticking time bomb throughout this pregnancy.. so I kind of want to keep it to myself. maybe how the celebrities do it? like Brangelina and the twins, where they just denied until she was like 9 mos along? lol

Ah yeah that makes a lot of sense. I don't blame you one bit! I would be even more hesitant to hell after going through something like that. I just can't imagine. Maybe once we tell them, it'll be surprisingly wonderful??!?!

beepity · November 2014

I prefer a generic avatar to one of a pregnant blump. Or a pee stick.

amc1087 · November 2014

chelseamb11 said:

amc1087 said:

chelseamb11 said:

cookiesandwine said:

amc1087 said:

Names where they've put a Y where an I is used traditionally (i.e. Lyndsey or Jayme) are common in my husband's family, and I just really don't get it.

The people worthy of flaming here are the parents of Lyndsey and Jayme.

This baby is Eryn if it's a girl.....
But I have good reasons, I promise!

I'm sure everyone has a good reason, I just don't get it!

Well my best friend in HS was Erin Lyn Lastname. She passed away. I wanted to combine her first and middle name to make Eryn to name my daughter after her.

Other people do it because it "looks pretty". That drives me crazy

Ok that's pretty good! I reserve my judgment for people who do it because it "looks pretty," as you say.

FSUNole31 · November 2014

One of my favorite parts of pregnancy is blaming my bad eating habits on the baby. When in reality I just really don't eat as well as I should. But not having to hide it as much is great. : $:\$ ">

catahoulatte · November 2014

beepity said:

I prefer a generic avatar to one of a pregnant blump. Or a pee stick.

OMG. The pictures of bloat crack me up. I laugh so hard every.time.

oneblessedmess · November 2014

I have another one. H is a junior, and his dad passed away several years ago, so if this baby is a boy he seriously wants me to consider giving him his name, so LO would be a III.

My confession is that I don't really like my husband's name. It suits him well enough but I don't want to give it to our child. I don't want to hurt his feelings so I've just been saying that I want LO to have his own name, but of course he's all "I grew up with the same name as my dad and it was fine!"

I'm hoping to get a compromise out of him by using his first name as LO's middle name but using a new first name. Or maybe it's a girl and the point is moot.

anfranklin2 · November 2014

vineheart137 said:
I have another one. H is a junior, and his dad passed away several years ago, so if this baby is a boy he seriously wants me to consider giving him his name, so LO would be a III.

My confession is that I don't really like my husband's name. It suits him well enough but I don't want to give it to our child. I don't want to hurt his feelings so I've just been saying that I want LO to have his own name, but of course he's all "I grew up with the same name as my dad and it was fine!"

I'm hoping to get a compromise out of him by using his first name as LO's middle name but using a new first name. Or maybe it's a girl and the point is moot.

My friend had the same issue and ended up going with her H's first name and she picked the middle name that the baby goes by. Now he realizes how shitty it will be every year when he has to correct the teacher about his name, but oh well.

Also, I can't read anything about moot points without thinking of

Chasity08 · November 2014

My RE told me today that she wants me to not exercise over the next 2-4 weeks until my ectopic watch is over and I acted like I was really bummed about it.....but I totally wasn't. My ass hasn't been to the gym since I got my positive test.

bosco213 · November 2014

Theusualmischief said:

vineheart137 said:

I have another one. H is a junior, and his dad passed away several years ago, so if this baby is a boy he seriously wants me to consider giving him his name, so LO would be a III. My confession is that I don't really like my husband's name. It suits him well enough but I don't want to give it to our child. I don't want to hurt his feelings so I've just been saying that I want LO to have his own name, but of course he's all "I grew up with the same name as my dad and it was fine!" I'm hoping to get a compromise out of him by using his first name as LO's middle name but using a new first name. Or maybe it's a girl and the point is moot.

Naming is the biggest issue DH and I have when it comes to the baby. We had a boy name picked out for #1 and thank God he was a boy cause the girl name didn't come to us.

This one is mostly us telling each other the ideas and the other shooting them down. Or for fun one of us says a name we hate that the other actually likes. It's tiring.

I'm really not looking forward to this. It's going to be impossible for us to agree on a boy name. I love a lot of girl names and he's not as picky about them but if it's a boy...god help us.

LadyAnnibal · November 2014

FFFC: Having to depend on my H is hard. I'm so use to being independant and busting my ass for everything that I get. I sometimes snap at him because it's hard for me to not provide for myself.

werehavingababy2233 · November 2014

I'm not going to see my inlaws for nine months so I don't have to hear how we are bad parents for having kids so close together. So I don't have to hear my sil say she will never be my kids aunts and never wants to see them/ talk to them. Or my mil saying that they can't afford any more grandchildren.

mrspark812 · November 2014

My FIL told his sister about our pregnancy who in turn told her daughter (my DH's cousin). Brittanie (his cousin) and I were pregnant with out first kids together and she is about 23 weeks pregnant right now so we are bump buddies again, which is exciting. But I am so peeved that my FIL has a big mouth! If I had wanted her to know then I would have told her myself. My SIL thinks he was just so excited he would have exploded if he didn't tell someone but still, it wasn't his surprise to tell. Especially since I am so excited about our Christmas card announcements. Oh and my SIL just informed me that with my DD apparently my MIL spilled the beans to one of her sisters. I love my in-laws, I am very lucky for that, but now I feel like we shouldn't have told them until we were ready to announce it to everyone else. I am trying to be understanding but I am super pissed off.

Edited to fix my preggo brain moment lol

RWPhoenix · November 2014

vineheart137 said:
I have another one. H is a junior, and his dad passed away several years ago, so if this baby is a boy he seriously wants me to consider giving him his name, so LO would be a III.

My confession is that I don't really like my husband's name. It suits him well enough but I don't want to give it to our child. I don't want to hurt his feelings so I've just been saying that I want LO to have his own name, but of course he's all "I grew up with the same name as my dad and it was fine!"

I'm hoping to get a compromise out of him by using his first name as LO's middle name but using a new first name. Or maybe it's a girl and the point is moot.

My H is a junior as well and has expressed interest in naming this LO after him (III). The problem is he has a dead common name and I don't want the LO to have the same problems that H has (flying is not fun with him). I tried suggesting his first name as a middle name but he made a face. Hoping I can convince him or that we have another girl. Lol

amc1087 · November 2014

mrspark812 said:

My FIL told his sister about our pregnancy who in turn told her daughter (my DH's cousin). Brittanie (his cousin) and I were pregnant with out first kids together and she is about 23 months pregnant right now so we are bump buddies again, which is exciting. But I am so peeved that my FIL has a big mouth! If I had wanted her to know then I would have told her myself. My SIL thinks he was just so excited he would have exploded if he didn't tell someone but still, it wasn't his surprise to tell. Especially since I am so excited about our Christmas card announcements. Oh and my SIL just informed me that with my DD apparently my MIL spilled the beans to one of her sisters. I love my in-laws, I am very lucky for that, but now I feel like we shouldn't have told them until we were ready to announce it to everyone else. I am trying to be understanding but I am super pissed off.

Is Brittanie an elephant?!

amc1087 · November 2014

Oooh another one!

My husband's middle name is a family name, his mother's maiden name. Let's say it's "Smith". His sister's middle name is also "Smith". Three of his cousins have the middle name "Smith". All of these cousin's kids have the middle name "Smith". Oh, and his two nephews have the middle name "Smith".

Our kids will not be given the middle name "Smith," because (A) I don't care for it and (B) I don't think it is fair that my husband's family get to be honored with both our babies' middle and last names. (To be fair, I did offer that I would give my kids the middle name "Smith" if they had my last name!)

My confession is that I am secretly super pumped about all the drama not giving our kids the middle name will create. (And it will DEFINITELY create drama.) His mom's side of the family is going to flip a gasket and I am just going to be cool as a cucumber.

mrspark812 · November 2014

amc1087 said:

mrspark812 said:

My FIL told his sister about our pregnancy who in turn told her daughter (my DH's cousin). Brittanie (his cousin) and I were pregnant with out first kids together and she is about 23 months pregnant right now so we are bump buddies again, which is exciting. But I am so peeved that my FIL has a big mouth! If I had wanted her to know then I would have told her myself. My SIL thinks he was just so excited he would have exploded if he didn't tell someone but still, it wasn't his surprise to tell. Especially since I am so excited about our Christmas card announcements. Oh and my SIL just informed me that with my DD apparently my MIL spilled the beans to one of her sisters. I love my in-laws, I am very lucky for that, but now I feel like we shouldn't have told them until we were ready to announce it to everyone else. I am trying to be understanding but I am super pissed off.

Is Brittanie an elephant?!

HAHA! Opps! No my brain just doesn't work any more these days! lol

Feegan · November 2014

I hate a pee stick for an avatar. We all know you're pregnant, that's why you're here.

bosco213 · November 2014

Theusualmischief said:

bosco213 said:

Theusualmischief said:

vineheart137 said:

I have another one. H is a junior, and his dad passed away several years ago, so if this baby is a boy he seriously wants me to consider giving him his name, so LO would be a III. My confession is that I don't really like my husband's name. It suits him well enough but I don't want to give it to our child. I don't want to hurt his feelings so I've just been saying that I want LO to have his own name, but of course he's all "I grew up with the same name as my dad and it was fine!" I'm hoping to get a compromise out of him by using his first name as LO's middle name but using a new first name. Or maybe it's a girl and the point is moot.

Naming is the biggest issue DH and I have when it comes to the baby. We had a boy name picked out for #1 and thank God he was a boy cause the girl name didn't come to us.

This one is mostly us telling each other the ideas and the other shooting them down. Or for fun one of us says a name we hate that the other actually likes. It's tiring.

I'm really not looking forward to this. It's going to be impossible for us to agree on a boy name. I love a lot of girl names and he's not as picky about them but if it's a boy...god help us.

So far it's just been humorous, but if we don't start nailing this down by anatomy scan things are going to get interesting.

Yeah, I'm waiting for the anatomy scan before we have to argue.

mamabearRDH · November 2014

My FFFC is that I don't want to tell my in-laws I'm pregnant. I'm still a little upset about some comments they made during my last pregnancy and how they have behaved since. My birthday was two weeks ago and they forgot it. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and in all fairness they've never forgotten it before. My husband has two brothers who aren't married or in serous relationships so they really only have one extra birthday to remember. I know it sounds immature and I'll get over it but I just kinda want to wait to tell them.

catahoulatte · November 2014

CALEO said:

Theusualmischief said:

So far it's just been humorous, but if we don't start nailing this down by anatomy scan things are going to get interesting.

Yeah, I'm waiting for the anatomy scan before we have to argue.
Ditto.

Me too. Though if DH ever said he wanted to name our son after him, I'd veto it. We get 50/50 say in this and I'm not interested so it's off the table. Done.

But yeah, DS wasn't named until after he was born. We went to the hospital with our top two and an emergency backup. I half hope this is a girl solely because the boy name battle will be rough.

thiscoffeechick · November 2014

chelseamb11 said:

amc1087 said:

chelseamb11 said:

cookiesandwine said:

amc1087 said:

Names where they've put a Y where an I is used traditionally (i.e. Lyndsey or Jayme) are common in my husband's family, and I just really don't get it.

The people worthy of flaming here are the parents of Lyndsey and Jayme.

This baby is Eryn if it's a girl.....
But I have good reasons, I promise!

I'm sure everyone has a good reason, I just don't get it!

Well my best friend in HS was Erin Lyn Lastname. She passed away. I wanted to combine her first and middle name to make Eryn to name my daughter after her.

Other people do it because it "looks pretty". That drives me crazy

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I think if I'm pregnant with a girl, I want to name her Azlyn. After Aslan from the Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe but I want to spell it that way so the pronunciation will be clear.
I dare not post this to the baby names board because I know they will flame the fuck out of me.

mamabearRDH · November 2014

3timemom said:

mamabearRDH said:
My FFFC is that I don't want to tell my in-laws I'm pregnant. I'm still a little upset about some comments they made during my last pregnancy and how they have behaved since. My birthday was two weeks ago and they forgot it. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and in all fairness they've never forgotten it before. My husband has two brothers who aren't married or in serous relationships so they really only have one extra birthday to remember. I know it sounds immature and I'll get over it but I just kinda want to wait to tell them.
My MIL sends my SIL her sons wives cards with a gift. I got a card last eat with no gift and this year I didn't get anything. I don't care for her anyways but that was the icing on the cake.

That awful! I'm sorry. My in laws are usually really great but I think having the first grand kid has brought up some weirdness that I didn't really expect. I feel like I'm the vessel that has delivered the long awaited baby but otherwise not that important. I know deep down it's not true. They do a good job of telling me and others what a good mom I am and how happy they are about me being there DIL. It just doesn't always feel like it. Sorry your in-laws suck.

dancingbelle · November 2014

@laurenneedscoffee I think that name sounds lovely!

dancingbelle · November 2014

I had a Sonic cheeseburger for lunch today. With tator tots...that had chili and cheese
$:\$ ">

SlurpeeLove · November 2014

As far as names, if this ends up being twins (vs single) of the same sex, I might have to go through the name argument all over again. We only agreed on one name per sex!

caymarks · November 2014

My mom keeps making comments about how my brand new niece is the perfect number of grand kids. (20) We have a large family with several half/step siblings. She makes comments that we all have enough kids and even though I know she doesn't mean it in a bad way I keep holding back.

My FFFC is that I'm nervous about telling her because as much as I know she'll love another grand baby these comments are making me hold back on telling her. And she has four kids of her own so why should we have to stop at 2?

caymarks · November 2014

3timemom said:

mamabearRDH said:
My FFFC is that I don't want to tell my in-laws I'm pregnant. I'm still a little upset about some comments they made during my last pregnancy and how they have behaved since. My birthday was two weeks ago and they forgot it. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and in all fairness they've never forgotten it before. My husband has two brothers who aren't married or in serous relationships so they really only have one extra birthday to remember. I know it sounds immature and I'll get over it but I just kinda want to wait to tell them.
My MIL sends my SIL her sons wives cards with a gift. I got a card last eat with no gift and this year I didn't get anything. I don't care for her anyways but that was the icing on the cake.

The last three Christmas' at my SMIL and FIL has been peachy. Cards that say "that gift we bought your back in May...it was your Christmas present

" and buying the same gift for all the males in the family except my DH and then trying to play it off like he wouldn't have wanted one anyway. I'm so hoping that DH holds to not going this year but it's highly unlikely.

RWPhoenix · November 2014

I finally pooped! But now the smell of my DH's decaf coffee is making me nauseous. Guess I can't win.

OrangeGirlie58421 · November 2014

I have a huge food baby today

That's all

babycarb · November 2014

Food baby, meet carb baby.

LadyAnnibal · November 2014

Well, I feel really spoiled now. My hubs said I could name the baby whether it's a boy or a girl so no arguing for me.

AlyssaJoy1210 · November 2014

babycarb said:
Most people are so excited to tell their parents about their pregnancies. This time, for whatever reason, I'm sort of dreading it! I just have really enjoyed having this whole secret CONTAINED. Once we tell our moms...as much as they promise they won't tell...I still know they will. I wasn't prepared for how protective I'd feel over this pregnancy. With our last one, we told them before the stick was dry. It's so strange.

I am the same way. I don't feel like telling anybody, and I kind of dread the holidays because I know the cat will probably be out of the bag and I don't really want it to.

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