So fucking tired of the political pissing match that is constantly going on. Someone always has to be putting their dick on the table while shouting, "Look how big it is!"
@SSFC2014 most of A's wardrobe consists of gifted clothing that I wouldn't pick out. But they're free clothes. It's a blessing to us and made the gift giver feel good. Win win.
@SSFC2014 most of A's wardrobe consists of gifted clothing that I wouldn't pick out. But they're free clothes. It's a blessing to us and made the gift giver feel good. Win win.
Oh I know. The romper is really cute but it's 100% organic cotton, all the tags on this thing say it, and I fear I wouldn't be able to get it clean after getting something on it.
Gorgeous. Well whenever you choose to let LO wear it will be a special day. Good luck!
Some random dude in an 18 wheeler honked at me when I was out taking Tes for a walk. Not sure if I should be flattered or not. I'm leaning toward not. I guess I'm a milf now.
A cold and lack of sleep are kicking my butt today. Hugs @windwithfingers hope things get resolved. I'm hoping DD will be good with DH tonight so I can get some rest.
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Wow, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I have no words, but you don't deserve this.
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Holy shit.
Yeah, WSS. Wtf?! Please tell me you aren't giving them anything!
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Holy shit.
Yeah, WSS. Wtf?! Please tell me you aren't giving them anything!
No I'm not giving them anything. I'm not sure his lawyer can force me to give them anything either. I don't know. This is really messed up.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Holy shit.
My thoughts exactly. Can you call them and just de-escalate things?
I tried. MIL is in DC at a conference and I can't reach her. I'm not really interested in calling FIL after that text so hopefully MIL gets back to me at some point.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Hugs @windwithfingers that's a tough situation to be in. I'm not sure what your thoughts are, but I would consider talking to a lawyer. For the possessions thing but also because some states have grandparents rights and it would be good to get out ahead of it especially if your FIL is already throwing the lawyer card around.
Thanks. I've done the grandparents rights search thing, looks like in IL it would be hard for them to make a case.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
@windwithfingers I hate this new drama for you! Hopefully peace is still an option. It sounds kind FILL was just biting at the chomp for a fight. Grief is so powerful.
Man. Things with ILs out of control. FIL sent me a text saying he called his lawyer to subpoena my hard drive (not sure why) and to tell me he wants all DH's stuff, including the engagement ring he gave me. I have a Twitter account that I keep locked, and he tried to get in and change the password 12 times. He also called me a bunch of names. So. That escalated quickly.
Uh wow. He needs to put down the phone and walk the fuck away. I know they're emotional but they need to recognize the monumentally hard situation that you navigate daily. They aren't the only people who lost something. I'm all pissed off for you! Hopefully he calms his tits and starts to see rationally before he alienates you.
So DH has a physiologist at work that they're required to meet with once a month and he mentioned to her that I told him I'm thinking i might want to be a SAHM. he reacted really weird and upset me when I told him. Well i guess she made him see how i may be feeling about it and he came home rambling to me about how mom is the best person to raise their kids and if that's what i want then that's what he wants me to do. Whoa, Mind. Blown.
So DH has a physiologist at work that they're required to meet with once a month and he mentioned to her that I told him I'm thinking i might want to be a SAHM. he reacted really weird and upset me when I told him. Well i guess she made him see how i may be feeling about it and he came home rambling to me about how mom is the best person to raise their kids and if that's what i want then that's what he wants me to do. Whoa, Mind. Blown.
It's crazy how sometimes someone else just has to suggest it. Like our DHs just don't want us to come up with it ourselves. (:|
So DH has a physiologist at work that they're required to meet with once a month and he mentioned to her that I told him I'm thinking i might want to be a SAHM. he reacted really weird and upset me when I told him. Well i guess she made him see how i may be feeling about it and he came home rambling to me about how mom is the best person to raise their kids and if that's what i want then that's what he wants me to do. Whoa, Mind. Blown.
It's crazy how sometimes someone else just has to suggest it. Like our DHs just don't want us to come up with it ourselves. (:|
I know! I was like wtf just happened?! He's so rational thinking he's like- beep boop beep! Your emotions don't compute!
@windwithfingers many T&P and awesome lawyers to help you! They don't have anyway to get into your house do they? Like do they know a garage code or anything? I would change everything.
So I just nursed on the floor of a handicap stall at the mall ( I just can't work up the nerve to nurse in public). THEN I found out they have a family lounge with private nursing areas..... On the bright side, I am totally down for a trip to the mall now. Planned or unplanned
@windwithfingers Did you taking off the ring set off this level of crazy, or has it been brewing? I'm surprised they're doing anything that could jeopardize them seeing their grandson. They can't be thinking rationally.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
@windwithfingers Did you taking off the ring set off this level of crazy, or has it been brewing? I'm surprised they're doing anything that could jeopardize them seeing their grandson. They can't be thinking rationally.
I think the ring set them off. I'm honestly not sure though. To the best of my knowledge, I haven't done anything differently. Why they're threatening lawyers, I don't know. They've also resisted counseling, which I think would help. Lots of unresolved feelings and anger.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Survived my first lone trip to the grocery store with both kids today. I've done target and the library and the nature center and restaurants and stuff, but for some reason grocery shopping with two seemed so intimidating to me.
Also, I was amused by the Christmas tree at the entrance, which has lights that flashed white and then bright colors. It made me think of our UO discussion from this week. The best of both decoration preferences all on one tree!
Kenzie has been a fussy monster all evening. She doesn't even cry, she just makes this horrible screechy "eehhhhh" noise at us over and over. And as usual, DH just tried for about two minutes to make her happy, then dumped her back on my lap. So after I again fail at making her happy, in frustration, I started making her annoying noise back at her.... Made DH so crazy in 30 seconds he came and took her back.
It really bugs me when people kiss my baby other than me and DH. Up until today my MIL is the only one who really does it and that really bugs me. But today I was out to lunch with a friend and she loves babies and worked in daycRe for years. She kissed LO a bunch. What's up with that?
Random note: some people are getting screwed over on love tits from me bc if they are at the bottom of the page and I hit next there is an error. I'm too tired to go back and re-tit ya, sorry ladies!
Kenzie has been a fussy monster all evening. She doesn't even cry, she just makes this horrible screechy "eehhhhh" noise at us over and over. And as usual, DH just tried for about two minutes to make her happy, then dumped her back on my lap. So after I again fail at making her happy, in frustration, I started making her annoying noise back at her.... Made DH so crazy in 30 seconds he came and took her back.
Now for a bubble bath
When DS does this, the "colic hold" works really well to calm him in 30 seconds or less. Google.
It really bugs me when people kiss my baby other than me and DH. Up until today my MIL is the only one who really does it and that really bugs me. But today I was out to lunch with a friend and she loves babies and worked in daycRe for years. She kissed LO a bunch. What's up with that?
Why does it bother you? Especially the grandmother thing... Of course a grandma kisses her grandchild. I don't get it.
Anyone have recommendations for where I can buy pants with feet? I looked at Target but they didn't have any. There are some super cute onesies I'd love to dress DS in, but he kicks off socks and they get lost when we're out, so I want to buy some footie pants! TIA
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Thanks for all the support, ladies. I just feel awful. No one will talk to me, SIL isn't answering her phone, MIL never called me back, and FIL emailed my dad demanding I change my name back to my maiden name (I was considering this already; we were married 5 weeks when DH died and I never got used to his name. But to have FIL demand I do it because he doesn't want me to share his name hurts). I just. I don't understand how taking off my rings sparked all this. There has to be more to it. I feel terribly for them because they lost their son, which I understand so much better now that I have DS. I'd never intentionally hurt them. They helped me so much in the early stages of grieving and throughout my pregnancy. I just don't get it. I wish they'd call me back.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
@scottysgirl77 Are you breastfeeding? If so, you may want your mom to keep LO nearby so that you can nurse just before your ultrasound and just before your mammogram (if they decide to do one). Empty breasts make those tests much easier to read.
Re: Friday Randoms
They are all tiny as hell.
@MonstoMommy ugh sorry your baby is so sick
So I just nursed on the floor of a handicap stall at the mall ( I just can't work up the nerve to nurse in public). THEN I found out they have a family lounge with private nursing areas.....
On the bright side, I am totally down for a trip to the mall now. Planned or unplanned
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
The joys of motherhood...
Also, I was amused by the Christmas tree at the entrance, which has lights that flashed white and then bright colors. It made me think of our UO discussion from this week. The best of both decoration preferences all on one tree!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
FX for you!!!