Pity party, waaahhhh!! Poor me.

Re: Pity party, waaahhhh!! Poor me.

• twinklymama member

  November 2014

  lotsofdotts said:

  @twinklymama He is a real ass. He has been talking to my daughter about losing weight and making healthy choices since she was 3. Even the pediatrician and counselor told him that she is at a healthy weight and to leave her alone, but he is obsessed because she isn't the size of a stick. 

  
  

  I had to vent and get over it because I know he is just trying to push my buttons and as my husband said, "You are full of hormones so your buttons are as large as the moon." I just hate that my ex can still make me this angry! Don't question my ability to be a good mom. Grrrr...

  My ex does the same shit. We have two daughters (ages 10 and 11) and one is stick thin and the other is perfectly healthy. He keeps mentioning that maybe they need to go to the gym before their Disney vacation so that they can "work off their bellies". It pisses me off. I'm trying not to make any mention of my own body insecurities (quite possibly HIS fault) so they don't pick up on them and here he is basically calling one of my precious daughters fat (nowhere near it, in fact)! I want to punch him, but that might make me look like the bad guy. And unfortunately, she is already hitting puberty and feeling awkward anyway and his asshole comments don't help.
  
  Love tit for commiseration.

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• nbad311 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  1.  I talked to my MIL on the phone today and she was being all whiny and asked me if a handful of my friends had RSVP'd to me instead of her for our shower (her RSVP-by date per the invites is tomorrow), and that she hates when people wait til the last minute.  She went on. and on. and on.  Because it's really hard to organize and throw your only son his first baby shower when you don't work/have a job.  And haven't a day in your 60-year life.  

  
  

  2.  As per the varying hormone ebbs and flows I'm sure, I'm back to hating my body all the time.  I have fat accumulating in brand new places, daily it seems.  The mental struggle goes down another bad path when I'm torn between "just get over it and feel fucking grateful already!" and "but, honestly, I feel completely disgusting and 110% unattractive to everyone, including myself".  I love that I can feel the baby's movements all the time now, and I don't even mind when strangers ask when I'm due (because I guess this means I look pregnant and not just overweight), but I don't love my bump.  Size large maternity dresses are not going to fit me much longer.  I had to buy largest size maternity stockings the other day.  I'm already 10 lbs heavier than DH.  All of these things pretty much make me feel like shit.  I am really looking forward to the challenge of losing this weight once DS is born, when I get into the swing of mother things, and my routine post-birth gets back to somewhat normal.  

  

   

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