Who wants to put their BBT down?

PinkCamino · November 2014

Morning ladies,

First, thank you so much for all your kind words about my thread last night about performance anxiety. It's a shitty situation to be in but it does make me feel way less alone knowing I'm not the only one dealing with it.

I know there are a few of us who are struggling with either performance anxiety from our partners or just generally anxious and stressed about charting and timing in general.

Is anyone interested in putting down their BBTs to take a break from it all? I was thinking that maybe those of us who are NTNP can use this thread to just monitor how not charting is going. It seems really easy to put down the BBT but when you already know to much, not knowing can perhaps make the crazy 100% worse.

If any other ladies are interested in doing this then we can use this thread to keep up with each other about where we are it with NTNP.

I'm not currently NTNP really because I'm still using the CBFM but i'm not temping and that's going to take a lot of trust at this point because i've become an obsessed control freak.

Who else is in?

PinkCamino · November 2014

medic7979 said:

I would consider it next cycle (which shouldn't be long). I'll probably still OPK though.

I'm using CBFM so that's the equivalent of OPKs.

PinkCamino · November 2014

HoldingOutHope said:

I'm totally in for putting down the BBT next cycle - especially after my disastrous temps this month!!

Let's do this.

Anyone can feel free to join as they reach CD1.

PinkCamino · November 2014

cavewmn said:

Since I just started I am not ready to take a break. But if it does end up stressing DH...well then I will have to stop.

It also makes me feel better knowing I am not alone. I am finally willing to admit my husband has DE(Delayed Ejaculation), but I don't think he is ready to take the therapy road yet.

((hugs))

Just as a piece of advice because I'm learning it the hard way. Don't let him know too much about FW. I think that's where I went wrong. My DH was on board to know EVERYTHING. He was so so so into knowing exactly what we needed to do and when. Unfortunately, it ended up creating this enormous problem for us.

PinkCamino · November 2014

medic7979 said:

Are you going to post a separate thread or check-in? Or should we follow on this thread?

I think this thread is the perfect place for it!

megrae12 · November 2014

I will prolly join y'all next cycle. I am really using this cycle to figure out what my body is doing off meds. I will be stalking checking in you ladies, though.

PinkCamino · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

I'm NTNP! I can't temp, it gives me horrible anxiety. And the month I temped, had perfect timing, a beautiful chart, and still didn't get pregnant? It was so hard. So now I check CM, sometimes use OPKs, and try to seduce my husband at strategic times. I love this check in. :-)

yay! I've got a buddy.

:x

mflowers929 · November 2014

I've got to sit this cycle out anyways, so might be a good time to put down the thermometer and back away from FF.

BookishMomma · November 2014

I'm in. My DH made me put down the BBT months ago due to my anxiety and obsessing. Not planning to pick it up again anytime soon, especially since we aren't sure yet what our next step will be.

ctk181 · November 2014

@PinkCamino - I'm in!! Thank you! I will def need the support because I too am a complete control freak but this temping is making me even more crazy and my H crazier!

Nikolie93 · November 2014

Is it bad that I just started temping and I am already thinking about stopping?

I am truly afraid that temping/charting will make me a whole new level of crazy. Which in turn will impact MH and that is something I don't want to do.

Best wishes to all of those that are stepping away!

PinkCamino · November 2014

heartbot said:

I've already stopped temping, at least for this cycle. I don't sleep as well when I'm temping, because I'm always worried about waking up at the right time, and I think the sleep disturbances are affecting my health. I've been sick so many times the last few months. I'm not sure about next cycle, yet, though. At the very least, I know I'll do OPKs. I'm not really ready to go 100% NTNP.

I don't think I'd be ready to stop everything at this point despite the fact I O pretty consistently. I'm not ready to give up all control although I do think that putting down the BBT will help a ton. At least the machine will just tell me high or peak and there wont be temps to analyze and scrutinize ya know?

PinkCamino · November 2014

Amybunny30 said:

My cycles are long and wonky and I just can't stop temping at this point. That being said once I confirm O, I stop because temping in the tww makes me more insane. I really wanted to pop in and offer you all huge hugs. I'm so sorry there are so many of us with this extra layer of stress on our ttcal journey. (((Great big hugs)))

Yeah longer cycles are difficult. Although, I think you would probably be able to get away with using OPKs

blackbird818 · November 2014

I haven't picked the BBT back up yet. But honestly for me with my irregular, never ending cycles it's more stressful not to temp. OPKs don't do me any good bc of PCOS so I'm kinda stuck.

I wish I could get away with not temping, but then I have to take a HPT monthly...and seeing negatives gets old :-<

PS I'm gonna have alot less stalking to do with all of you lovelies rebelling

williegsocks · November 2014

I put mine down after my D&C 35 days ago. I haven't missed it either. I began obsessing about it and over analyzing everything. I've put mine down and I won't be picking it up any time soon...so I'm in!

Rachaeleigh · November 2014

I'll join, at least for a little bit. I haven't temped in awhile but I won't be using opks either.
I'll find out Monday when ivf stuff will start, but I will at least be ntnp this month

I definitely want to just try and focus on some good non ttc sex with my husband

thegiantfam · November 2014

I'm in yes please times 100. I will probably use opks for a few days, but boy do I need a break from the bbt. Great idea for a thread @PinkCamino

ashlee113085 · November 2014

I am totally in! I noticed that I was going a bit crazy with my BBT and knowing too much. I wanted to get back into it, but my RE keeps telling me not to because it was just making me super stressed. I am NTNP for the foreseeable future because I just need a break. I am still using my CBFM as well, but that's pretty much it.

BethKate2 · November 2014

I need to. I'm doing monitored, medicated cycles at this point. There's no reason I should still be temping.

buggirl72 · November 2014

I'm in

Anyone that has been tracking my cycles knows that I quit temping awhile ago. I realized one morning that I was dreading the thought of taking my temp. At the point that it became work instead of a science experiment/gathering data, then it was time for me to stop. And since it's questionable whether I'm actually ovulating even when I get a temp shift . . .

I briefly considered starting back up but the idea of putting my BBT back on my nightstand

I'm with @Sterling13 - sex for the sake of sex ladies!

PinkCamino · November 2014

I'm 26-28 days.

negritosmami · November 2014

Never picked one up cause I know myself...id drive myself and hubby crazy!!started ntnp this cycle..pretty sure AF will be here on Monday so id love to participate in this thread!its NTNP for me for at least the next 5 months. Glad to be amongst others who will be doing the same!!! ☺

Rachaeleigh · November 2014

My cycles are usually 28 to 32 days on non medicated cycles
I haven't noticed much ewcm throughout the last year, but I do get fairly significant O pain amd used to get sore nipples right after O

PinkCamino · November 2014

Rachaeleigh said:

My cycles are usually 28 to 32 days on non medicated cycles I haven't noticed much ewcm throughout the last year, but I do get fairly significant O pain amd used to get sore nipples right after O

I've started to drink green tea to help increase EWCM. I used to get TONS - so much that I went to the doc thinking I had an infection. FUCK, I wish I had that problem again.

LittleMrsW · November 2014

I stopped charting a couple cycles ago. Honestly I got to the point where I was like, why bother. Last cycle, I didn't use OPK's and it was honestly a nice relief. It felt good to take a breather from all the madness that is TTC.

thegiantfam · November 2014

My cycle is usually dead on 28 days, O on CD 14. BUT I also have seen my CM plummet. I'll try green tea this cycle. I realized too that sometimes if I'm too focused on BBT, CM, CP, Opks, etc I actually neglect the more important things like...water and eating healthy. Excited for December cycle and chilling the f out.

ctk181 · November 2014

@Sterling13- I don't even know how long my cycles are anymore. Pre-loss they were almost always 28 days, maybe 27 every once in a while. My three post-loss cycles have been 31 days with an 11 day LP, 26 days with a 12 day LP and 24 days with an 11 day LP. I know everyone says post-loss cycles are wonky so I'm just trying to be patient but it is making me crazy! Which is why I will be stepping away from the BBT next cycle.

blackbird818 · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

So what kinds of cycles do you ladies have? Mine have been anywhere from picture perfect 28 days to 25 to 39. I usually get really obvious EWCM so I know what's going on, and my LP is 12 days by the book. At least it has been in the past. So due to the excessive EWCM I usually know exactly what's going on and NTNP is a bit of a joke despite the wonky cycles. How about you guys?

Yea my cycles are typically an-O and last 60+ days until I take Provera. :-q

I've only O'd 4 times on my own (no meds) in 2 years.

aswedishbee · November 2014

I would like to join the no BBT (but yes to CBFM) team! Last cycle for me was such a joke and after talking with my doc last week I have decided to stop temping. I didn't do it to get pregnant the first time so why add the anxiety of analyzing every point of a crazy sawtooth pattern to the turbulence of emotions already surrounding TTC??

purplehaze11 · November 2014

I'm in- I actually stopped tempting last cycle, and it was so freeing once I just stopped the crazy. Ironically, it seems like I finally had a regular (for me) cycle for the first time since my miscarriage, and of course I wasn't tempting lol. So I'm going to keep it going for another, may pick it up in the new year.

PinkCamino · November 2014

I inserted my first stick into my CBFM this morning and I'm at a high reading already. Based on what I've read I can get a high reading for more than 5 days which makes sense with my typical O pattern.

Dh has been really good so far this cycle so I'm hoping it keeps up.

How is everyone else holding up?

PinkCamino · November 2014

Greeneyes842 said:

Just lurking...I won't be temping this month either, but we're benched until we get test results/plan.
@pinkcamino FF actually has a button to record the CBFM under 'tests' then 'monitor' if you want to put it on your chart.

Yay! I didn't know that!!!

Rachaeleigh · November 2014

Morning, ladies

I just wanted to share a moment that I had with DH last night.
I recognize that he goes through this whole RPL/IF process just as much as me, even though sometimes it feels like I go through more. The one thing that I hate is that I'm not oblivious to what's going on with my body.
Big picture, I know that's a great thing but during times of ntnp, I have to actively change my thoughts about what cd it is, do we "need" to have sex, etc. It's just tiring.
I guess I just never realized that DH recognized that I go through that.
Last night he asked, "when will you O? Is it getting to be that time?"
I replied, "I don't really know, I was going to try and not focus on it this month"
DH: (side eyed me) "ok, but not focusing and being oblivious are different. I know that you are very in touch with your body, so what's going on down there?"

)

I know it's kind of silly, but I appreciated it!

PinkCamino · November 2014

Rachaeleigh said:

Morning, ladies I just wanted to share a moment that I had with DH last night. I recognize that he goes through this whole RPL/IF process just as much as me, even though sometimes it feels like I go through more. The one thing that I hate is that I'm not oblivious to what's going on with my body. Big picture, I know that's a great thing but during times of ntnp, I have to actively change my thoughts about what cd it is, do we "need" to have sex, etc. It's just tiring. I guess I just never realized that DH recognized that I go through that. Last night he asked, "when will you O? Is it getting to be that time?" I replied, "I don't really know, I was going to try and not focus on it this month" DH: (side eyed me) "ok, but not focusing and being oblivious are different. I know that you are very in touch with your body, so what's going on down there?" ) I know it's kind of silly, but I appreciated it!

I'm so glad you brought this up because Dh and I had a similar conversation over the weekend.

We were discussing our plan for this cycle and I told him how tired I was. I explained that charting and OPKs and all that good stuff was becoming an obsession and he looked at me perplexed. He then asked me how I'd know?? So I told him that it's pretty predictable so I would prefer to just see how it goes with this NTNP and go at it that way for once.

I feel so much guilt about what I've done to my poor husband. I created an enormous mess and I've made him into a man with anxiety about TTC. Clearly, that was never my intention but now that I see all damage it's so hard to not feel entirely responsible for it.

All that to say we agreed to work on fixing our own issues with intimacy. In all of this we've forgotten to have sex for the sake of having sex. EVERYTHING was focused on baby making and looking at it now it's just so so unhealthy.

Rachaeleigh · November 2014

PinkCamino said:

Rachaeleigh said:

Morning, ladies

I just wanted to share a moment that I had with DH last night.
I recognize that he goes through this whole RPL/IF process just as much as me, even though sometimes it feels like I go through more. The one thing that I hate is that I'm not oblivious to what's going on with my body.
Big picture, I know that's a great thing but during times of ntnp, I have to actively change my thoughts about what cd it is, do we "need" to have sex, etc. It's just tiring.
I guess I just never realized that DH recognized that I go through that.
Last night he asked, "when will you O? Is it getting to be that time?"
I replied, "I don't really know, I was going to try and not focus on it this month"
DH: (side eyed me) "ok, but not focusing and being oblivious are different. I know that you are very in touch with your body, so what's going on down there?"
)

I know it's kind of silly, but I appreciated it!

I'm so glad you brought this up because Dh and I had a similar conversation over the weekend.

We were discussing our plan for this cycle and I told him how tired I was. I explained that charting and OPKs and all that good stuff was becoming an obsession and he looked at me perplexed. He then asked me how I'd know?? So I told him that it's pretty predictable so I would prefer to just see how it goes with this NTNP and go at it that way for once.

I feel so much guilt about what I've done to my poor husband. I created an enormous mess and I've made him into a man with anxiety about TTC. Clearly, that was never my intention but now that I see all damage it's so hard to not feel entirely responsible for it.

All that to say we agreed to work on fixing our own issues with intimacy. In all of this we've forgotten to have sex for the sake of having sex. EVERYTHING was focused on baby making and looking at it now it's just so so unhealthy.

(((Hugs))) I completely understand. DH and I went to therapy earlier this year. Our main focus was our sexual relationship and working to grow in that area. I forget sometimes how much I adore him and are attracted to him, because I'm too busy worrying about lack of ewcm or some other shit

PinkCamino · November 2014

medic7979 said:

CD 1 today. My cycle of not temping begins NOW!!!!!

So sorry about CD1 but yay for putting down the BBT!

KellKeel · November 2014

I'm in! This is my first cycle post MMC so I'm ready to start TTC without stress. My cycles were previously 27 days but now, who knows?!

aswedishbee · November 2014

CD10, still no desire to temp and I feel so free!

Hope everyone had a nice Thanksgiving.

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