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  • ShebamommyShebamommy member
    Just my husband.  I just think the birth of our children such an intensely personal thing between me and my husband that I only want him there (and obviously medical personnel).  My Mom (and the other grandparents) can see the baby shortly after she's born.  


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  • SkrittensSkrittens member
    Just my H.  He knocked me up - so he has to participate through the entire process. My parents are far and not interested.  I would have my ILs there - but my H doesn't want them - he wants just the two of us.  This will likely be my MILs only biological grandchild so her only chance to be at a birth so maybe my H will change his mind.  She is good at keeping things under control and would like to give her the chance to see a grandchild be born if she wants - especially since my parents wont be there. 
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  • staceyponczekstaceyponczek member
    I think just DH. Our son has TGA and will be having open heart surgery after birth. My mom is 5 hours away and it's really hard to coordinate delivery with her time-off request for work and travel so she wi be coming to help while we are in NICU.
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  • JenLa21JenLa21 member
    Just my H. I feel like it's a special moment that just the 2 of us should share.
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  • courtneybellairecourtneybellaire member
    We're going with just my husband in the room. That is what we did last time and it worked out really well. I'm kind of a nut and didn't want anyone to know that I was in labor. My plan was to have my husband call everybody (my parents and sisters, and the in-laws) an hour or so AFTER the baby was born. Unfortunately, the beans were spilled a few hours before my son was born, but they all hung out in the waiting until he was born and we had a couple hours to ourselves. This time around we'll have my MIL watch my son while we're at the hosipital so everyone will know sooner than last time, but we'll make make sure that we have time just as our little family before introducing the new baby to the rest of the family. 
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  • kcbizmekcbizme member
    The plan is for my H and my mom to both be in the room. This is my mom's first biological grandchild and I want her to get to experience the miracle of childbirth. She had to have me by emergency cs and didn't get to have that experience since I'm her only child.

    My H is going to be my coach and I know he'll be amazing.
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  • 5280355852803558 member
    Just husband and maybe Sister in law. She has seen birth before, my husband will likely be in a corner puking from anxiety. My mom overreacts to anything medical and is a high strung person in general. I'm the opposite. I love her to death but in a painful situation she would drive me insane!! Plus i really don't want a group text going out every hour on the hour containing my dialation status. That happened with my sister last year then my whole family refused to leave when it came time for her to push. There was no time so she wound up having a kid with an extra 5 people in the room who she didn't ask for. I'm a private person. I've said no to everyone and plan on asking sister in law at the last minute.
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  • salmphilsalmphil member
    My mom passed away when I was young. My DH will definitely be there, and since my MIL had all 3 of her boys at home, I wanted her to be there at my homebirth with my midwife care team. I wasn't always sure that's what I'd want, but my pregnancy has brought us closer and when I invited her to be there, her response was so beautiful - I don't think I've ever asked another human something that made them so emotional. I was always sad that my own mom would never be there, but now I'm just excited!!
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  • corysgirlscorysgirls member
    My mom passed when I was 18. I'm not sure what you believe in about the afterlife and whatnot, but it brings me great comfort in thinking that she got to know my kids before I did. Hugs to you- she will be with you in your heart.
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  • corysgirlscorysgirls member
    staceyponczek said:

    I think just DH. Our son has TGA and will be having open heart surgery after birth. My mom is 5 hours away and it's really hard to coordinate delivery with her time-off request for work and travel so she wi be coming to help while we are in NICU.


    We have a great heart moms group on FB. Quite a few with TGA babies. Good luck with everything!


    I forgot to add- we will have our birth photographer with us also. There is a few moments in life that if not captured on film, you'll never be able to get back. One of those is the moment you and your partner see and hold your baby. I cherish our photos that my sister, MIL or best friend has taken when our babies were born.
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  • salmphilsalmphil member
    corysgirls said:

    My mom passed when I was 18. I'm not sure what you believe in about the afterlife and whatnot, but it brings me great comfort in thinking that she got to know my kids before I did. Hugs to you- she will be with you in your heart.

    @corysgirls‌ that's a beautiful thought, thanks for sharing :)
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  • skootnshoot25skootnshoot25 member
    My H for sure. My mom has to fly halfway across the country so if I deliver on time she will be there but if I go into labor before she starts her trip, I have my aunt as a back up who I'm really close to and who's a nurse so I feel lucky to have a solid plan B even though I hope I don't have to use it.
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  • createmagic14createmagic14 member
    My h and my mom will be there. My mom and I are very close, and I'm afraid for my DH for how he'll handle seeing me in that much pain. I know my sister (30) wants to be, but I'm leaning toward no. DH is not really a fan of my sister's after she stole and sold my ADHD meds last year (she has some issues--depression, anxiety, eating disorder), so he'd rather not have her around during that time. MIL is bsc, so she's def not invited.

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  • JessS29JessS29 member
    It was DH and my mom when DD was born and I'm open to having her there again but it will likely depend on the plan for caring for my DD while at the hospital. My mom was neither particularly helpful nor not helpful (DH provided more of my labor support) but she isn't overbearing at all so it wasn't a burden having her there. I love that she got to experience the birth of her first grandchild.
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