What sex does youre SO hope the baby is?

jazdiaz · November 2014

What does your partner want the baby to be? My fiance says he wants a boy what about all the other daddys?

Bednarova · November 2014

DH doesn't care. I want another boy.

and you may want to change the word gender in your question to sex.

willowprincess · November 2014

DH wants a girl, because that would even us up.

thay33 · November 2014

DH wants a girl I want a boy but I'd be happy either way.

delujm0 · November 2014

It's our first and we eventually want one of each so it doesn't much matter...DH wants it to be a boy but we both think it's a girl (no scientific reason just our gut reactions).

MrsDee1982 · November 2014

DH wants one of each, but would love for our first to be a boy.

I think (my gut tells me) that it's a girl.

Time will tell!

pinkcallalily · November 2014

We are both hoping for a girl, but for purely practical reasons. Two kids will have to share a room and we would rather it be the two youngest rather than the oldest and youngest. Since our oldest is a boy and our 2nd is a girl, we are hoping for a girl to make things easier.

Our fourth bedroom is in the basement so it will be a long time before we let a kid move down there.

dlkje4792 · November 2014

DH wants a boy cause there are lots of girls right now in his family, but really just wants a child that's healthy and happy.

ahershe · November 2014

H is terrified of having a girl (with girls you have to worry about all the penises in the world, with boys you only have 1 to worry about). I like the idea of having a big brother to take care of little sister and this is our first so a boy would be nice. We'd be just as tickled either way!

KikiCohen · November 2014

ahershe said:

H is terrified of having a girl (with girls you have to worry about all the penises in the world, with boys you only have 1 to worry about). I like the idea of having a big brother to take care of little sister and this is our first so a boy would be nice. We'd be just as tickled either way!

OMG are we married to the same man??? That is literally what my DH says all the time!

Belle0720 · November 2014

Before my recent miscarriage H and I would both say that we wanted a girl. H would tell me that he was going to 'give me' a girl. With this pregnancy we're really both just hoping for a full-term, healthy baby, but he'll still say sometimes that he wants a girl for me. I guess he's just trying to put my 'wants' before his though because the other day his BIL asked us what sex we really wanted and after a little prodding my H actually said he'd love to have a son. It's the first time I've heard him say that so I was pretty surprised!

elbowpasta · November 2014

My husband refuses to acknowledge that this child might be a girl. It's always "him" and "he" and "what a good boy."

Personally, I want to start with a girl. I'll be tickled if we have a boy, I don't suppose at the end of the day it's really that important to me, just wanting my child to be happy and healthy..... I just want to shut my husband up!

asturgeon04 · November 2014

DH has somehow already managed to convince himself that we are having a boy. I don't really have a preference.

erbear84 · November 2014

My H is 100% convinced we're having a girl, which is what he's wanted.

Kelsyann2009 · November 2014

My husband definitely wants a boy! Lol he says that have cooler toys! He also said if it's a girl, he's putting her back!

KJKNAJ · November 2014

We both would like a boy because this is our last and we'd love to experience a son. I would bet big money that this is girl #3 though, I just know it.

KarasTwin · November 2014

My husband doesn't care, we would like to have one of each. He did say he just wished there was some way of knowing we're guaranteed a boy but we're planning on just 2 so we'll be happy with whatever we're blessed with. I think he does feel pressure from his dad because it's up to him and one cousin to "carry on the family name". FIL seems to think we're going to have kids till we have a boy. He also keeps trying to get me to say my dad wants a boy even though he could care less. Sorry, I know this was about SOs but he's driving me nuts and I think he's really making DH feel pressured. Anyone else going through a similar situation?

blu-eyedwife · November 2014

Mine wants a girl. He's worried about dealing with 2 of my son. Except, my son is a little me, so chances are we will end up with 2 crazies even if we have a girl.

MamaK818 · November 2014

DH wants another boy, although when i was pregnant with Ds he wanted a girl and then loved having a boy, so i'm pretty sure even if it is a girl he'll be excited about either way.

ksimo6 · November 2014

He says "just healthy" but I know he would love a boy.

katier29 · November 2014

DH wants a boy, but we will have more kids so it won't be too upsetting for him to get a baby girl which is what I'm hoping for

ohiodoxiemama08 · November 2014

A boy, absolutely. He's convinced already that it's a boy. I really would be happy either way. Not gonna lie, I really was hoping for a girl with DD, so I was thrilled. DH was a little shell shocked when he found out he was going to have a daughter. But now he loves her so much it's crazy and is just wrapped around her finger. I have no doubt he'd love another girl just the same, but he is a big outdoorsman (hunter and fisherman) and would love to share that with a son. Plus he has a brother, so he's very used to boys.

KonaCoffeeBean · November 2014

ahershe said:

H is terrified of having a girl (with girls you have to worry about all the penises in the world, with boys you only have 1 to worry about). I like the idea of having a big brother to take care of little sister and this is our first so a boy would be nice. We'd be just as tickled either way!

That's pretty sexist. Yuck.

Katerina&Baby · November 2014

DH says he doesn't care now that I'm actually pregnant but when our family was just hypothetical, he said he wanted a daughter - probably because he grew up with all girls (his mom's best friend has three daughters and she babysat DH all day while MIL was at work). I would slightly prefer a daughter just because my sister has a son so my parents would have one of each as a grandchild which would be fun for them but other than that, no preference.

mixnmatch372 · November 2014

My husband swears we are having a girl. My SIL has three boys, and he's determined that it's time for a girl in the family. He has made me want to have a girl, but our main concern is that our little nugget is born healthy!

mamabearMoni · November 2014

KarasTwin said:
My husband doesn't care, we would like to have one of each. He did say he just wished there was some way of knowing we're guaranteed a boy but we're planning on just 2 so we'll be happy with whatever we're blessed with. I think he does feel pressure from his dad because it's up to him and one cousin to "carry on the family name". FIL seems to think we're going to have kids till we have a boy. He also keeps trying to get me to say my dad wants a boy even though he could care less. Sorry, I know this was about SOs but he's driving me nuts and I think he's really making DH feel pressured. Anyone else going through a similar situation?

This. DH is desparately hoping this ends up being a boy, but I keep telling him we're having a girl ;;) don't want him to get his hopes up.

ahershe · November 2014

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beinfamous · November 2014

He wants a girl like me since we both have boys from previous marriages.

sassypants2010 · November 2014

Hubby wants a girl so we have one of each.

jazdiaz · November 2014

I find it so wierd that alot the husbands want girls i want a girl and i think that makes my fiance extremely nervous all of his family

honeybunches101 · November 2014

DH doesn't have a strong preference but I think he wants a girl. Our son is a handful. My ILs definitely want a girl and have mentioned it many many times. I would prefer another boy, but will be thrilled either way. I have a feeling it's a girl.

MrsCaliRN · November 2014

DH wants a little girl. I want a boy, hands down! Honestly, I feel like there's a boy in there

megron · November 2014

A boy so he doesn't have to ask for a shotgun for Christmas.

adorebel · November 2014

This is our first, so we'd be thrilled either way! Someday, I'd love to have a daughter, only because I never had a sister and I value my relationship with my mother so much. That said, sex might have very little to do with that, so I'm not fussed either way, especially with this first one!

No matter what, though, I hope we don't pressure a son to be "protective" of his sister, in the same way I don't want my husband to "worry about all the penises in the world," as @KonaCoffeeBean pointed out to a PP. One thing I love most about my father (and at least sometimes my older brother) is that he never "protected" me. He loved me, but in that love, he trusted me to make my own decisions about whom I was dating and stayed out of it. He loved that I spoke my mind and he never encouraged my brother or I to do separate "gendered" activities. This really became clear at our wedding, when his speech was about who I was and why my husband and I were such a wonderful fit, rather than a string of corny jokes about whether my H was "good enough" for his "princess," etc. Yuck.

effthisnoise · November 2014

My husband wants a boy. He's the oldest in his family and has a younger sister and he thinks that's "better" because it's what he knows. We want to have 3-4 kids, though, and it's funny because he said that if we were going to have all the kids be the same sex, he'd rather have all girls than all boys. I didn't want to tell him, "Wait until they're teenagers and all on their periods at the same time."

I feel like we're having a girl, but we'll see!

canadianbride24 · November 2014

We have a son who is almost four and obviously we just want a healthy baby but my husband would love a girl I want another boy. Girls scare me, really.

mccall35 · November 2014

effthisnoise said:
My husband wants a boy. He's the oldest in his family and has a younger sister and he thinks that's "better" because it's what he knows. We want to have 3-4 kids, though, and it's funny because he said that if we were going to have all the kids be the same sex, he'd rather have all girls than all boys. I didn't want to tell him, "Wait until they're teenagers and all on their periods at the same time."
I feel like we're having a girl, but we'll see!

Haha @effthisnoise‌ . I had to laugh at the "wait until their teenagers bit". I have 3 sisters and no brothers and we are all within 5 years. 4 girls under 5... Super adorable. 4 girls between the ages of 14-19...(plus a 40yr old mum) Raging hormonal nightmares! Looking back, I'm not sure how my poor dad made it out alive!

It's all good though, now that we're grown and live in our own houses

ahershe · November 2014

adorebel said:
This is our first, so we'd be thrilled either way! Someday, I'd love to have a daughter, only because I never had a sister and I value my relationship with my mother so much. That said, sex might have very little to do with that, so I'm not fussed either way, especially with this first one!

No matter what, though, I hope we don't pressure a son to be "protective" of his sister, in the same way I don't want my husband to "worry about all the penises in the world," as @KonaCoffeeBean pointed out to a PP. One thing I love most about my father (and at least sometimes my older brother) is that he never "protected" me. He loved me, but in that love, he trusted me to make my own decisions about whom I was dating and stayed out of it. He loved that I spoke my mind and he never encouraged my brother or I to do separate "gendered" activities. This really became clear at our wedding, when his speech was about who I was and why my husband and I were such a wonderful fit, rather than a string of corny jokes about whether my H was "good enough" for his "princess," etc. Yuck.

While I understand where you and @KonaCoffeeBean‌ are coming from, I think you have taken my all-in-good-fun comment out of proportion. I never said anything about pressuring a son to take care of his little sister. I didn't have a dad growing up and my brother was and still is a hateful and harmful person to my mom and I. It was just my mom and I growing up. I have so much respect for siblings that take care of each other because I never had that. So do I want my children to love and take care of each other? Yes! Is that sexist? No. Do I expect big brother to come out with a shotgun on little sister's first date? No. But I want my kids to have so much love for each other that they care about each other's decisions and help each other along the way. I didn't have that. And I didn't have a dad around either so I want something different for my children naturally.
Also, the penises JOKE is just that. A joke.

adorebel · November 2014

Totally sure it was a joke! Also totally sure that those are the kinds of fears that men joke about to their daughters that have real consequences for how girls feel about themselves later on - I think that's all we were saying. The way you describe your hopes for the love your children will have for each other and from you and your partner is really beautiful, though!

ChrisLipstick · November 2014

With my first we were both really convinced we were having a girl....wrong. This time I don't have any strong feelings either way. DH thinks/wants it to be a girl. I would like a girl for the balance.