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Announcement drama

nicunursetomommynicunursetomommy member
in May 2015 Moms
The only people that know right now are DH and my parents. We were planning to send an announcement out tomorrow in the mail to close family and annouce publicly on Thanksgiving.

Long story short, I asked my mom who I should mail the announcement to just to be nice. She started going off on me saying how rude it is to send announcements and not personally call. I told her I would follow up with phone calls with her mom and sister. She insists that I call BEFORE I send the announcement or I am extremely rude and will hurt feelings. (DH and I eloped so she likes to remind me how selfish I am).

My mom and I obviously do not have a good relationship and never have. She is a very judgemental person. She is also extremely pissed were finding out the sex.

Anyone else deal with family drama and announcing? It really isn't rude to send announcements in the mail, right?
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  • beebe918beebe918 member
    I personally do not think it's rude to send announcements, the sheer number of people you have to tell can be daunting and I think a fun little card would be exciting to receive.  I recently got an announcement from a friend and have it hanging on my fridge.  
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  • CoPilot2012CoPilot2012 member
    She had her pregnancy and made her choices for it.

    I think it's fair that you can do the same. Try to stay positive!

    I'll be sending out our Christmas card with something about us and baby on the way. I guess if my cousins etc haven't seen/talked to us or haven't heard through the grapevine by now then that's their announcement. But I think of it as a Christmas card...so....to each their own.
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  • LimaDLimaD member
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    I agree w/PPs, do your thing. it's not rude and it's not impersonal, especially if you are following up with a phone call!

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  • josimjosim member
    I guess I'm on the other side of the fence. I absolutely called or told our close family and friends in person. I think a mailed announcement is impersonal, particularly for family - I like it for announcing once the baby is here then at least everyone has a nice photo.

    Also--a mailed announcement to announce that I'm expecting would just seem...kind of weird to me. As a pp mentioned, maybe it's a regional thing.

    To each their own.
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  • Snapdragon750Snapdragon750 member
    I think it's strange to send a pregnancy announcement in the mail.  If there's someone I wasn't close enough to hear about it on the phone, I'd expect to just hear about it on FB or the grapevine.
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  • stephanieseestephaniesee member
    We're doing Christmas cards/pregnancy announcements as well. My dad and mil are both one of six with siblings all over the country. My dad was originally upset bc it wasn't personal enough (we're telling other sides of the families on thanksgiving in person) but what are we going to do? I don't want it to just go through the grapevine, we're all close... So this is our fun alternative. When he gave me that bit of attitude i ignored it (it pissed me of but I tried). Just do what you want to do. I don't want a fanfare but I want everyone in the loop.
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  • nicunursetomommynicunursetomommy member
    We did a fall announcement photo relating to Thanksgiving since we were planning to annouce at that time. My family is spread out across the entire country so that is why I was going to send the cute photo to annouce. I see these family members maybe once every 3-5 years so I thought it would be awkward to call them. Granted, I'm only sending 10 announcements. But I thought it would be polite to annouce to family instead of them finding out on Facebook. I was of course going to call the family members that are closer to me that I talk to more frequently.
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