18, getting pregnant, advice?

ToryKate · November 2014

NariaDreaming said:

soccermom11 said:

I think what most of us didn't take into account is that you say you have a lot inheritance an a lot of savings. Now if you are a wealthy trust fund kid, good for you! If your Daddy owns the company you have been working at since 14 and will just hire you after you are done having kids, good for you!

If she was a trust fund kid, she wouldn't feel the need to talk about "ALL HER MONEY" online to internet strangers. People who come from money usually have a bit more tact than that.

Anecdote time: My dad and 2 other guys started a consulting firm 20 years ago, it has done well, but it was at the most 4 employees, so not an empire by any means. Well my idiot younger sister posted on her FB profile "About Me" section "Heiress to [Dad's company name]". His business partner found it when he was Googling the company for SEO reasons and got a good laugh.

So now when I hear people brag about their inheritance I assume it is bull shit.

londonlea04 · November 2014

There are so many things that happen raising a child that you cant even imagine them all. Are you prepared to sacrifice that new shirt to make sure your kid has something? I know I wasnt prepared for that at 18 and I still struggle with that now. Once you have a baby it becomes about them and not you first.

GypsySoul1112 · November 2014

bibliothecary said:

londonlea04 said:

There are so many things that happen raising a child that you cant even imagine them all. Are you prepared to sacrifice that new shirt to make sure your kid has something? I know I wasnt prepared for that at 18 and I still struggle with that now. Once you have a baby it becomes about them and not you first.

Too late. She already introed on 1st tri. It's going quite well.

STUCK.

Oh perf! Can't wait to see this go down. Guess I know where I'll be lurking today.

SpartanChick88 · November 2014

I missed the part about the twins. This one is all sorts of fun - someone pass the popcorn please?

sweetmama101226 · November 2014

SAsgirl89 said:

Wtf, "get off the internet?" you are all on the internet.
Not that I have to justify my AGE to anybody, but I've been working part time since I was 14, I graduated LAST YEAR from high school with a great academic record, I know exactly what I want to do in life, and where I want to go to college. I would rather have a baby now, before I get tied up in my career. Secondly, I have sufficient savings, a lot of inheritance and lots of savings- I rarely spent any of my money. Next, my boyfriend has a good-paying full-time job, and a house and we both live in it. Fourth, I pay my own health insurance thankyou very much, I pay for my own gas, my own bills, etc. No, we are not married, but I don't think that's even relevant. Marriage doesn't mean a thing when you've been living together for years. I don't know why some women think pregnancy is reserved only for them, when they are older. Ridiculous. Don't assume I will be an incompetent mother because I haven't lived a long as all of you. Like I said @Traversity773, I know exactly what kind of career I have in mind. So don't imply that I want a baby just for kicks.

For years?? Since when? since you're 12 years old? DAM where are your parents sweetie????

) this is bullshit post! =;

JuneBugMommy627 · November 2014

SAsgirl89 said:

Wtf, "get off the internet?" you are all on the internet.
Not that I have to justify my AGE to anybody, but I've been working part time since I was 14, I graduated LAST YEAR from high school with a great academic record, I know exactly what I want to do in life, and where I want to go to college. I would rather have a baby now, before I get tied up in my career. Secondly, I have sufficient savings, a lot of inheritance and lots of savings- I rarely spent any of my money. Next, my boyfriend has a good-paying full-time job, and a house and we both live in it. Fourth, I pay my own health insurance thankyou very much, I pay for my own gas, my own bills, etc. No, we are not married, but I don't think that's even relevant. Marriage doesn't mean a thing when you've been living together for years. I don't know why some women think pregnancy is reserved only for them, when they are older. Ridiculous. Don't assume I will be an incompetent mother because I haven't lived a long as all of you. Like I said @Traversity773, I know exactly what kind of career I have in mind. So don't imply that I want a baby just for kicks.

I haven't read all of the replies so forgive me if this has already been said, but...

If you didn't feel like your age was relevant then why did you include it in your title?

okiemamaof2 · November 2014

MrsSept13 said:

runningmommy519 said:

icaughtfire said:

BeccaCope said:

I would suggest getting a puppy. Not nearly as hard as having a baby, but you get to see if you are up for the challenge of taking care of something else with your partner. Plus, it may satisfy the baby craving until you are truly ready...hopefully a few years down the road.

Because if you can handle a puppy, you'll be TOTES ready for a human being.

::eye roll::

Dogs and babies are definitely not the same. Not even close. That said, my husband and I learned in pre marital counseling back in the day that couples who care for an animal together for an extended period of time adjust better to parenthood. But...

The real issue here is that you are selling yourself short with this plan. I think anyone who's been there would tell you that their decision making was at least a little flawed at 18 and that the things you'll most likely experience in college, etc. will make you at least a slightly different person. (It's science! The prefrontal cortex is the last to mature at around 22 and it involves the control of impulses and decision-making.)

That's great that you have insurance and a place together. But you have your whole life to be a mom! What's the rush?

Edit: Phone is struggling today. Oy.

ashleymarie6269 · November 2014

Just want to add that I am no where near an expert on children, but I can tell you, without a doubt that having a puppy is no where near the same as having a child. I will say, however- getting an 8 week old puppy did teach DH and myself a lot about our relationship, and honestly made for some amazing memories and time to bond over something living and breathing. NOT the same as a child, but certainly a really great thing for many couples to build into their lives together.

cjd&k · November 2014

You're 18 asking about having a child with your boyfriend of 2 years. Did you expect everybody to be excepting of that? They aren't your family nor your friends. Your very first post was very immature to begin with. Do what YOU think is best if you didn't want to hear people's opinions anyways.

thycapa · November 2014

miaawallace said:
So in a jist:

Advice anyone?

Advice was given... and then...

This was awesome!

Because I don't think you could have summed it up more perfectly.

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llw42614 · November 2014

First tri is definitely entertaining today.. They love OP just as much as we did!!

& they are calling her out on her BS.. Apparently she can't get her timing right... Lying is so hard :-(

Not to mention she is even more rude than we thought!

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kamarks08 · November 2014

I literally have not accomplished one thing at work today because I'm too busy lurking between this post and her post on 1st Tri. Thanks OP. ;;)

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bl1210 · November 2014

kamarks08 said:

I literally have not accomplished one thing at work today because I'm too busy lurking between this post and her post on 1st Tri. Thanks OP. ;;)

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