NBR - holiday party dilemma, what would you do?

MrsPDX · November 2014

So I work in a professional office as a project manager. For our annual holiday/Christmas party this year, they decided to get suite tickets and cater dinner at a pro basketball game. I hate sports and so firstly I think this is a terrible idea for a holiday party! Also DH is gone so he can't join me, and I can't even drink... But my dad is a HUGE sports fan and I told this to my mom and she said I should invite my dad. The idea at first appalled me, who brings their dad to a holiday party?! But then who hosts holiday parties at pro sporting events? I know it would mean a lot to him, and he would have fun and enjoy the game, so now I'm torn....

I don't want it to seem childish or unprofessional since I am already the youngest in my office. There are two people a year older and the next oldest is 10 years older...

I would highly appreciate opinions.

Option A) don't go
Option

go alone or with a friend
Option C) go with dad

I'm between A and C... What do you guys think?

jil1210 · November 2014

Another vote for C, unless it seriously makes you feel uncomfortable. Sounds fun though!

Ryder0406 · November 2014

Def C. If your colleagues are big fans, I'm pretty sure they'd understand and even appreciate that you brought your dad who is also a fan.

stark01938209 · November 2014

C. It'll be fun... There's always a bunch of good food in the suites anyway... Enjoy spending some time with your dad. I'm sure he'll be over the moon.

Pintobean39 · November 2014

I vote C. We had my yearly office parties at a baseball game every year. There is a pool area in the back field and we had it catered. Everyone that had children could let them swim. There was fireworks after the game that was just an added bonus. We didn't do Christmas parties because it's gets crazy that time of year so we did ours in the summer.

I think having the parties at sporting events are an awesome idea. That way their is something to do if the party is boring as hell instead of standing around with your finger up your ass.

KER9171 · November 2014

I vote C too. I know how you feel about being the youngest but just explain your husband couldn't go and your dad is a huge sports fan! I'm sure everyone will think it's fine!

mpower0606 · November 2014

My vote is for C......it's just one night and if it would make your dad that happy I would just suck it up and go! Maybe you both will have some fun spending some quality time together

HSTeacherHeidi · November 2014

C!!!!

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sabriel1 · November 2014

Does you office allow you to bring someone other than a SO? Our office parties always allowed you to bring one guest but that guest had to be a SO and couldn't be a friend or family member (weird)

sthrncharmer · November 2014

I vote C. To me seeing your dad enjoy himself will be well worth it. Plus also the food is usually kickass. All the suites I went to had drive by sundae carts that you could pretty much put anything on and they don't judge you if you have more than one scoop of ice cream! I turn into a fat kid when sundae carts come around

MrsPDX · November 2014

Okay thank you ladies! I am inviting my dad. I think I just needed to hear from someone else that it was ok to bring my dad to something like this. I know other people who don't have dates are bringing friends, and so its not only SOs allowed. My dad has also never met anyone from my work, and has always wanted to, so I know he will enjoy this.

gsancho · November 2014

There's been people at my office who have brought parents or other relatives to events. Especially if they're outgoing, they become part of the office family by the end of the night. I think it will be fun.

chicagomomab · November 2014

I'm late chiming in so I think you've already made your decision but I've been one of the youngest people in my professional offices a lot and I would have NEVER thought to take a parent to a work party. What did the invitation say? Are you allowed to invite just anyone? I'm surprised that people can just invite friends. When we have holiday parties for work, you are allowed to bring spouse or SO but not just a friend (I guess you could if you were casually dating a friend? Or say you're dating a friend?) Anyway, just my opinion, but I think it's unprofessional to take your dad. Just my two cents.

ETA: I will add the caveat that it does depend on how professional your office is. I worked in a very large international law firm and this would have been very frowned upon. I now work in the legal department of a very large company and it also would be a no-go here.

lgsdesigner · November 2014

You want to go since it’s work-related, and you don’t want to look like non-social.
I would tell everyone you work with how excited you are to be bringing your dad to the holiday party “…Since he loves sports so much, and my husband can’t go…” just to prepare them for his arrival. Once they know WHY he is going, they will probably not really care as much, or not care at all.

Go and have fun!

cartersc · November 2014

I vote B. Bringing your dad as the youngest person in the office will make you look ridiculous (read: like a child). Even if everyone loves him, it will negatively impact their perception of you especially as a woman. You look like daddy's little girl. Not professional. I would strongly urge you to bring a sports fan friend or someone charming who likes parties and will be your sidekick--not bro down with the dudes.

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staccajaye · November 2014

lgsdesigner said:
You want to go since it’s work-related, and you don’t want to
look like non-social.

I would tell everyone you work with how excited you are to be bringing your dad
to the holiday party “…Since he loves sports so much, and my husband can’t go…”
just to prepare them for his arrival. Once they know WHY he is going, they will
probably not really care as much, or not care at all.

Go and have fun!

Exactly this!!! Don't be embarrassed, you SO cannot go and you know your dad will love it. Let them know how happy your dad is to be coming.
Also what dad doesn't love going to anything with their daughter, especially sports.
Have a lovely time

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Pintobean39 · November 2014

FWIW my office parties that were at the baseball games one girl brought her dad and she was in her mid 20's. Her dad is actually the one that caught a fly ball that almost landed in the pool on top of my sons head. We were a smaller company and everyone was very close so that wasn't odd at all. It really does depend on the company, if I worked at a large CPA firm this might not have gone over very well, but usually those types of jobs wouldn't have holiday/office parties at a baseball/basketball game in my opinion. I would think it would be at a banquet hall somewhere.

I also have friends that work at a larger bank and they have a rather large Christmas party. A few people that work there are single and bring friends and it's no big deal.

Really it all depends on the environment of your office.

brose1117 · November 2014

Definitely C. I would love to take my dad to something like this if my DH couldn't make it. I am the youngest person at my company and this would not make me feel uncomfortable or childish. I work for a smallish company and they know how important my family is to me. If anything, I think they would think its cool I'm bringing my super sports fan dad.

Poppy715 · November 2014

I think the pro game is an awesome idea. It beats a traditional sit around and do nothing party. Why wouldn't you take your dad? You H is gone and dad would love it. I don't see the problem here.

Poppy715 · November 2014

holly1416 said:

Does you office allow you to bring someone other than a SO? Our office parties always allowed you to bring one guest but that guest had to be a SO and couldn't be a friend or family member (weird)

That's a shitty rule. Sorry you are single, no plus 1 for you. Lame.

mp03jp · November 2014

Depends on your office of course. But an office that picks a sports game as it's holiday party shouldn't be so stuck up that dad can't come. So I'd bring dad.
That being said the girls that planned our high school reunion picked a baseball game. And nobody came. I had to lol at that. (Main girl that planned it also threw a fit she wasn't the senior year class president even more lol)

sarahchrismck · November 2014

Definitely bring your dad! Would probably be way more fun than going alone.

zbornak123 · November 2014

aww! take you dad! why cares what anyone thinks! its something you and your dad can remember forever - screw bill from accounting.

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