* UPDATED*WWYD?

miss2697 · November 2014

I guess this isn't really a WWYD, more of trying to gauge to see if this is a common occurrence. So today, I got home and got the mail. One of our highest credit bills, which we rarely use (it was for a large home repair) had some curious charges on it. Two different charges from okcupid.com totaling about 75. The charges were credited back a few days later. I asked my husband about it and he burst out laughing. He admitted it looked horrible, but he had nothing to do with those charges. He called the company on speaker in front of me. The man verified the charges came under a category of dating and escort services. WTF?! The company cancelled the card and filed it under fraud, but I still don't know what to think. I trust my husband, but that seems like such a random thing to happen. Maybe it's more common than I think...

So I have been in contact with someone from customer service for OKcupid. They verified that it indeed was a scammer and that person has been blacklisted from their site. I am so happy. I am going to give DH a big ole smooch when I get home. Thank you for all your advice and good thoughts!

miss2697 · November 2014

He called the credit company. We didn't call okcupid. The charges were from okcupid, and then returned from okcupid as well.

miss2697 · November 2014

His name is on that card, so I doubt they'll talk to me.

miss2697 · November 2014

I do trust him. I did see some complaints from various dating sites charging fees and then immediately returning them. I'm just trying to figure out how common that can be. Id theft is as scary to me as the dating site.

KikiCohen · November 2014

We would be having a come to Jesus talk.

Have you noticed suspicious charges on other cards or for places other than dating sites?

miss2697 · November 2014

No, up until about 2 months ago I handled all the bills. I always get the mail and he knows I open the bills so he really would be an idiot to charge that to a card.

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[Deleted User] · November 2014

Call okcupid and find out. Reverse image search all of his favorite pictures of himself.

If you really trust him - sign up for credit monitoring ASAP and keep an eye on all of your accounts.

LauraB1016 · November 2014

I would be having a chat with him.

My mom sadly has been having some identify theft issues and all her charges have been from cell phone companies, gas, store purchases.

A charge to a dating website would definitely be something to question further.

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[Deleted User] · November 2014

Oh FFS. This is fishy and you need to investigate it.

miss2697 · November 2014

Mamasighs said:

miss2697 said:
No, up until about 2 months ago I handled all the bills. I always get the mail and he knows I open the bills so he really would be an idiot to charge that to a card.
What changed two months ago?

I was really stressed out with work and money so I told him he needed to take over.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

miss2697 said:

Mamasighs said:

miss2697 said:
No, up until about 2 months ago I handled all the bills. I always get the mail and he knows I open the bills so he really would be an idiot to charge that to a card.
What changed two months ago?
I was really stressed out with work and money so I told him he needed to take over.

He was probably all like :-bd

[Deleted User] · November 2014

Make him get his credit report and make sure he doesn't have any open lines of credit that you don't know about. I would worry he used the wrong card and tried to remedy this situation by reversing ASAP. I guess you could get his credit report yourself since you know all his details, but that doesn't seem okay legally. Not sure though.

miss2697 · November 2014

So you said the charge would reapprove, how would that work if we just closed the account?

[Deleted User] · November 2014

Ok, that was bitchy. I'm sorry.

But... have you thought anymore about selling the house and looking for an apartment for two?

miss2697 · November 2014

We've just recently had credit reports done. I didn't see anything suspicious.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

miss2697 said:
We've just recently had credit reports done. I didn't see anything suspicious.

Less than two months ago?

[Deleted User] · November 2014

I just feel like with his track record that this isn't a mix up.

chiboo9 · November 2014

I'm sorry, that sounds so suspicious.

I think him bursting out in laughter over it is especially suspect.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

It's possible this isn't a mix up but is need to make sure. I really, really hope it's nothing. I don't think laughter is a normal response though. That seemed weird.

miss2697 · November 2014

It wasn't a new account, we've had it for over a year.

andrea0418 · November 2014

I'm sorry. It sounds fishy and I would be investigating further!

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miss2697 · November 2014

It says the whole site is free, so I'm not sure what the charge is for.

MRads · November 2014

I'm sorry but I'm team "this smells Haddocky." I would snoop, and while you're snooping, I would put away money in your own personal oh shit fund. It sounds like you might need it. And if you don't, you can treat yourself to a spa day with that money.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

Has he acted weird since? More loving and accommodating?

Guilty?

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miss2697 said:

It says the whole site is free, so I'm not sure what the charge is for.

Nope - not "A-list" plan.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

What was the exact amount of the charge just out of curiosity?

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[Deleted User] · November 2014

Yep. What @maryannespier‌ said.

miss2697 · November 2014

There was a 57.00 charge and then a 17.00 charge.

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mermomo5 said:

What was the exact amount of the charge just out of curiosity?
$75, I think.

I saw that but I can't figure out which plan one could get for that. The pricing seems to vary, but I can't come up with a plan that is $75 even with tax. Doesn't matter.