I posted in another thread about how my dad's been driving me nuts because he is so paranoid about DD choking that he is constantly telling DD to "chew good." Which he does so much that DD now thinks it's a game, and whenever he says that, she will STOP chewing, open her mouth, and then start giggling. And when I ask my dad to stop doing that because DD is already chewing fine and her reaction to him means asking her to chew is counterproductive to the goal of her not choking on her food, he ignores me and keeps saying it. Then he gets all butthurt over it when I explain that I am the parent, not him, and he needs to back off a bit. And he proceeds to do it all over again the next time we see him.
Well tonight we were out to dinner with the ILs and FIL kept tickling DD and otherwise deliberately making her laugh while she had a mouthful of food. When DH and I asked him multiple times to stop because we didn't want her to choke, he completely brushed us off and kept doing it anyway. Then immediately after dinner, when DD had a belly full of food, he was trying to roughhouse with her and was going to hold her upside down if we hadn't intervened. I can't even believe we had to tell him not to hold a toddler who'd JUST eaten upside down.
Maybe I've just been spoiled by the fact that my mom is super into making sure that she follows our rules when she watches DD so that she has consistency between my parents' house and ours, and she makes sure she doesn't overstep her bounds by trying to parent/discipline DD when we're right there... but I'm feeling super irritated with my dad and FIL right now. Like, I get that parents and grandparents aren't going to see eye to eye on everything, and often grandparents will want to be more or less permissive than parents and sometimes you just have to accept that if grandparents are babysitting... but to brazenly defy our requests to our faces, particularly when it's a matter of DD's safety? Ugh. It's all just leaving a very bad taste in my mouth. :-(
Sorry for the long-ass vent, but I needed to get it out of my system. :P And I can't decide whether the extent to which I'm irritated over this is actually justified, or if I'm just being a petty control freak. Or which is the bigger issue, the grandpas' lack of respect for our parenting authority to our faces when our child was present, or their lack of judgment on a safety issue.
Re: DD's grandfathers are going to drive me to drink!
But seriously, who the fuck tickles a child who has a mouthful of food? :-/
I mean, I'm not sure it matters too much anyway, because I have other reasons for not being comfortable with my dad or FIL being responsible for DD for any significant length of time. So at most I just feel disrespected by them, it's not like DD is likely (especially now that I know they'll disregard our wishes right to our faces) to be in a position where DH or I won't be there to intervene if the grandpas do something we're not comfortable with.
First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013
BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014