UO Thursday

catahoulatte · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:

I have no idea what a UO even is because I don't live on the internet using fake language. I thought this forum was for support from other pregnant women. I guess I was very wrong. I hope you ladies are more patient with your children...let's set a good example huh?

GBCB!!!!!

I totally live on the internet, guize. Actually, I do for my job. And once an hour I take a 5 minute break and pop on here or my personal email.

Edit to add- For serious. Don't bring my kid into this.

shannycakes6 · November 2014

I just don't think it's right to bash people for having concerns and being nervous.

beepity · November 2014

hoping&waiting12 said:

mistabinx said:

estamos_tomamos said:

I think one of my pregnancy symptoms is the growing desire to flame people who create new "OMG, I have no symptoms! Am I dyinggg? Help!!!" posts.

Is this normal? HELP.

I know there's tons of new people every day, most of whom are new to forums in general. But GD read the Welcome post/blog and FOLLOW DIRECTIONS.
I'm having trouble sounding nice on my replies at this point. I can only say "check out the symptoms thread!" so many times.

I would love to be more snarky in response to these posts, but I don't want to show my try bitch side just yet. Every time I read one of these posts, I'm spewing expletives in my head

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Just let it out honey

DB425 · November 2014

Cassiek90 said:

DB425 said:

JerseyML said:

Adwamsley said:

I think mine is definitely unpopular.... I can't stand how crazy people get over their "fur babies". They are pets! They are not people and they are nothing like babies. I think the fur baby Friday post on my last bmb was the only one I consistently refused to click on and everytime I saw it I got annoyed. Sorry but my crazy pregnancy hormones just had to get that off my chest.

It's not completely unpopular. I tend to agree. I understand they are part of the family and so many people see them as more than just a pet. But its gets a bit out of control. My cousin's German Shepherd died the day after Christmas in 2013. For the first four weeks his wife would post of FB how she was going to die w/o their lady in her life. After a month had passed she puts the month anniversary of the dog's death and she still can't live w/o her and every day its harder and harder to breathe and how she can't go on. I mean I get it..its sad but I think some people are wayyyyyy too dramatic about their "fur babies."

I will feel that way when my dog dies. She is my baby and I love her to peices. BUT I will not post it all over facebook like that. I hate oversharers like that on social media. I think some people are just wayyyyyyy too dramatic on facebook about everything.

My grandpa died last October and I have shared things on the one year anniversaries or holidays like old family pictures with a little thing about how we miss him and how excited he would have been at our wedding. I also shared pictures of my cat after she died and a picture of the little claw paw prints we had made. I didn't post a lot, but I seriously hope no one would be so callous as to call me sharing things in memory of my grandpa OR my cat "oversharing."

It's called an "Unfollow" button people.

Edit: quoted weird

I do not consider that oversharing. My dad died when I was 19 and I will make the occasion post on his birthday or the anniversary of his death. There is a difference between sharing and oversharing.

foodie12rn · November 2014

Cassiek90 said:

shannycakes6 said:

I have no idea what a UO even is because I don't live on the internet using fake language. I thought this forum was for support from other pregnant women. I guess I was very wrong. I hope you ladies are more patient with your children...let's set a good example huh?

Boom goes the dynamite!
OP, we are a community of women in different stages of pregnancy and loss who support each other. Part of being able to support each other is getting to know one another's likes/dislikes/quirks and being able to respectfully disagree with varying opinions. Maybe you should have lurked a little before you came out guns blazing. Kindly fuck off

petrichor14 · November 2014

I feel like there should be an alternate badge system. Instead of things like "10 posts" and "5 love its" it could be stuff like "10 people question your parenting ability (because of a post having nothing to do with parenting)" and "5 people feel sorry for your husband."

How do we make this happen?

shannycakes6 · November 2014

I'm sorry

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OctoberStars · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:
I have no idea what a UO even is because I don't live on the internet using fake language. I thought this forum was for support from other pregnant women. I guess I was very wrong. I hope you ladies are more patient with your children...let's set a good example huh?

Don't worry, our children will be fine because they will be able to follow simple directions, like "read this first." If you had been able to do that, you'd know what these acronyms are.

hjhmomma · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:

I just don't think it's right to bash people for having concerns and being nervous.

What the? I improperly posted a few days ago. Not one person "bashed" me. They gave me their opinion / advise, I followed it and moved on. What gets people "bashed" is when someone tries to give advise / suggestions to help the flow of the board and that person decides to be a sensitive a-hole about it.

Also, UO = Unpopular Opinion. I believe someone even blatantly wrote that out for you had you taken the time to read the comments here before posting.

foodie12rn · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:
I'm sorry ...

Hang around for a while and get to know us OP. We are a wonderful group of women. Try lurking and you'll get to know the culture of the board.

Also, post an intro so we can get to know you.

beepity · November 2014

UO: I have always loved going to the doctor. I'm so looking forward to all the visits for this pregnancy.

I realize this is due in part to the fact I have never had any serious health problems, and I'm very thankful for that.

aloha_mama · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:
I have no idea what a UO even is because I don't live on the internet using fake language. I thought this forum was for support from other pregnant women. I guess I was very wrong. I hope you ladies are more patient with your children...let's set a good example huh?

You don't know what a UO is, but you just posted one. So there's that.

And of course I'm more patient with my family than other people. I like my family a hell of a lot more than I like 99% of the human race. But I also don't let them run rampant and blow rainbows and glitter up people's asses to avoid hurting feelings. I also plan on teaching my child(ren) that they don't have to be friends with or hang around people they don't like.

Edit because I'm a grammar freak.

catahoulatte · November 2014

New UO (apparently in my circle of friends)- I like it when people have bumper stickers. Maybe this is my commuter self talking, but even if your bumper stickers are silly or weird, I enjoy humanizing people a bit and seeing some personality.

A few friends LOATHE them. I don't know why.

catahoulatte · November 2014

mistabinx said:

Plus, I cringe at the thought of trying to get all that sticky stuff off the paint some day.

Oh, yeah on paint is weird. I feel like 90% of the ones I see are on windows, and those come off with some Goo Gone in like 30 seconds.

lindylogana · November 2014

chelseamb11 said:

lindylogana said:

Drives me nuts when people post pictures of their kids/ babies and say things like "the most beautiful baby in the world". I'm sorry, your baby is cute, but so are a lot of babies.

But mine IS the most beautiful baby in the world!! You're an insensitive asshat if you don't agree. Obvs.

Haha love it! And I am clearly a total asshat

DB425 · November 2014

@Cassiek90 I didn't quote because it is getting too big and quotes are being weird anyway.

No I don't think its the distinction between dog and human at all. Really it wasn't even specifically related to death. I think it's the frequency of the posts. My initial response was in reference to someone posting frequently over the course of 4 weeks about their dog that died. I think at that point it just becomes about wanting attention. I know that they are free to post whatever they want, but I am also free to roll my eyes at their posts and complain about it on UO Thursday.

murph317 · November 2014

@catahoulatte‌ @hoping&waiting12 I'm with you. Been trying to contain my inner bitch for awhile and it's getting harder and harder each time I see ridiculous posts. It's almost time for me to unleash my inner beast. Don't say you haven't been warned!!!!!!!!!!! ~X( I've been a member of the bump since 2011 when I was pregnant with my son and moved onto a FB board once we all had our March 2012 babies. I may have never met any of them in real life, but consider them to be friends. They were there with me from the beginning to the end and still are today. We have groups that helped each other get back into shape, groups for Marchies that are expecting again and groups that already have had a second since our original BMB! They were snarky, honest, hilarious and never took themselves too seriously. So when I read posts from people saying that no one here cares about anyone and everyone is just a bully....it really pisses me the fuck off. BAHHH!!!! I need to stop now. FUCK I WANT WINE.

nellybellycat · November 2014

I'm a judger so I have several UO's (I've been dying for this thread!!)

Personally, I can't stand the Kardashian's but Kim is gorgeous and although the greasy butt was a bit too greasy for my taste, I have to say, if that was my body I'd walk around naked all day! She looked amazing-even if it was photoshopped.

Now for my own OU-I HATE fb baby announcements!! I find them so attention seeking!! I get people are excited and want to share that excitement but seriously, tone it down. Now, i'm a pretty private person and may be a bit extreme but I think having a child is a personal experience and not everything needs to be shared on social media. I also hate the term "mama bear".

nellybellycat · November 2014

also, all of my pregnancy symptoms have vanished and i'm wigging out..HELP!! B-)

murph317 · November 2014

@akibs81 I have to disagree with the FB baby announcements a tad. I have a ton of out of state family/friends and FB is the only way I'm able to stay in contact with them. So by posting a pregnancy announcement, I don't see it any different than posting updated pictures of my son. I don't look at is a way to grab attention, but to share exciting news with my friends and family near and far. However, that being said, I'm NOT one of those people that has 5000 "friends" and accepts any request and/or befriends people after knowing them for 3 seconds. My FB "friends" mainly consist of people I actually know in real life (aside from a few of my March 2012 Mama's from TB).

goofyteacher · November 2014

I'm already tired of the "queen bees" here hiding behind their screenname that seem to know everything. I've been around here as long or longer than most and it just gets old to see all of the "rules" and things you shouldn't be posting or where you should be posting it.

goofyteacher · November 2014

mistabinx said:

goofyteacher said:
I'm already tired of the "queen bees" here hiding behind their screenname that seem to know everything. I've been around here as long or longer than most and it just gets old to see all of the "rules" and things you shouldn't be posting or where you should be posting it.
If there were no rules... It would be anarchy. Anarchy! No srsly, there are no "queen bees" just people who don't like reading the same post 6 times in a row in 6 different threads. So yeah.

Or people who think they run the show, so yeah.

SlurpeeLove · November 2014

I totally disagree about the FB baby announcements, though I do hate oversharers. (Those two are not related)

I really hate when people sneeze. I usually don't say "bless you" or anything socially acceptable. In my mind, I'm judging the distance between us so I know if I should move back.

I mostly hate other people's kids. Not because they're kids, but because the parents are sometimes just ignoring a kid doing something heinous or inappropriate.

Oh! And I HATE those roller shoes. Any time I saw a kid on those, I wanted them to fall. One time they did, and it was glorious!

DB425 · November 2014

SlurpeeLove said:

I totally disagree about the FB baby announcements, though I do hate oversharers. (Those two are not related)

I really hate when people sneeze. I usually don't say "bless you" or anything socially acceptable. In my mind, I'm judging the distance between us so I know if I should move back.

I mostly hate other people's kids. Not because they're kids, but because the parents are sometimes just ignoring a kid doing something heinous or inappropriate.

Oh! And I HATE those roller shoes. Any time I saw a kid on those, I wanted them to fall. One time they did, and it was glorious!

I NEVER say bless you. I just think it's weird.

nellybellycat · November 2014

I told you it was an U/O..Maybe my hatred of fb announcements really stems from the fact that I hate the people making them (it's not jealousy about them being pregnant, it's them being obnoxious people in real life). Either way, now that i've said it, i'm not going to be a hypocrite and make one of my own.

murph317 · November 2014

@akibs81‌ I think some people are just attentions seekers in anything they post and a baby announcement is another way to say "look at me!" If we are hating on attention whores, then I'm with you 100% lady!!

shelbutler · November 2014

JerseyML said:

Adwamsley said:

I think mine is definitely unpopular....

I can't stand how crazy people get over their "fur babies". They are pets! They are not people and they are nothing like babies. I think the fur baby Friday post on my last bmb was the only one I consistently refused to click on and everytime I saw it I got annoyed.

Sorry but my crazy pregnancy hormones just had to get that off my chest.

It's not completely unpopular. I tend to agree. I understand they are part of the family and so many people see them as more than just a pet. But its gets a bit out of control. My cousin's German Shepherd died the day after Christmas in 2013. For the first four weeks his wife would post of FB how she was going to die w/o their lady in her life. After a month had passed she puts the month anniversary of the dog's death and she still can't live w/o her and every day its harder and harder to breathe and how she can't go on. I mean I get it..its sad but I think some people are wayyyyyy too dramatic about their "fur babies."

A very good friend of mine that is now having a healthy pregnancy miscarried two times before this one. When her SIL found out she said she compared te MC to the death of her dog. I'm all about pets, I love mine dearly, but are you fucking kidding me? How could you even rank a dog and a MC in the same realm of loss? That infuriates me!

nellybellycat · November 2014

I'm obsessed with my pets but I'm a vet tech so animals have been my life for years. I don't dress them or anything but they are my fur kids. I got a kitten for xmas when I was 8 years old and she lived to be 23-I was 30 at the time. I had to make the decision when her kidneys failed 3 years ago. It was awful. We literally grew up together. I miss her every day. I am very conscious to not compare my animals to peoples kids though because I get some people may be offended. This will be our 1st kiddo so we honestly don't have children to compare the feeling to. However if I were to lose this pregnancy, I don't think it would be as hard for me as loosing one of my pets. I haven't even had my 1st appt yet so I don't have a real connection. I get that may sound weird to others but that's why its the U/O board

goofyteacher · November 2014

wineandwalter said:

mistabinx said:

goofyteacher said:

mistabinx said:

goofyteacher said:
I'm already tired of the "queen bees" here hiding behind their screenname that seem to know everything. I've been around here as long or longer than most and it just gets old to see all of the "rules" and things you shouldn't be posting or where you should be posting it.
If there were no rules... It would be anarchy. Anarchy! No srsly, there are no "queen bees" just people who don't like reading the same post 6 times in a row in 6 different threads. So yeah.
Or people who think they run the show, so yeah.
And I'm pretty sure your for real name is not "goofyteacher" so you could be categorized as "hiding" behind a screen name as well if that's how you want to put it.
Screen names are for Internet safety, actually.
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Damnit. Wineandwalter II was my front runner. I mean it's totes unisex and trendy, right?

I get their purpose, again I've been around awhile. However, I think we all agree some things we say behind anonymity we wouldn't say face to face to someone. People just are not that rude in face to face or "real name" interactions. You can argue that's not true but the difference between the bump and the Facebook groups are night and day different and it's the same people.

goofyteacher · November 2014

mistabinx said:

I'm already tired of the "queen bees" here hiding behind their screenname that seem to know everything. I've been around here as long or longer than most and it just gets old to see all of the "rules" and things you shouldn't be posting or where you should be posting it.
If there were no rules... It would be anarchy. Anarchy! No srsly, there are no "queen bees" just people who don't like reading the same post 6 times in a row in 6 different threads. So yeah.
Or people who think they run the show, so yeah.
And I'm pretty sure your for real name is not "goofyteacher" so you could be categorized as "hiding" behind a screen name as well if that's how you want to put it. Screen names are for Internet safety, actually.

I understand the purpose of screen names. What I'm saying is the odds that you would act like this during a "face to face" encounter or one with your real name is slim. Every facebook group I'm a part of that stemmed from the bump/nest people are remarkably nicer on. So while the purpose is not to snark and provide anonymous screen names which make people feel more comfortable to be bitchy.

goofyteacher · November 2014

mistabinx said:

@goofyteacher‌ i can't speak for anyone else but I can honestly say that I don't say anything on here that I wouldn't say to someone's face. IRL i am brutally honest, that's just me. I've learned to tone it down a touch because I know not everyone can appreciate blunt honesty. But I still get my point across.

Sure and there will be some of those brutally honest people, but not to the extent that there on any forum with anonymity.

JerseyML · November 2014

So this irks the shit out of me. And this is more of an UO with in the fam.

Someone has exciting news. They of course say it to their parents and siblings first. Then to aunts, uncles and cousins etc. Maybe some close friends. THEN they decide to share the news when they are ready to the Social Media world. The thing that irks (i like this word a lot) me is when one of the people I mention above takes it upon themselves to share YOUR news on FB before you do. WHY?!?!?!?!

Chasity08 · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:

I have no idea what a UO even is because I don't live on the internet using fake language. I thought this forum was for support from other pregnant women. I guess I was very wrong. I hope you ladies are more patient with your children...let's set a good example huh?

Who ARE you? Go away. I'm too busy living my interesting internet life over here....

shannycakes6 · November 2014

No I'm not going away. I'm pregnant and hormonal and sensitive like the rest of you. A few people cannot police an entire group. I apologize if I offended anyone but I reacted that way because I was offended and made to feel like I shouldn't ask questions or post. Ignore me if you don't like me and I will do the same in the future.

Chasity08 · November 2014

shannycakes6 said:

No I'm not going away. I'm pregnant and hormonal and sensitive like the rest of you. A few people cannot police an entire group. I apologize if I offended anyone but I reacted that way because I was offended and made to feel like I shouldn't ask questions or post. Ignore me if you don't like me and I will do the same in the future.

What in the world are you talking about? Have you even intro'd on this board? Have you read the "READ ME FIRST" thread and lurked to even know what this board is about? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT A UO IS?

Because if you had...you wouldn't be offended right now.

Chasity08 · November 2014

My UO (well...maybe...it could be a popular one): People who make facebook pages for their babies. DEAR GOD WHY?! And then they have to tag the baby wherever they go together. Are you attempting to prove that you are with your child to the general population of the world? I mean...if I'm not at work I'm with my kid...so it just seems to be an assumption that if i'm not at work...she's with me. No need to "tag" her in a post. I also don't feel the need to write a post stating every single place I'm effing going. That shiz just drives me insane.

shannycakes6 · November 2014

I truly am sorry I have done an intro and I read the welcome and I feel bad for what I said earlier...I'm hoping that we can put this behind us and move forward this will be a long pregnancy and I know I will have questions and hope that I can help others.