Etiquette on invites

Re: Etiquette on invites

• neverblushed member

  November 2014

  I generally think that it's silly to invite people from OOT to a baby shower unless it's a sister or a really close friend.  It's a baby shower, not a wedding. 

  
  

  However, in your specific situation, you have been invited to these other women's showers despite the fact that you live too far away to travel to them.  The precedent has already been set by someone other than you. There have been hurt feelings over being excluded from showers in the past.  So in this particular case I think it's okay to invite anyone who you'd invite if they lived in town who has indicated that she really wants a "courtesy" invite.

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• sschwege member

  November 2014

  I think in a case such as this, it's more about trusting your instincts, you are probably better able to gauge what their reaction would be, positive/negative.  Since they extended the invitations to you, it's hard to imagine they would see you as being gift grabby  
  

  
  
  
  
  
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• Amstreagle member

  November 2014

  The only people invited that lived further away for my shower were guests that I was very close with (family I am very close with). Some decided to fly out after lo was born so they were able to see him rather than come solely for a shower and some made both trips.

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• Helenahhandbasket member

  November 2014

  I think if they would probably send you a gift anyway, it's ok to send the invite.

   

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• jaztastic member

  November 2014

  I would send the invite. I didnt have a lot of OOT guests on my suggestion list for my showers. And soooooo many family and friends reached out asking about shower details. I have friends and family coming to the DMV area from Canada, the Caribbean, and all up and down the east coast. You know your social circle best. Send the invite and let them decide if they can make it or not. 

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• JNCPro3130 member

  November 2014

  Thanks! I want to do everything correctly. I have read on here that it is the parent's responsibility to provide for their child and I agree with that wholeheartedly.  I appreciate your thoughts!

  
  

  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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