Baby Showers

Etiquette on invites

Hey, ladies! I've lurked on this board a lot. I've seen the rule that baby showers are not like weddings in the sense that you don't invite everyone, which makes perfect sense to me. If you don't mind, give me your opinions on my situation. I have a few cousins and a friend who are very far away and will definitely not be able to come to a baby shower. When they were pregnant, it was the same situation (I live far away, and could not make it, but I sent a gift). I don't want to appear gift grabby, but I'm not sure if I should invite them since they invited me to their shower. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by not including them when they included me. There were hurt feelings surrounding my wedding and bridal shower. With my pregnancy, I want things to be positive and people to feel included, but not taken advantage of. Does that make sense? Thanks for any thoughts you have!


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Re: Etiquette on invites

  • I think in a case such as this, it's more about trusting your instincts, you are probably better able to gauge what their reaction would be, positive/negative.  Since they extended the invitations to you, it's hard to imagine they would see you as being gift grabby :) 
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  • The only people invited that lived further away for my shower were guests that I was very close with (family I am very close with). Some decided to fly out after lo was born so they were able to see him rather than come solely for a shower and some made both trips.
  • I think if they would probably send you a gift anyway, it's ok to send the invite.


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    Lilypie - (TUWi)


  • I would send the invite. I didnt have a lot of OOT guests on my suggestion list for my showers. And soooooo many family and friends reached out asking about shower details. I have friends and family coming to the DMV area from Canada, the Caribbean, and all up and down the east coast. You know your social circle best. Send the invite and let them decide if they can make it or not. 
    Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
     Loss and IF veteran. Current mom of DS 5.5, DD 2, and sometimes DH 40. Due June 2021 with TWINS
  • Thanks! I want to do everything correctly. I have read on here that it is the parent's responsibility to provide for their child and I agree with that wholeheartedly.  I appreciate your thoughts!


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