Pregnant after IF

MIRACLES HAPPEN AFTER IVF

Hi Ladies, I'm new here. As part of my introduction, I MUST share this miracle with you all. On Oct 23rd I had an appt with my RE to discuss "next steps." The month prior I had an FET that did not take...2 months prior to that I had an FET that did take, yet ended. Anyhow...back to my story. Ironically...my RE brought it to my attention that the day I was there (oct 23) was ALSO the same day when I FIRST came to see him a year prior to begin my relationship with the clinic...WOW. But that's not it!! The synchronicity continues! The next steps I went to see him about was to do an IUI with donor sperm. My DH at the time when he first had his sperm analysis done came out low in all areas...low enough that it was recommended to go straight to IVF, plus ICSI. I ovulate regularly and have regular 28 day cycles...we talked and we decided together that this has been a long taxing (over a year journey)...and the goal is to have a baby so my DH was not thrilled but "ok" with the donor sperm decision. So the RE told me that I could do a natural cycle, told me how to order the sperm...gave me some diagnostic texts blood draw forms , (wanted to do my levels again FSH, AMH and CMV status neg/pos for donor matching) ...and then he asked me when my period was scheduled to come...I told him Wednesday the 29th of Oct (remember I'm very regular and always have 28-day cycles and I use an app on my phone that correlates with my cycle) anyhow...he told me to call when it came and come back for a baseline US and all. Wednesday came...no AF...Thursday came...no AF...Friday morning came...no AF...but ladies...I took a test and I'm pregnant naturally!! 1 year of trying...strategically TTC on ovulation days...and what the docs said COULD NOT happen AFTER one fresh IVF and 2 FET's...multiple hysterscopies etc AND was days away from ordering donor sperm for an IUI that would have taken place 14 days after my period...and we are pregnant naturally!! Took my beta hcg later on the morning of the 31st after racing to their office...I "guesstimate" since on my calendar I ovulated on the 15th that...implantation occurred approx 7 days later?? Which is approx the 22nd...so perhaps from the 31st I was 9-10 days past ovulation. My beta was 232. My RE called and was amazed. I did next beta on Tues. (4 days later) and it was 1856. My DH and I are ecstatic...there are no words really to describe these circumstances and synchronicity of this other than "miraculous." It is my wish that everyone reading this remains focused and see it happening! God has the final say...always believing in his miracles!! Today I'm 5 weeks and 4 days with a July 8th due date...feeling blessed!
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  • Congrats!!
    Me: 32, DH:33, Married: 8/30/2008, TTC since: 10/1/2012
    DX: Me - DOR & tubal issues, DH: none. 
    June 2004: Ectopic pregnancy with DH while dating
    October & November 2013: IUI #1 & 2 - BFN
    December 2013:Taking a break, trying on our own.
    January 2014: BFP!!!! Ectopic pregnancy ruptured at 6wks1day. Left Fallopian tube removed. Noted during surgery the right Fallopian tube is severely damaged from 2004 ectopic pregnancy.
    April 8 2014: IVF#1 w/ISCI: 10 received, 5 mature, 3 fertilized. Day 3 transfer of all three embies.
    April 22, 2014: BFP! beta #1: 80 beta #2: 211 One nugget! 
    January 6, 2015: Adeline Marguerite is here!!


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  • Congratulations!

    And just so everyone knows, she went to the Infertility Veterans board first to share this story. They, shockingly, were not as happy and inspired about her miracle as she expected.
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12479702/miracles-happen#latest

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    ***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'(  Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen.  => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! :) Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
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  • Congrats - a happy & healthy 9 months to you!

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    Me: 37, DH: 39, TTC 5 yrs

    2013 summary: Diagnosed with Hypothyroid; Cervical polyp removed (benign); 
    2 rounds ovidrel with timed intercourse (no result): 3 rounds IUI with clomid + ovidrel (no result)
    2014 summary (to date):
    IVF cycle 1 - ER: 4/17 (28 follicles, 3 fertilized, 2 survived to day 3);
    ET: 4/20 (3rd day, 2 embryos - 1 @ 6 cells & 1 @ 4 cells); Beta 5/1 - BFP!; 
    1st scan 5/13 - development behind, no heartbeat detected; D&C 6/2; WTF 6/13
    IVF cycle 2 - BCP begun 7/12; stims w/ HGH begun 7/26; 
    ER: 8/6, 12 follicles, 7 fertilized w/ ICSI; ET: 8/11, 3 blastocysts left, 2 transferred, 3rd arrested 8/12 - none to freeze :'(
    1st beta 8/19 - BFP! 294; 2nd beta 8/26 - 4976; 1st u/s 9/2; 2nd u/s 9/9 - two little heartbeats at 140 each!!! 
    EDD: 29-April-2015
    Other Meds: Synthroid 100 mcg/daily

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  • PS. She's not even reading these responses. Sigh.
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    ***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'(  Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen.  => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! :) Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
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  • gsanchogsancho member
    edited November 2014
    @Chasity08  You forgot to mention the all caps titles and the hijacking of your intro.  ;)

    But to be fair, she could just be clueless to board etiquette.  Lord knows I was clueless when I started on the boards.  I even got flamed a few times on The Knot.  Either way, I agree that a simple apology goes a long way.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
  • Haha. You're right. I'm probably just bitter ;-) kidding!! But I'm still calling troll... *side eye at OP*

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    March 2008 - DD born - no issues conceiving (surprise). Limited issues during pregnancy/delivery.
    June 2011 - Married DH.
    June 2013 - Diagnosis of Endometriosis and PCOS (approximate).
    December 2013 - First cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    January 2014 - 2nd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    February 2014 - 3rd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    March 2014 - Took month off to prep for surgery
    April 2014 - Laporoscopy for endo. Unable to remove endo due to too close of proximity to ureter. HSG done as well. Fillopian tubes open.
    May 2014 - 1st round of Femara. Positive OPK. BFN.
    June 2014 - 2nd round of Femara. Moved to RE to have CD10 Follicular U/S. No Follies in left ovary. 5 follies in right. Largest follie 8mm, 1 7mm, 2 3mm, 1 2mm. Positive OPK on day of U/S. BFN. DH has SA done at this time - All results within normal limits.
    July 2014 - 3rd round of Femara. CD10 Follicular U/S. No follies in left ovary. 7 follies in right. 1 20mm, 1 12mm, 1 10mm, 4 <5mm. Scheduled for IUI. Canceled due to low estrogen level of 145. TI this month. Prepping for Injectables next month. BFN.
    August 2014 - CD3 BW Normal. Injectables not happening because of stupid miscommunication about "required injectables class." Taking class this month. No medication. TI for the month. SIS scheduled for 8/7/14. SIS results - "I have a beautiful uterus." Huzzah!
    September 2014 - Cycle cancelled due to stupid AF coming early and making my IUI run in to DH's business trip. Try again next month.
    October 2014 - Injects with IUI cycle. 75U 5 days. Estrogen at 36. Bumped up to 125 for 4 days. Estrogen 105. Bumped up to 225. Ganirelix for 2 days. 4 mature follies. Triggered 10/9. IUI 10/10.
    BFP 10/24/2014. Beta #1 - 178   Beta #2 - 398.   U/S 11/7/14- TWINS!!!!

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  • @Chasity08‌ I think you're right!
    Married 2007
    3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs
    IVF #1 never made it to transfer
    On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin
    Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013
    Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
    Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
    OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
    On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
    Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
    Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!! 1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
    "You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it."
    -- Margaret Thatcher


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  • @pblge‌ ummmmm, think so!
    Married 2007
    3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs
    IVF #1 never made it to transfer
    On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin
    Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013
    Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
    Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
    OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
    On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
    Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
    Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!! 1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
    "You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it."
    -- Margaret Thatcher


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  • edited November 2014
    Again....so here it is my second day on the bump and I'm getting the same hateful comments?? I am NEW to these boards and sent the moderator (Nadia) a message in the "infertility veterans" board apologizing yesterday) I came to the bump very excited to share my news after tons of heartache as you women already know and found a board that I thought would like to hear me share an amazing story...did not read all the details about the group. The bump is set up different from other online forums so I had no idea my post would not be welcomed or I would have never posted it. Thanxx again for giving me the benefit of the doubt and making me feel horrible.
  • I've read all the responses from my phone. So much for inspiring others. I can tell nothing I write will be taken with the intent that I've meant from my heart...I've been called a Troll. Obviously you ladies are more familiar with the bump than I am. Trust and believe I'm a real person who has come a long way to get where I am. I write a story in a forum that I though "fit me" because I myself have been through IVF several times along with several surgeries. Instead my post was taken as an intrusion. It was my first day posting anything ladies...sadly, I'm getting accused of being insensitive when my intention was to reach out and introduce myself with my story.
  • Thank you for understanding...a lot going through my mind right now. Wanted to share my news with ladies who had been through IVF as I had...little did I know (my first day) that my post would not be received well. Now I know but it doesn't get rid of the fact that I was belittled and made to feel horrible after posting a story that would have even inspired me if I had read that from someone. Pregnancy is a miracle and I'm just confused as to why after I stated I was new that so many women threw so much hate toward me. I'm happy for anyone who gets even a little bit of "hope" along the infertility journey as it's painful and long. I wish everyone the best with not one bit of ill intention.
  • The screen name "Blessedbyababy". Seems wrong? Ok
  • I don't remember what everyone said, but weren't you one that told me to "just leave." So I did and I'm in this hew forum and am receiving the same negativity. My post was full of positivity though...someone simply telling me in a nice way that I had to be a member for 6 months would have made more sense than telling me that it wasn't the board for me (I simply looked at the name) as infertility was very familiar to me. Sorry for any confusion, not my intent. Be blessed.
  • The ladies on here might've taken to your story better if you'd posted on her during your journey and gotten to know people and supported them instead of just coming on here with this as your first post. Sure we're all happy for ladies who've been in similar shoes and find success, but these types of posts are usually welcome when you've been offering support instead of just randomly showing up with it. Good luck!

    MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012

    Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13

    Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13

    Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14

    IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4

    FET #1 -  6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586

     

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  • I'm not even sure where to begin. First, you hijacked @Chasity08's intro thread, which is just rude. Then, having spent 8 months on the IF board, where we constantly saw driveby's where people came by to announce their pregnancies who were never a part of the board - it's like a stab in the face. It doesn't give people over there hope that a "miracle" can happen. It just makes it more disappointing that they are still struggling. It's devastating every time it happens. Imagine that on a day that you suffered a loss or got a BFN. It's rough.

    If you'd like to be a part of our community, we'd be happy to have you. We are a very supportive group and we all know the struggles of IF and there are several people on this board who had surprise BFPs after several rounds of IF treatments. It's mostly tone and the way you did it that is upsetting. That's all. We don't know you and it's over the top.

    Join in some threads and get to know everyone. Be supportive. Give to get support. Then we can give a little bit to you.

    Otherwise, congrats and H&H 9 months to you. I know how hard it was to get here for all of us, so I truly wish you happiness if you don't stick around.

    Ok I can receive your comment, yet I'm not quite sure what you mean by hijacking someone's post?? I thought I just shared my story on the board, this site is very new for me. I do understand what you are saying about becoming familiar with people as I've done so in other communities...I'm the type of person to cheer someone on as people have done so for me. So yes...I get what you've said. Thank you for reaching out. This had been an emotional journey. All I want to be is a mother and for everyone else who shares that desire to see it happen for them as well.


  • The screen name "Blessedbyababy". Seems wrong? Ok

    Actually, your screen name is theblessingsofababy, not blessedbyababy, or don't trolls keep track of their screen names anymore?
    Well...you know how us trolls are...can't keep track of much, if it's all the same for you...I see you feel some kind of way about my screen name. Thanxx for sharing your opinion with a troll like myself...it means so much to my kind. Oh and I hope you are blessed with a baby and understand that your sarcasm is as ugly as a troll...

  • The ladies on here might've taken to your story better if you'd posted on her during your journey and gotten to know people and supported them instead of just coming on here with this as your first post. Sure we're all happy for ladies who've been in similar shoes and find success, but these types of posts are usually welcome when you've been offering support instead of just randomly showing up with it. Good luck!

    I agree and understand that now...thank you for being honest without being mean. Thank you and Good luck to you as well!!
  • kmc84 said:

    Who in the heck are you arguing with!?!?!

    I think it's time for you to just stop now. Seriously.

    Are you normally this angry...I wish you the best!
  • AMShark said:

    Congrats - a happy & healthy 9 months to you!

    THANK YOU!! Your words have made my night. I look forward to learning more about all of you ladies. Best wishes to you as well!

  • pblge said:

    Congratulations!

    And just so everyone knows, she went to the Infertility Veterans board first to share this story. They, shockingly, were not as happy and inspired about her miracle as she expected.
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12479702/miracles-happen#latest

    Hello and Thank you much...I'm learning as I go! Best wishes to you.

  • Congrats!!

    Hi and Thank you and I wish the best for you!!

  • gsanchogsancho member
    edited November 2014
    We are happy for those who struggle with IF and finally get their BFP. 
    I think we're just a little protective of the ladies on the IF Vet board, since we know a lot of them and in some cases are even related to them.  If you get where the misunderstanding came from and apologize, we can get to know you and it really is a great group on this board.  The Bump just has some board etiquette rules to help keep order and a tighter sense of community.  But if you don't feel comfortable, there are other sites.  Either way, congrats on your pregnancy and wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
  • gsancho said:

    We are happy for those who struggle with IF and finally get their BFP. 

    I think we're just a little protective of the ladies on the IF Vet board, since we know a lot of them and in some cases are even related to them.  If you get where the misunderstanding came from and apologize, we can get to know you and it really is a great group on this board.  The Bump just has some board etiquette rules to help keep order and a tighter sense of community.  But if you don't feel comfortable, there are other sites.  Either way, congrats on your pregnancy and wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months.
    I really appreciate you reaching out to me. Do I just go back to the sake thread and apologize...i mean on the post I created there? I do want to but wish to do it correctly. I'm slowly trying to navigate my way around this site as I'm new to it. I was very surprised by the responses, was not expecting that there. I know all to well about struggle myself so I wanted to share with others. Again thank you!

  • I really appreciate you reaching out to me. Do I just go back to the sake thread and apologize...i mean on the post I created there? I do want to but wish to do it correctly. I'm slowly trying to navigate my way around this site as I'm new to it. I was very surprised by the responses, was not expecting that there. I know all to well about struggle myself so I wanted to share with others. Again thank you!
    People may have different opinions, but I would just post on the original thread and say something similar to the bolded above (with an "I'm sorry" in there).  Nothing long and drawn out, because no need to revisit the issue...just to-the-point.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
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    I really appreciate you reaching out to me. Do I just go back to the sake thread and apologize...i mean on the post I created there? I do want to but wish to do it correctly. I'm slowly trying to navigate my way around this site as I'm new to it. I was very surprised by the responses, was not expecting that there. I know all to well about struggle myself so I wanted to share with others. Again thank you!


    People may have different opinions, but I would just post on the original thread and say something similar to the bolded above (with an "I'm sorry" in there).  Nothing long and drawn out, because no need to revisit the issue...just to-the-point.

    :) lol, read this too late...I wrote a short book. Thank you again





  • The screen name "Blessedbyababy". Seems wrong? Ok

    Actually, your screen name is theblessingsofababy, not blessedbyababy, or don't trolls keep track of their screen names anymore?
    Well...you know how us trolls are...can't keep track of much, if it's all the same for you...I see you feel some kind of way about my screen name. Thanxx for sharing your opinion with a troll like myself...it means so much to my kind. Oh and I hope you are blessed with a baby and understand that your sarcasm is as ugly as a troll...


    Actually, I have two after my own IF battle, but thanks for your "concern".  I wasn't on the IF boards while I was trying, but I do lurk there now and feel protective of those ladies.  Your post was rude and insensitive and I honestly can't figure out what in the world would drive someone to post something like this on boards where most of the women are WELL into their IVF journeys, and/or have experienced losses, and/or have exhausted every option trying to have a baby.  Did you really think your "miracle" story was going to get you accepted with open arms?  Did you think they'd go "gee, thanks, that's exactly what I wanted to hear after my negative beta draw today?"

    Honey, the only "ugly" post here (here being the IF boards) is yours.

    And yes, you do look stupid when you can't even get your own screen name correct.  Just syaing.


    Ok...thanxx!

  • It is spelled "thanks" - there are no x's

    And I don't know why you think your story should be inspirational rather than frustrating. I honestly can't imagine if you've gone through struggles yourself why you think others who are still struggling would want to hear about your miracle. I mean, good for you, that's what we all hoped for, but the reality is that while it does happen occasionally without medical intervention after pursuing fertility treatment, but it is incredibly rare. And it's that kind of one in a million fluke that perpetuate the myth that infertility coverage should be optional because we are all just impatient and seeking fertility treatment. And plus also, someone who is still struggling does not see someone else's one in a million miracle as an inspiration - it comes off as bragging, and it's incredibly cruel to rub your lucky success in the faces of those still struggling.

    Honestly, even as someone who got lucky with fertility treatment, I found your initial post to be offputting has it seemed rather condescending even to those of us who are also pregnant.

    Congratulations, I hope you have an easy pregnancy, but you might be better off creating a new screen even coming back if you want to post on these boards, with a hefty dose of humility and empathy. And a good spellcheck.

    Thanxx for being petty and pointing out that "thanks" is spelled that way. I do that on boards such as this not in a professional email, or professional written documentation... but thanxx anyway for pointing that out. From one woman to another...I've already apologized, in another board and have explained in detail in "Infertility Veterans" my error in judgment, so "thanxx" for continuing to judge me based on that initial post. Thank you for the congratulations and best wishes to you as well.
  • @theblessingsofababy  you have a PM, please read it.

    Thank you...I got it and replied.
  • Ducky719 said:

    Thank you for apologizing on the vets board. Runcc is my sister and i see that the two of you have exchanged posts.

    No...thank you for reaching out to me...have a blessed day @Ducky719‌
  • Ashris13 said:

    I think these girls have been MORE than nice to you when trying to tell you proper board etiquette and how to mend the road you have already built. I debated if I should say anything at all, but don't feel like I can let it go..

    So with that I'll say I'm not sure I'll ever take you seriously or even give genuine responses to you. You have hurt people that have been strong for me in my journey, who I have developed relationships with, people I still care (and stalk) regularly, and families I pray for daily. The IF community is like NO other on these forums. We are a tight knit group who have bonded over years of sorrow and sometimes we get to celebrate victories here in PGIF. I still squeal when I see and intro from one of "my girls" from IF.

    So to wrap up.. In my opinion you were not a member of the IF community, you got pregnant naturally, insulted and hurt people of this community, it is probably a good idea to become a member of your BMB board instead..

    And that's my opinion..

    @Ashris13‌ FYI...I've already apologized in "Infertility Veterans" if you care to read it, here it is below...be well and be blessed.

    Where do I begin? Forgive the short book I'm about to write. I'm going to start off by apologizing to the members in this area. Yesterday was my first day as "a member" of the bump and I was excited to become part of this online community. After looking through several "titles" of threads...I came across this one as I thought it fit a description of me and what I had been through based off the title alone (Infertility Veterans" I had not read the forum description as I should have to find out it was only for members who fit into a specific criteria. My intent was to introduce myself to other ladies who had been through some of the same things as I had. Over the course of a year I've been through numerous hysterscopies...doped up with estrogen, progesterone injections...fresh cycles, FET's...suffered a miscarriage after transferring 3 embryos...then a BFN 2 months ago. To have a natural BFP was miraculous to me. This journey is so hard as many of you have been at this and have gone through far MORE than me. It's painful. After hearing from several people, I understand that my post was not appropriate based on not knowing you all in the same respect that you all know eachother. There are so many threads on this site, I just posted like I thought others did when they want to introduce themselves before joining a group. I am a very supportive woman who thinks and feels from my heart...so blame my error in judgement on that and not my character. I want to see everyone who has struggled...or is still struggling to become a mother nothing but success. One of the most natural things in the world has become a bumpy road to walk for us. I will never take my experiences for granted. All the days I was so angry at people when I saw them blessed with children...the children I wanted. People asking me constantly "So when are you going to have a baby???" Little did they know what I was going through and how I cried inside each time I was asked...then came home and cried my eyes out to my DH. Only women dealing with IVF can understand another woman dealing with it. It's hard to be happy for others when one is dealing with their own issues...but I still found a way to congratulate others through my pain and finally a victory has happened in my life. I almost gave up. It has been through online communities such as the bump that I've been able to rant, rave, cry, and scream. I understand that you all are very close and I apologize for my intrusion. I hope you all understand I had no ill intent and just wanted to share some of my personal journey with you on my first day. I want you all to have the children you most certainly deserve. I STILL BELIEVE THAT WITH GOD AND FAITH THAT ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE...all things means "all things" that leaves nothing out. I wanted you all to know that pain can turn into complete joy overnight sometimes in ways that we least expect. Perhaps you will...but perhaps you won't accept my apology, yet in still, I meant well and I'm very sorry.
  • Most of the ladies on the IF boards have been through a lot together.  Sometimes, we can be very sensitive, and defensive, but we're also a great group that can be very supportive.  

    I have seen new members that start off on the wrong foot with their first post, but then stick around, and become part of the community.  My advice would be to stick around, and check out some posts to get a feel for the "flavor" of the board, then hop in when you have something to add.

    The IF Veterans board is a group of special ladies, some of whom have really been through the wringer - and I think a lot of the reaction you've gotten is a result of ladies being protective of IFV. But, in my experience, people around here don't really hold grudges.  

    I think we're all speaking more of the same language now, and if you want to, you shoudl be able to hang around here and join us.

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    Me: 37, DH: 39, TTC 5 yrs

    2013 summary: Diagnosed with Hypothyroid; Cervical polyp removed (benign); 
    2 rounds ovidrel with timed intercourse (no result): 3 rounds IUI with clomid + ovidrel (no result)
    2014 summary (to date):
    IVF cycle 1 - ER: 4/17 (28 follicles, 3 fertilized, 2 survived to day 3);
    ET: 4/20 (3rd day, 2 embryos - 1 @ 6 cells & 1 @ 4 cells); Beta 5/1 - BFP!; 
    1st scan 5/13 - development behind, no heartbeat detected; D&C 6/2; WTF 6/13
    IVF cycle 2 - BCP begun 7/12; stims w/ HGH begun 7/26; 
    ER: 8/6, 12 follicles, 7 fertilized w/ ICSI; ET: 8/11, 3 blastocysts left, 2 transferred, 3rd arrested 8/12 - none to freeze :'(
    1st beta 8/19 - BFP! 294; 2nd beta 8/26 - 4976; 1st u/s 9/2; 2nd u/s 9/9 - two little heartbeats at 140 each!!! 
    EDD: 29-April-2015
    Other Meds: Synthroid 100 mcg/daily

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