Wanting another so soon

Re: Wanting another so soon

• kristine618 member

  November 2014

  Linzr0723 said:

  I think what bugs me the most is at my daughters age (20 months) is because she is still dependent on us, I feel like I miss out on a lot of time with her while I take care of our son. My husband tries to help but I for one feed him, but also I am better at soothing him (and he is not the easiest baby), so usually it ends up me with our newborn and my daughter with my husband and I get jealous! She also is at a point where is such a character and learning so much I want to be right in the middle of it all with her, but can't always be.

  I feel this too.  Mine are 20 months apart, and when my first turned about 8 months I was already mourning her growing up so fast and antsy for another.  Plus, I'm 34 and didn't want to space them too far apart in case we wanted a third (which we're currently in our sleep deprived and somewhat house-bound state thinking we can no longer do).  Now that we've done it, I can say that I understand why most siblings seem to be about 3 years apart.  2u2 is tough - I feel like both are getting a little deprived of attention.  Maybe this is how it is no matter what age, but I am constantly having to let the baby cry so I can do something for my toddler that she can't do herself, and am resorting to a lot of television for toddler while I'm feeding the baby just to keep her safe and occupied in the same room with me.  I hate doing it, but haven't found a better way.  (DH works long hours and isn't around at all during the week to help with the kids).  That said, I wouldn't change a thing.  Good luck!

  

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