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Just a question (don't hate me)
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Re: Just a question (don't hate me)
OP... Get your shit sorted out before ranting on TB.
TTGP December Siggy Challenge
Married 9.28.13
DH 34, Me 26
TTC #1 since 9/2014
Benched 11/2014 for personal reasons
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
OP, from what you've said I don't think this was specifically a 'get him to stay' planned honey trap. But I do think it was probably, consciously or subconsciously, something that was there. Also, it had to sting like a motherfucker for you to go through losses and then him to go get someone else KU. I cannot imagine. So, I can also see it as you trying to prove that you can do it too. I can see that competition brewing beneath the surface. Again, don't think it was a conscious decision, but I just find it hard to believe that it didn't figure in at all.
I can see a person taking the OPKs for curiosity's sake (stretch, but I can see it). I can see someone falling back into bed with a soon to be ex when there are a lot of issues at play (and have seen it). But the confluence of those events leaves me with more than a little side-eye that this could be coincidental.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
I also think that when people are hurt and vulnerable, they can make very stupid decisions. I'm sure most of us have been there! In college, I found a girl in me boyfriend's closet (I thought that only happens on t.v). Yet, I ended up staying with him for a short time. I get it. I feel stupid when I think about it but it's a decision I made and I learned from it. If you choose to air your shit out there for everyone to see, you need to know that people will have their own opinions. It was a choice you made, you have to live with whatever happens and hopefully learn from it.
This includes the comment you made.
I do hope things work out for you. You are in a very shitty situation that I couldn't imagine being in your shoes. In the meantime, I would take the advice from @thewickedfairy and step away from the computer for now until you can get your emotions together. I'm sure this isn't making things better for you.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
TTC 10/2013
RE Help from 10/2014-10/2016 (11 failed IUIs, a corrective surgery, and a donor embryo cycle)
9/2016-transferred two donor embies
BFP 9/29/26 EDD June 11
Oh yeah, I am almost sure of it. And another equally drama filled post about it on 1st tri, looking for support for how she "accidentally" got KU by her soon-to-be EX.
I should lurk more
This is a lot of fuckery to come back to.
OP, I'm sorry for your losses and that you find yourself dealing with such a difficult situation.
*shrug* I was looking through your post history and I have to say your timeline just doesn't add up. You said you had an MRI scheduled for august 21st right after a possible septum diagnosis last May? I mean, your latest loss would have been conceived right around that time. As a women with ute problems I know for a fact that I was 100% benched during my testing and so I'm raising an eyebrow wondering why you would even try to conceive during that testing? Further, you say you've been working with an RE and your septum was visualized back in May but then it was remeasured and was apparently not a risk right? As a woman with a resected septum I raise an eyebrow because septums, regardless of their size are almost always removed. Septums cause losses - it's beyond me why you'd continue to TTC given even the possibility of that diagnosis. Oh and plusalso septums are rarely "measured" they are only visualized. (FYI a SIS isn't the gold standard for a diagnosis) Also, you may not remember your intro on TTCAL (my home board) but I actually was the poster recommending you get more testing. At the time when you introed a few months back you mentioned septum, acruate uterus and uterine scarring. I know no fucking RE or doctor that would give you the green light to continue TTC with the potential of any of those issues.
As for the rest, not sure what kind of support you're looking for here? You've been a member of this community for months so I'm pretty sure you knew how this thread would end up. Starting a thread about implantation bleeding IMO is the equivalent of asking "am I KTFU". Like symptom spotting it's nearly always speculation so I feel like you sort of made your bed here.
Like the rest, I'd bet cold hard cash that this turns into a BFP. I'm not 100% sure I buy the whole story just yet but I imagine the conclusion to this story is going to be a holy shit I'm KU guys type of post on the 1rst tri board. I'm keeping an eye out
Finally, as for the comments about mental illness - that was shameful. As a women who has suffered from depression on and off for years joking about wanting to take "xanax" or "needing a bed" is just gross. Would you joke about having infertility? I doubt it - so stop fucking joking and picking fun at people who suffer from depression and the like - mental illness is a real fucking illness and people like you (who works in the field apparently) making a mockery of it are half the reason why the subject is taboo.
You can obess over signs and symptoms but everyone is different and the signs and symptoms of pregnancy are the same for PMS and other things. Tests don't lie.
Also if you read the newbie thread you wouldn't have had to ask this.
30 - Waiting to TTC#2
PCOS -Fibroids -Type 1 Diabetes