How do you answer the ever present "How are you feeling?"

mfrqk6 · November 2014

People just love to ask pregnant women how they're feeling, right? Which is sweet and all, but how do you guys answer? I mean, by now we're all feeling some combination of swollen feet, heartburn, back pain, fatigue, BH contractions, rib pain...etc.

Do you guys answer honestly? Or give the old "I'm doing great" smiling lie?

erynpdx · November 2014

I generally say something along the lines of 'feeling tired and achy, but overall pretty good and excited to meet the baby!' Sort of a hybrid of 'fine' and the laundry list of complaints I COULD make.

RayRay007 · November 2014

I say "fine enough".

mlee116 · November 2014

I either say "Fine!" or "Like a refrigerator."

leoandethansmom · November 2014

Anna930 said:

I tell people that I'm feeling great - but I've been extremely fortunate to have minimal issues during this pregnancy - I prop my feet up to keep them from swelling while at work, heartburn only at night when I lay down and sleeping mostly through the night.

If I wasn't pregnant and felt the way I do now I'd probably be full of complaints but I am so insanely overjoyed and excited that none of this is getting to me and I honestly feel great.

...This is probably why I enjoy people asking me questions about my pregnancy - because I'm annoyingly bubbly and comfortable at this point!

I'm conflicted here. I know I really like you, but reading this kind of makes me hate you just a little bit.

(ok not really, I think that's the jealousy that I can't see through)

feeshah · November 2014

I answer with RBF
(resting bitch face)

RaeChay · November 2014

"Good, how are you?"

leoandethansmom · November 2014

Anna930 said:

@leosmom25 - LOVE MEEEEE!!!

No, Like I said, I have been SUPER fortunate with this pregnancy (which encourages me that I'd be happy to be pregnant again and will then be served what I deserve and have the most uncomfortable, sleepless, agonizing pregnancy next time).

I am reminded daily on here as to what others are enduring/smiling through and count my blessings.

Haha honestly you are such a positive person I bet you're subsquent pregnancies would be fantastic too! Some women are good at pregnancy, some aren't. I'm super jealous that you are!!!

P.S. I DO LOVE YOU.

mcr957 · November 2014

"Fine, and you?" Because 95% of these people don't really want to know how I'm feeling.

byrne15 · November 2014

I say "good" every single time.

Shortstack06 · November 2014

I am like @Anna930 I have had minimal issues, when someone asks how I am feeling especially a guy I have been saying "Huge". It makes them uncomfortable because they don't know how to respond and I get a sick enjoyment out of it.

leoandethansmom · November 2014

Oh and OP to answer your question, I usually say "pregnant." For women who can relate they just laugh and for men they get the point that I don't think they really want the answer to that question.

Sweetsix06 · November 2014

No one really cares, especially strangers. It's usually asked out of courtesy, so I just say "Great!" with a smile.

Heidig14 · November 2014

Depending on who it is, I usually just say, pregnant, I feel pregnant. @Shortstack06‌ I also love saying that I feel huge and making people uncomfortable. Why should I be the only uncomfortable one?

racheldiaries · November 2014

Fine or Good. There is no need to go into details.

Eora3 · November 2014

I usually say "huge". And then let them feel awkward for a long minute before adding, "but I only have a few weeks left so I am getting through it."

desertsun · November 2014

I don't mind that question. I usually just say, "Good!" because overall, I do feel pretty good at this point. I save my whining for my close friends or here.

I DO mind being asked when I'm due and hearing, "Wow" when I reply. I've stopped saying my actual due date and just say "December" now, because it sounds sooner. Although I'm sure that will soon lead to "You're still here? When is that baby coming out?" Really can't fucking win at this point.

AllTheTeaInChina · November 2014

Same as when I'm not pregnant. "I'm fine, how are you?"

cwbh928 · November 2014

Friends and people at work I usual lie and say doing good! My DH hears me complain all the time. If my family ask I usually tell them pretty good.

I do agree - I get more annoyed with the due date question! All the time I get asked, plus I am due the 27th so I either hear, "OMG Christmas baby, or New Years baby and even oh tax-write off"!!!! Really, Christmas is the 25th, New Years is the 1st - neither is the 27th. Also, the baby is tax friendly regardless of year he chooses to come! Plus I don't care about that!

TravelingCouple · November 2014

Anna930 said:

I tell people that I'm feeling great - but I've been extremely fortunate to have minimal issues during this pregnancy - I prop my feet up to keep them from swelling while at work, heartburn only at night when I lay down and sleeping mostly through the night.

If I wasn't pregnant and felt the way I do now I'd probably be full of complaints but I am so insanely overjoyed and excited that none of this is getting to me and I honestly feel great.

...This is probably why I enjoy people asking me questions about my pregnancy - because I'm annoyingly bubbly and comfortable at this point!

This. I really truly do feel great but when people ask and I say so, I get the side eye. They think I'm lying. But I also feel very fortunate and thankful to have had minimal symptoms during this pregnancy. Let's hope the next 50 days work out the same way..

NELSMD · November 2014

"Large, but good."

pinklepop · November 2014

I've been saying "Pretty tired, but overall I'm good." I get the "just waits" quite a bit though, so I love the idea of answering "I'm feeling pregnant" and maybe a polite little giggle. I think I'll start saying that!!

I second the hating of the due date question. I'm due the 22nd and I get the Christmas baby thing all the time. I really personally don't want him to come Christmas day, but I'll just be happy when he comes out to meet us! It's annoying that they comment at all...

kelsz12 · November 2014

My typical response is a short 'Fine.' With a smirk because really, pregnancy really isn't fine.

Serunatu · November 2014

Doing well! Yourself? Even when I'm not well. I don't want them to give me any advice or tell me to "just wait".

soulcupcake · November 2014

I usually just say "pretty good." I get heartburn occasionally, and my left hip gets sore during the night, but I feel pretty good. Minimal back pain thanks to regular chiro adjustments. I have a lot of pelvic pressure and BH, but they aren't too bothersome. No swelling at all.

mummbeardee · November 2014

I tell people I'm doing great but when I'm really not I'm a person who hides my feelings but other then thatb I'm super excited to be meeting my 2# little baby next week

nopegoat · November 2014

"Fine." or "Thankful it's almost time." if I am having a really really bad day.

hellopartyof5 · November 2014

It depends on the audience to be honest.

nolanova85 · November 2014

It pretty much depends on who is asking. Sometimes I just stick with the "I'm fine, how about you?" Sometimes I say something like "if he were ready, I'd be ready, but we have __ weeks left!" (This one is useful because it answers sex & due date question in one). If it's a good friend they get the truth - "Fat. Tired. Sober."

Either way, I don't mind being asked. Like others, I do sometimes shy away from saying actual due date. People always say something like "wow!" as PP noted and I don't know what they mean. Wow, it's so close? Wow, you're huge even though you have 1+ months left? WHAT DOES WOW MEAN? So I do hate that particular question.

LinziLoo09 · November 2014

Considering my slowed and pained waddle these days, I don't think I'd be fooling anyone with an "I'm fine". Most of the time I answer "I'm present" or "I showed up at least" (to work, class, etc) because I like to set a low bar, but this was usually my response before being pregnant as well.

To closer friends and family, I'm happy to give my laundry list of complaints. To be honest, I'm annoyed at every pregnant woman I've ever known for not telling me the 63,000 symptoms of pregnancy that no one ever mentions. I've been diligently warning all of my close friends of the terrors in store for them.

The comments I'm getting super annoyed with are strangers arguing with me about the baby's sex because she's apparently "too low to be a girl". Uuuuummm they call that dropping in late pregnancy. I'm pretty sure that multiple ultrasounds are more accurate than your old wives tale. thanksnothanks.

Nmcalhoun · November 2014

My biggest issue is I have painful varicose veins in and around my vagina. I don't particularly feel like divulging that information to coworkers so I just say "I'm fine".

vrae0606 · November 2014

Ya I just usually say "pretty good" or "good but you know the usual aches & pains of pregnancy" which the latter is more of the truth but not so much detail. I'd be talking forever if I actually told someone how I actually felt. Especially now with 5 weeks to go I am feeling like someone ran me over...back & forth several times. But I just keep telling myself only a little bit longer & I won't even remember being in pain every day because the end result is so worth it!

efgallarday · November 2014

I say "I feel round." Which shuts them up since it's awkward haha

bumpuser10617306 · November 2014

Nmcalhoun said:
My biggest issue is I have painful varicose veins in and around my vagina. I don't particularly feel like divulging that information to coworkers so I just say "I'm fine".

Lol. Please tell the next (preferably male) coworker that you are great except fro your "swollen, bulging, veiny labia, thanks for asking!" (Said cheerfully, of course

Like others, for me it depends on who is asking. Usually I stick with "pretty good", or "fat and tired" for close friends.

AlwaysForgetful · November 2014

"Good" or something like that mostly. UNless it is a few people. Only then do I state that I am pulling something or the pain/tiredness. Mainly because if I feel "Good" they will bombard me with the "why don't you do this and this" grr.... One replies "well this late in pregnancy yeah..." Shut up woman. Really. just shut up.

allitor12 · November 2014

Generally short and simple with a "fine"
Or "pretty good"
Little detail so they don't push it.

FoxiePM · November 2014

"Fat" or answer with the number of days until the section. I'm clearly over it! Plus I'm the biggest smart ass I know so why not?

snowbaby1214 · November 2014

Either "Fat." or "Pregnant." or "REALLY SUPER AWESOME! THANKS FOR ASKING!" with disgusting enthusiasm.

path75 · November 2014

I usually say "Not bad" or "Doing fine". Not really up for discussing my groin pain I have had since 21 weeks.

ThePregosaurus · November 2014

People ask it a lot post-pregnancy too. I see it as the nice way of asking how your vag is. I'm tempted to say "itchy" but "good" usually does the trick.

hollieandaaron2012 · November 2014

I'm good how are you? Which is normally followed by good but I'm not pregnant!

I have had a pretty easy pregnancy so far and I think my female coworkers are really taken aback by it. Sorry I don't have heartburn and have control of my bladder. They just want to hear me complain.

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