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PinkCamino · November 2014

PinkCamino · November 2014

I'll go first.

So BDing this cycle was rough on Dh. He psyched himself out early on because one night he was really tired and just couldn't get in the mood. Instead of chalking it up to being tired he started dwelling on it being him, him having a problem and on and on and on.

On one of the nights, I offered to give him a massage. Massage tends to help him since it relaxes him and gets him in the mood. To spice it up a little further I offered to warm a towel to cover his legs. So, I zapped the towel in the microwave and thought I was set.

As I was walking from the kitchen to the bedroom I noticed a smell. I didn't want to alarm him so I just started sniffing the towel. Next thing I knew there was smoke billowing out the sides of the towel. Dh had to dunk the smoking towel in the bathtub and hose it down to make sure it was out.

Moral of the story? Don't zap fabric of any kind!!!!

We still got our bed in though, he was so distracted by the potential of fire that he forget about his anxiety temporarily. Win win situation I guess.

flyoffeve · November 2014

I made cinnamon buns for DH for his Bday today. I chose a sized container that fit six so it wouldn't be obvious that I ate two already. Yum!

PinkCamino · November 2014

wickedsugar said:

Now that I have met @PinkCamino, any time she talks sex stuff, I'm like..

Does it make it worse that this happened the night we met?

PinkCamino · November 2014

wickedsugar said:

PinkCamino said:

wickedsugar said:

Now that I have met @PinkCamino, any time she talks sex stuff, I'm like..

Does it make it worse that this happened the night we met?

TMI TMI TMI !!!!!! X_X

ImJessesGirl · November 2014

I ate about three pounds of tortilla chips and salsa last night....

PinkCamino · November 2014

wickedsugar said:

My real FFC... Which I know will stir things up (and I'm not around today to respond) The entitlement, attitudes & lack of giving support from 90% of the newbies on here is killing me & making me want to run away.

megrae12 · November 2014

I am going to caveat this by saying I am in a shit mood, so beware.

My FFC: I really can't stand people who are overly nice and try to sugar coat everything. It does nothing for anyone and is really a waste of time IMO.

PinkCamino · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

I am nicer on this board than I am when I post other places. I have no idea why. I'm trying not to hurt feelings I guess since I know people are in a bad spot? IDK. But I sometimes want to say WTF and don't for some reason.

I think you should say it. Years ago this place was way more honest than it is today. I also think that some actions are veiled behind this idea that grief gives you carte blanche to act like an asshole.

megrae12 · November 2014

@Sterlin13 Personally, I loved it. But, I am a bitch IRL and am much nicer on here. So I get where you are coming from

Really, I just appreciate your honesty. I have little room in my life for people who don't say what they mean.

PinkCamino · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

Sterling13 said:

I am nicer on this board than I am when I post other places. I have no idea why. I'm trying not to hurt feelings I guess since I know people are in a bad spot? IDK. But I sometimes want to say WTF and don't for some reason.

I think you should say it. Years ago this place was way more honest than it is today. I also think that some actions are veiled behind this idea that grief gives you carte blanche to act like an asshole.
I totally agree. As per usual. :-)

megrae12 · November 2014

@HoldingOutHope It's never to early to start drinking. We got some news yesterday regarding pg's as well. I ugly cried then drank myself into a stupor. All in all, I think I handled it pretty well.

megrae12 · November 2014

Sterling13 said:

@HoldingOutHope It's never to early to start drinking. We got some news yesterday regarding pg's as well. I ugly cried then drank myself into a stupor. All in all, I think I handled it pretty well.
I swear to god everyone I know IRL gets pregnant after 2 weeks of trying. There are some ugly cries and drinks over here too.

Sounds like it's going to be time for a blanket fort soon.

megrae12 · November 2014

@mlal78 In the immortal words of Whitney Houston:

PinkCamino · November 2014

mlal78 said:

My FFFC: I am nice, but I don't sugar coat things. Do you still love me anyway?

megrae12 · November 2014

HoldingOutHope said:

sarcaztic10 said:

My FFFC is that I am extremely sarcastic in person but on the boards I am much nicer. I actually get 3/4 of the way through many responses on this board and decide that they are too mean and never finish or post them.

I want to see the REAL sarcaztic come out to play! :P

As someone who has met her, the REAL sarcaztic is pretty stinking amazing. She does need to come out and play more often.

MrsPhD83 · November 2014

I'm the MOH in my sister's wedding next August. We are TTA this cycle because if I had gotten PG, I would have been 41 weeks on her wedding day. I previously had decided we would try next cycle, but then I talked to my mom and she's all "your sister would be so disappointed if you couldn't make it" blah blah blah. If we get PG next cycle I would be 37.5 weeks PG. Confession: I want to be there for my sister but I don't really care about disappointing her. She has been a huge asshat with regards to her wedding (she threatened to "demote me" the other day because I didn't call her back quickly enough to discuss outfit selection for her engagement pics 8-|) Confession part 2: I'm more worried about not being able to make it and then disappointing my mom. And I think maybe I should TTA one more cycle. But MH is gonna flip if I bring it up X_X UGH. I can't believe that dealing with this BS is even a thing.

blackbird818 · November 2014

ktlovess said:

mlal78 said:

My FFFC: I am nice, but I don't sugar coat things. Do you still love me anyway?

@mlal78 - I am like this too - so of course we love you!

But, I would like to say that I am a lot of the times not nice. I am super blunt, somewhat awkward, and I couldn't sugar coat things even if I tried to. Most of the time, I tend to make people a bit uncomfortable, which often involves awkward silence and stares.

It's awesome.

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@mlal78‌ it's ok; I am not nice and don't sugar coat things. I PPH you!!!!

@ktlovess this is why I LOVE you so much!!!!
:-* :x :-*

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MyFirstRaspberry · November 2014

@HoldingOutHope

Happy Baby Shower to the GROUND!!!!!

F' em!!! Zero Fucks Given!

blackbird818 · November 2014

My FFFC: I added kaluha to my coffee this morning. :-$

And I am already thinking about getting a bottle of wine when I go into town later. My motto these days: "....I might as well drink"

Sorrynotsorry

reginaphilangee · November 2014

I'm still new over here but jumping in!

My FFFC: I am crocheting baby booties for a friend who is due in December. For whatever reason, last night I got so upset/jealous/ragey that I undid both of them. I think vodka might have played a role in the un-raveling. DH is out of town so I just sat there and said "why me?" for like an hour.

Today I'm getting my shit together and will start remaking the booties. I guess the confession is that it felt really good to unravel all that yarn? Lame.

megrae12 · November 2014

@blackbird818 First of all ((Hugs)). Second, I am a fan of your plan for wine. I have been contemplating how early I can get away with opening a bottle (or two) today. So far, I have been leaning towards sooner rather than later.

blackbird818 · November 2014

HoldingOutHope said:

blackbird818 said:

My FFFC: I added kaluha to my coffee this morning. :-$

And I am already thinking about getting a bottle of wine when I go into town later. My motto these days: "....I might as well drink"

Sorrynotsorry

@blackbird818 ~ I thought that was our little secret? B-) I plan to get a glass of wine when I cut out early this afternoon for a mani/pedi. Then I'll pick a bottle for when I return home!

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@HoldingOutHope‌
Hehe I guess I decided....what the fuck; there's no shame in my game. This is confession time afterall.

@MyFirstRaspberry‌ I PPH you too!!!!!!!

mkfish31 · November 2014

I haven't been to the gym all week. I have been wearing workout clothes all morning with the intention of going, but instead, i've been doing this…

megrae12 · November 2014

CFearsy said:

My FFFC is also about drinking. I've had more to drink in the last month than I did in my freshman year of college. I can't decide which is more pathetic. I also got drunk last night, woke up sore, found my jeans in the living room, and marked 'x' under intercourse on FF. I'm just assuming this is what happened last night and it really doesn't bother me that I can't remember.

I just almost spit my coffee out reading this. I love everything about this post.

MrsPhD83 · November 2014

CFearsy said:

My FFFC is also about drinking. I've had more to drink in the last month than I did in my freshman year of college. I can't decide which is more pathetic. I also got drunk last night, woke up sore, found my jeans in the living room, and marked 'x' under intercourse on FF. I'm just assuming this is what happened last night and it really doesn't bother me that I can't remember.

@CFearsy, lol. you crack me up too!!! Also....

MrsKush1014 · November 2014

ktlovess said:

MrsPhD83 said:

I'm the MOH in my sister's wedding next August. We are TTA this cycle because if I had gotten PG, I would have been 41 weeks on her wedding day. I previously had decided we would try next cycle, but then I talked to my mom and she's all "your sister would be so disappointed if you couldn't make it" blah blah blah. If we get PG next cycle I would be 37.5 weeks PG. Confession: I want to be there for my sister but I don't really care about disappointing her. She has been a huge asshat with regards to her wedding (she threatened to "demote me" the other day because I didn't call her back quickly enough to discuss outfit selection for her engagement pics 8-|) Confession part 2: I'm more worried about not being able to make it and then disappointing my mom. And I think maybe I should TTA one more cycle. But MH is gonna flip if I bring it up X_X UGH. I can't believe that dealing with this BS is even a thing.

@MrsPhD83 - I think you shouldn't TTA for a wedding. After all the shit everyone on here goes through, I am truly starting to believe that we should all just be selfish and do things for ourselves. You never know what is going to happen, and nothing is a guarantee.

^:)^ YES! @ktlovess thank you for saying this, I feel this way all the time!

PinkCamino · November 2014

CFearsy said:

Sterling13 said:

I am nicer on this board than I am when I post other places. I have no idea why. I'm trying not to hurt feelings I guess since I know people are in a bad spot? IDK. But I sometimes want to say WTF and don't for some reason.

Honestly, I think we would all be lying to ourselves if we said that we weren't nicer here than we are in other places/other boards. I really think long and hard about what I type and how it will come across when I'm here, a lot more than I do on other boards.

I find this interesting.... elaborate?

FWIW you and sterling are a little different on TTGP

yellowcat10 · November 2014

Wow, I think I need to read this thread more often! I try not to post unless I have something nice to say and often have to get my sarcasm out to my self before typing. You ladies are awesome.

As for drinking, a few faculty on campus (including myself) have a nice liquor stash in our offices and have a little "around the world" before really annoying meetings (including some with students). It is always happy hour somewhere...

So, is bluntness and sarcasm allowed?

PinkCamino · November 2014

Another FFFC.... about irrational rage.

So on wednesday I found out that a girl in my cohort at school is KU. I have her on FB but she doesn't update her status much so I rarely notice her kwim? So, I went to her profile to get some deets about this pregnancy. Her fucking AS was on Oct 27th which means she likely has the same due date I had in March. I was then irrationally annoyed that more school people congratulated her on her PG then acknowledged my loss. Oct 27th was my loss anniversary and I posted this:

Assholes.

megrae12 · November 2014

yellowcat10 said:

Wow, I think I need to read this thread more often! I try not to post unless I have something nice to say and often have to get my sarcasm out to my self before typing. You ladies are awesome.

As for drinking, a few faculty on campus (including myself) have a nice liquor stash in our offices and have a little "around the world" before really annoying meetings (including some with students). It is always happy hour somewhere...

So, is bluntness and sarcasm allowed?

Um.....short answer, yes. If there is no snark and everything was unicorns and rainbows, I am sure I would die from all crap being spewed forth.

PinkCamino · November 2014

CFearsy said:

PinkCamino said:

CFearsy said:

Sterling13 said:

I am nicer on this board than I am when I post other places. I have no idea why. I'm trying not to hurt feelings I guess since I know people are in a bad spot? IDK. But I sometimes want to say WTF and don't for some reason.

Honestly, I think we would all be lying to ourselves if we said that we weren't nicer here than we are in other places/other boards. I really think long and hard about what I type and how it will come across when I'm here, a lot more than I do on other boards.

I find this interesting.... elaborate?

FWIW you and sterling are a little different on TTGP

I think when I'm here I have a tendency to tip toe around everyone because I never know how someone is feeling or what kind of day they're having. I don't know, I guess if I'm having a good day I don't want to seem too "peppy" and make someone who is having a really shitty day have to eye roll at me. I think women who are grieving more tend to come here more on their hard days (I do that at least) and I legitimately don't want to hurt anyone by something I say or do.

Also, TTGP is a whole different world. Anything goes there.

Fair enough.

Although, I do get the feeling that TTCAL somehow allows "bad" behavior so to speak and by bad behavior I'm taking about platitude, bad medical advice and false hope spewing because of its sensitive nature. Although I totally agree that on certain days ladies need some extra love there has to be a line kwim? It's not okay to tell people "you'll get your rainbow one day" and not say anything about that comment.

MrsKush1014 · November 2014

My company just rolled out a new alcohol policy for company events/dinners. This is all because certain sales people don't know how to keep their dick in their pants when they've been drinking at company events. (Seriously, one guy was fired for getting into a hot tub, naked, with a client at the company sponsored client conference.) I really don't want to go to the company holiday party next month because of the new policy. I don't want or need to be drunk for this event, but a buzz would certainly take the edge off!

buggirl72 · November 2014

Due to my amazing failure in being able to secure an interview, let alone a job, Mr. Bug suggested that I get an LLM - which allows me to 1) defer my student loan payments, and 2) overcome my lack of experience by become highly specialized in a certain field.

My FFFC is that I'm relieved at the thought. Life is much easier when I can say that I'm a student compared to "I"m an attorney without a job". Also, I could still continue doing my contract gigs while going to school so my unpredictable income would not change.

MrsKush1014 · November 2014

*snip*

Absolutely. 100% agreed. There definitely has to be a line because we obviously don't want to be seen as the place where people can say whatever they want. Like telling someone they don't have to listen to their doctor or something (just an example). This is why when I lurked on my BMB (because I'm cruel and like to torture myself), I didn't hold back when someone spewed rainbows, glitter, and unicorn farts. She also went on my post it. Also, I might or might not have but definitely did post a gigantic post it to her wall. I have no regrets.

Edited for grammar

PinkCamino · November 2014

buggirl72 said:

Due to my amazing failure in being able to secure an interview, let alone a job, Mr. Bug suggested that I get an LLM - which allows me to 1) defer my student loan payments, and 2) overcome my lack of experience by become highly specialized in a certain field.

My FFFC is that I'm relieved at the thought. Life is much easier when I can say that I'm a student compared to "I"m an attorney without a job". Also, I could still continue doing my contract gigs while going to school so my unpredictable income would not change.

what's the potential time investment? And, which speciality?

MrsPhD83 · November 2014

jj32 said:

MrsPhD83 said:

I'm the MOH in my sister's wedding next August. We are TTA this cycle because if I had gotten PG, I would have been 41 weeks on her wedding day. I previously had decided we would try next cycle, but then I talked to my mom and she's all "your sister would be so disappointed if you couldn't make it" blah blah blah. If we get PG next cycle I would be 37.5 weeks PG. Confession: I want to be there for my sister but I don't really care about disappointing her. She has been a huge asshat with regards to her wedding (she threatened to "demote me" the other day because I didn't call her back quickly enough to discuss outfit selection for her engagement pics 8-|) Confession part 2: I'm more worried about not being able to make it and then disappointing my mom. And I think maybe I should TTA one more cycle. But MH is gonna flip if I bring it up X_X UGH. I can't believe that dealing with this BS is even a thing.

@MrsPhD83 I understand the feelings of not wanting to let your family down, but I think you should do what is best for you and YH. As you know from TTCAL you never know what is going to happen. You shouldn't have to stop your life because of one person. I am also a MOH next year, and my friend has said very bluntly she would not like me pregnant. I told her straight up, I have been trying for way longer than you have been engaged and I will not put my life on hold for her.

You're so inspiring, @jj32! My mom was very blunt in saying that she thinks we should wait one more cycle. She thinks she "understands what we're going through" but she doesn't. I tried to explain this to her, and said the decision to TTC is a personal decision that MH and I would make together. I know that I shouldn't let my feelings of family guilt take precedence over my desire to have a baby. It's just a hard line to walk when they don't understand, but still extend their personal opinions about it. Sigh.

megrae12 · November 2014

MrsPhD83 said:

jj32 said:

MrsPhD83 said:

I'm the MOH in my sister's wedding next August. We are TTA this cycle because if I had gotten PG, I would have been 41 weeks on her wedding day. I previously had decided we would try next cycle, but then I talked to my mom and she's all "your sister would be so disappointed if you couldn't make it" blah blah blah. If we get PG next cycle I would be 37.5 weeks PG. Confession: I want to be there for my sister but I don't really care about disappointing her. She has been a huge asshat with regards to her wedding (she threatened to "demote me" the other day because I didn't call her back quickly enough to discuss outfit selection for her engagement pics 8-|) Confession part 2: I'm more worried about not being able to make it and then disappointing my mom. And I think maybe I should TTA one more cycle. But MH is gonna flip if I bring it up X_X UGH. I can't believe that dealing with this BS is even a thing.

@MrsPhD83 I understand the feelings of not wanting to let your family down, but I think you should do what is best for you and YH. As you know from TTCAL you never know what is going to happen. You shouldn't have to stop your life because of one person. I am also a MOH next year, and my friend has said very bluntly she would not like me pregnant. I told her straight up, I have been trying for way longer than you have been engaged and I will not put my life on hold for her.

You're so inspiring, @jj32! My mom was very blunt in saying that she thinks we should wait one more cycle. She thinks she "understands what we're going through" but she doesn't. I tried to explain this to her, and said the decision to TTC is a personal decision that MH and I would make together. I know that I shouldn't let my feelings of family guilt take precedence over my desire to have a baby. It's just a hard line to walk when they don't understand, but still extend their personal opinions about it. Sigh.

@MrsPhD83 I know my two cents were not really asked for, but I am going offer them anyway. If you have already explained how you feel to your family, then that is it. Do NOT put your life on hold for anything!! TTCAL is hard enough w/o having your family impart their will on you. Say no (if that is what you want) about waiting and move on. They will forgive you and if not, well, then you need to have a serious talk with them about selfishness. I say all of this from personal experience and dealing with a family (mine and in-laws) that are completely ignorant to what we are dealing with. Do what you want and is best for you and H, say thank you for their thoughts, and go forward with your decision. You can't please everyone, especially family. Live for you, not them. (I know that was really blunt, but I am not good at sugar coating or putting things in a "softer" light).

yellowcat10 · November 2014

@MrsPhD83 I would not put things on hold for that. If she cannot see past her own life and support you that is her problem. This is why my family has no idea what we are doing.

megrae12 · November 2014

@PinkCamino ((Hugs)) love. I am all about punching people in the face today. Let me know if you need my services.

buggirl72 · November 2014

PinkCamino said:

buggirl72 said:

Due to my amazing failure in being able to secure an interview, let alone a job, Mr. Bug suggested that I get an LLM - which allows me to 1) defer my student loan payments, and 2) overcome my lack of experience by become highly specialized in a certain field.

My FFFC is that I'm relieved at the thought. Life is much easier when I can say that I'm a student compared to "I"m an attorney without a job". Also, I could still continue doing my contract gigs while going to school so my unpredictable income would not change.

what's the potential time investment? And, which speciality?

Either health law or tax - they are the only two that are worth getting an LLM in because of the type of fields they are. The program would end up being two years because I would have to do an online option which they only allow part-time.

I have one friend who got her LLM in health law immediately after graduating. She thinks that made a huge difference in the job she got. I'm talking with a health law attorney that works at my H's office to get her opinion. One problem with the online program for the program I want is the school requires you to have 3 years experience in that field to get into the online program.

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