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March 2015 Moms
mermaid1113
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So not once, but twice this week I have seen pregnancy announcements in my newsfeed on facebook. Both announcements looked a little something like this: "We are so excited for to make this announcement- we can't hold it in any longer! I am 5 weeks pregnant!"
Social Media Side Eyes. . . .
mermaid1113
member
This is more or less a just for fun post- just wanted to share some things I have seen lately and see if anyone else has seen stuff like this!
My initial thought was- umm you couldn't hold it in any longer? When did you find out?? An hour ago??? Then my second thought was hoping the 1st tri goes smoothly so they don't have to recant the news 
I know everyone does things their own way (clearly) but I just thought this was so odd. We waited to make a public announcement until week 14! Has anyone else seen anything similar to this on their social media accounts?
I know everyone does things their own way (clearly) but I just thought this was so odd. We waited to make a public announcement until week 14! Has anyone else seen anything similar to this on their social media accounts?The second thing I saw, I really couldn't believe- a friend of a friend posted this question in regards to her honeyfund: "Do you think it is a good idea to post my honeyfund to facebook so people can donate if they want to? Also, does a honeyfund donation count as a gift, or will I get a gift and a donation from guests?"
. . . .I don't even know this girl and I want to throttle her. Seriously?? Luckily the friends who were commenting on her post were saying its totally tacky to post to facebook and yes, a honeyfund donation IS the gift!
So I'm curious if anyone else has seen anything like this stuff on their facebook?!?
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Re: Social Media Side Eyes. . . .
Okay. You hate your kids. Whatever. But now she is tagging me in Memes and articles about how awful it is to be a parent. Major side-eye.
It's not like I'm expecting a cakewalk, but I'm pretty damn happy and excited to be having a baby. So she can just fuck right off.
*Knocking on wood*
So far, so good.
Just because it's not what you would do, doesn't make it wrong.
I dunno if this counts but i saw a really tacky baby shower question. The girls patents and sister wye paying for and planning the baby shower and she was asking people if she should give up having it at a nice place that way her sister and parents wouldn't have to spend as much money which sounds actually very considerate but it was then followed with...because then they can buy me more gifts. I wanted to throw something at my screen.
As far as the pregnancy thing goes. I am one who announced a pregnancy way to early then suffered a loss and i just remember the pain and awkwardness i felt having to explain to people that i wasnt pregnant anymore. So because of that we waited till damn near 18 weeks to tell anyone and if i had it my way we prob would have waited longer. But if i saw someone posting that early i would def think to myself that hopefully everything goes ok.
On the child nudity...DH's cousin posts pictures of her two-year-old daughter naked ALL the time. Drives me nuts. Running around the house, playing outside...why do you think it's safe to post naked pictures of your kid on the internet?
1. I have a friend who is Wiccan. She reads palms, tarot cards (not something to quit her day job over, just for fun). Well the last week of October she started posting that she would do readings on Halloween. Cool. Then at the bottom of her posts she writes "all tips or donations will be going to my wedding shoe fund!" Yeah, tacky. I didn't get my reading done that day.
2. I have another Facebook friend who has a son and daughter. She's always posting pics of her son saying how sweet he is, how much she loves him, etc. I've never seen her write one nice thing about her daughter. Names she calls her include: beast, antiChrist, cold as ice. She's THREE! Then today she's posts something saying "fuck all the people who shame her for talking shit about her daughter!" Umm unfriended.
Yes- that is exactly what a honeyfund is, basically a gofundme for your honeymoon. I had a few friends who exclusively did that (no registry) and it wasn't a big deal IMO (they didnt plaster it all over FB). The only thing that got me is one of the couples did a honeyfund and never went on a honeymoon??!
As far early announcing...eh, I'd probably roll my eyes at that post because of the "we couldn't hold it any longer" thing. I've seen several of my "friends" post pretty early on but they don't say stuff like that.
BFP: 07/14/2014, EDD: 03/04/2015
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After some debate, we announced the pregnancy on FB at 15 weeks. Our reasoning was that we talked about other big occasions in our lives freely on Facebook (buying a house, getting engaged, getting married, travel). Why suddenly stop celebrating through the medium for this occasion??
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She's also one of those people that announced her engagement to my BROTHER on fb before he even had a chance to call his family. Major side-eye, especially because she has like 1000 friends and is not one of those that keeps Facebook for her nearest and dearest.
lol. I know a girl who had a Honeyfund and Hatch My House for the intention to fund a down payment on their first home. No shame whatsoever.
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Meh. S is former military so most of his friends are from the military. Now we have lots of friends who do private contracting and are scattered around the world. They're definitely we would tell in person but since they're not people we can just call or text we announce on FB so they'll see it next time they can get online.
Also, we live in the age of social media. I announced my last pregnancy at 6 weeks, and though my loss was much later, being open on Facebook provided a platform to be open about pregnancy loss, which is something that is now near to my heart. I'm sure I'm not the only loss mom here who has been approached by someone who found the courage to go public because I didn't hide my story. The more people talk about it the less taboo it will be.
And, while its sad and hurts to think about, realistically someone who announces at 5 weeks and then suffers a loss is also opening the door to discuss pregnancy loss.
I had the look at me posts... In 7 days... Just so you will ask what's in 7 days.
Or the shady post... I can't wait... Oh but I can't tell you.
My cousins drive me nuts. Cousin 2 will post a picture then cousin 1 and 3 will post the exact same picture. Why do I need to see it 3 times?
Also I think raising money for something like an adoption is okay, but it shouldn't be Facebook, at least not in heavy rotation (posted daily).
Also in terms if the pregnancy announcent on fb- I feel like it's very iffy and should be done after you make all your person to person announcements.
My cousins GF posted a pic of her pee stick, (which I kind of hate..) I said congrats and asked when she was due, and she said she didn't know yet... Clearly, that was fresh pee. That was in mid April, and she's due in early Dec. so yea.
I really hate to see the constant complainers, and the people who post many statuses throughout the day. Who has that much time on their hands? My "friend" who has a bunch of kids (like 4) was always playing games on fb and posting her scores or levels or whatever, and I'm always like, where are the kids??
But by far, my biggest pet peeve fb posts are the people who post an expressionless selfie and caption it like "feeling so blah today." Or "ugh, I hate my hair." Or "#Nomakeup" Or something like that. They are basically fishing for compliments. And it bugs me so much to see the flood of "you're so beautifull" comments. That sounds mean, but seriously what are you getting at? Look at ME! Tell me I'm pretty!!
Another go fund me was for some kids lawyer fees after he crashed his car drunk and killed his best friend. Nice.
My 35 year old aunt fights with her bf all the time. She also just started dating this dude- major creep - and she posted a pic of him with her two kids holding their hand. Nothing like bringing men in and out of their life! Oh and she talks shit on the kids father all the time- and they're still FB friends, like.. Wut?
One of H friends girlfriends posts every.single.thing her and her boyfriend do. "Had such a great day with D. We went for a car ride, went to the store, watched Iron chef, he took a shit, and then he drove home. What a great day! I'm so lucky!" Like holy shit lady, no one needs a recap of every moment you spend together.
I also dislike the gofundme campaigns, I think they're great when used in the intended way but people are getting overly greedy with them! My cousin put one up to fund her cat! That she's owned for years! It's a cat! Cats aren't that expensive to take care of..
I also really REALLY hate the on again off again relationships being aired on Facebook. "You're such a cheating scumbag I hate you were done!" (Two days later) "I don't know what I'd do without you you're so good to me I love you"... Just no.
Seceral people I know right now are TTC, but when they post each day they do the deed.....that's a bit too much for me.
Also, I have a cousin who's expecting, and they will post their registries each day to FB telling people to not forget to buy something. Gift grabby much? SMH
For SuzyQ & all the March 15 Loss Moms
@TikTak - that was actually half the reason I did a FB post in the first place. I didn't want March to roll around and post pictures of my new baby and have people be like "Whose kid is that?" That and I was worried someone would feel left out if they didn't know. I keep my FB friends list to a minimum. I only keep friends I'd actually talk to if I saw them randomly walking down the street.
My UO: I *love* a good Facebook fight. The raunchier the better. It's like reality TV for me. C and I sometimes reenact the fights if they're mutual friends, screenplay style. If you're going to be that low class to post that shit for everyone to see, then you bet I'm going to mock you when I read it!
I side-eye naked kid pics all the time. I don't even like pictures of kids just sitting in their diapers. It's just weird. If you're at home together and you don't feel like putting clothes on your kid because he/she's just going to spill food or spit up all over them anyway that's totally fine. But do you really have to share pictures of your kid with food all over their face and chest wearing nothing but a diaper? Your kid is still a human being. I don't know if they're going to appreciate these pictures being on the internet for all to see when they get older.
My biggest side eye on facebook is the inaccurate information about things like vaccines coming from "medfarmacy.com" with articles titles like "cdc scientist exposes vaccines" and people who post the article and some spiel about how "this is why me and my baby will never get the flu vaccine, you can inject your kid with the crap if you want but do your research"- I'm sorry but I've done my research and I see nothing credible in this fantastic article of pure crapola.
I am also annoyed with gofundmes lately as well. I saw one recently for someone asking for 1700$ for his dogs 2nd 1700$ surgery after it failed the first time... It was an old dog, let the poor thing go in peace.