Stop buying clothes for my baby

mrsdanielleM2010 · November 2014

Lol to the fact that this nonsense is still going on and people don't get why OP sounds like an asshat.

Let's be clear: when someone gives you a present, you say thank you. You write a thank you note. You then decide whether to keep, return, donate, or burn it. Each of those choices has multiple effects. Think it through, maybe discuss it, and then deal with whatever happens.

If you don't like the clothes, use them or don't, take a pic of yor child wearing them or don't, donate them or don't... But be prepared for people to think you're being an selfish, ungrateful, and entitled person if you go certain routes.

To all of you sympathizing with op... Come ON.

conradraging · November 2014

Kmack510 said:
OP, I agree with some of what you've said. I was just packing up my son's 0-3 month clothes and realized that so many outfits were never worn because they weren't particularly my style or were overly complicated. (Confession: I still try to avoid putting anything over LO's head ...) We were also given a Halloween costume for him and while it was completely adorable, it is something that I did want to pick out on my own. I'll smile and say thank you and write the thank you notes and donate what I don't end up wanting, but I think I've silently ranted about the same thing before, followed by feeling horribly guilty at resenting other people's generosity.

Deep down, however, I think part of my frustration at times has been that I can think of so many OTHER ways that friends and family could help me and baby. Three sets of neighbors gave us multiple outfits and stuffed animals, but asking me if we need a gallon of milk when they are heading to the store or offering to watch LO for 20 minutes while I take a shower or rake some leaves would be much more helpful. I wish that I as a new mom was more open about asking these people who obviously care for the help that would actually be most helpful. I think that since I'm not comfortable being honest when asked what we need, people resort to adorable baby clothes.

Hopefully I'll remember this the next time a friend has a baby, since I have definitely purchased adorable baby outfits in the past (and got annoyed at my SIL when I never saw a picture of my nephew in the outfit!). I'm also pretty sure that if I'm not more honest, the problem - if you can call it that - will just continue with toys.

This is worse than the OP. You're not grateful for clothes but you think that they should offer you other things.... GTFO. You don't dictate gifts. I can't even.

wrightpalomo · November 2014

@conradraging‌

jg1011 · November 2014

I guess the thing that I want to point out (in addition to ALL the things PP's have mentioned) is that I love when people post "rants" and then never come back to respond to comments. Guess the truth hurts?

Ahlome08 · November 2014

I agree with @mrsdanielleM2010‌ to all the WK defending OP, GTFO! You're just as bad as OP! A gift is a gift, and if you see it as any less than something thoughtful that they didn't have to give you, than you're an ungrateful bitch.

aliciak316 · November 2014

I didn't realize it was so hard to smile, write a 30 second thank you note, and just not put your kid in the outfit.

MLE_C2B · November 2014

I never complained but at times felt miffed that I never got to pick out DS1s clothes or if I did it felt wasteful because he had so much. Well now with #2 I feel bad in the opposite way because he's not getting near the attention DS1 got.

monkeybutt61612 · November 2014

Lurker here, I disagree with op on everything except Halloween costumes. Other people should not pick out your kids costumes - that is for the parents.

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