Hi ladies. Just thought I would share this gem. I have a friend who works and has a nanny watch her daughter during the day. I have become good friends with the nanny. The nanny is very into natural birth and is training to become a doula. When she has children some day, she hopes to have a home water birth. My friend knows all of this, but they were having a discussion recently and my friend told the nanny that she thinks women who plan home births are selfish because they are only thinking of their own comfort and not considering that the baby might need emergency personnel available. The nanny was offended and told her that in many other countries home birth is the norm and that it has better outcomes than hospital births, but my friend just brushed it off. She is pregnant and due next month and she has scheduled an ultrasound at all of her remaining appointments so she can bond with the baby. She is not high-risk, she just wants to see the baby. That's her choice, but it's so unnecessary. Anyway, I just wanted to vent about it here. It also annoyed me because my friend knows we are planning a home birth and when we told her she acted excited like she thought it was great. Guess she really thinks I'm selfish.
Would anyone like to share other ridiculous comments you've heard about home birth or natural birth? Just for fun.
Re: "Home birth is selfish."
I've been getting judgment left and right. Like the previous poster, lots of eye rolls and yeah rights. Sometimes I can shrug it off and sometimes it effects me (those hormonal days when the words of "you're def getting an epi" start to effect me.
Ignore them!!!
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Summary: Other people and their biased opinions can suck it.
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People love to spread their fear & ignorance about birth. Not every birth or even anywhere close to every birth is an emergency. Also people do not like to believe that interventions CAN CREATE emergencies which require much more intervention. They like to believe, oh thank The Lord I was at the hospital when my baby started to have heart troubles after 30 hours on pit. I'm sooooo glad I had continuous monitoring. They were able to get me into a csection immediately.
Of course, no one has a crystal ball, but let's say they went into labor spontaneously two days later instead of induction. What is the liklihood of an emergency csection with a spontaneous labor?
It is really hard to hear some women say things like, "Can I refuse X?" or "My doctor won't allow...." There are women out there who don't realize they have a choice, which is really scary to me.
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It sounds so strange to complain about being judged as you completely judge someone else. (not everyone here but common with many homebirth and med free birth advocates I know) Not every woman is uninformed if they don't want a med free and/or home birth. It is not automatically ignorance if a woman is afraid of or just doesn't agree with a home birth. It is however rude and wrong if that woman insults someone else.
Choosing a hospital birth, allowing interventions, ending up with a c-section, none of those means a woman is ignorant, fearful of birth or felt she couldn't do it on her own. Being glad you were able to have a c-section is not stupid or uninformed.
I did not fear birth and I completely trust my body but I do not feel comfortable or safe having a home birth. I am aware of the facts. I have gone med free and had an epidural. Some people hate the epidural, some people find it evil. I loved it. Next time I will probably go med free but maybe not. I know women who also loved the epidural and see no reason to feel all the pain if they don't have to. That is just as valid a choice as anything else.
We don't know what goes on during labour and delivery unless we are directly involved. I agree the c-section rate is higher than needed but who are we to decide which were necessary and which were not. No matter how the situation sounds you are viewing it from the outside. In fact, I don't think a c-section is a good choice unless it is required but I would never say anything negative to a woman who chose to have one for no medical reason. (and it does happen)
Things are biased from both sides.
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