Semi-random ultrasound question

HK1020 · November 2014

Is this a boy or a girl? KIDDING!

I go in for an ultrasound on Friday, at 15 weeks and some days, to check for a possible ovarian cyst (joy). I've been having some dull to holyshitouch cramping, and I have a history of cysts, one of which caused a unilateral oopherectomy to remove, so the doctors like to keep an eye on my only ovary to avoid that again. So, that sucks.

But, would it be totally uncool to ask the ultrasound tech, after she checks for a possible cyst, to take a gander at the baby's sex? I have my anatomy scan scheduled, and in all honesty I *could* exhibit patience and wait the 5 weeks. But I wouldn't be sad to know sooner, either.

So, acceptable to ask? Sorry if this is annoying, don't kill me. Thanks!

Flowerstar1023 · November 2014

I think it's totally okay to ask. They may not be able to tell, but they're already there. Hope the cyst stuff goes well.

HK1020 · November 2014

Thanks ladies, I'm praying there's either no cyst or one so tiny that it's not of concern.

HK1020 · November 2014

Hey cool, flowerstar, my a/s is the same day!

HK1020 · November 2014

Haha I like that attitude, I guess it doesn't hurt to ask.

cwiceangel · November 2014

My tech asked if I wanted to know if she could see. (They had the wrong thing on my paperwork). I was like I'm pretty sure it's too early... Thank god I mentioned that otherwise she would've been doing the wrong scan. Anyway maybe you'll get a nice one who will see what she can see and offer to tell you.

catlover790 · November 2014

I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask! I hope everything turns out okay! My only thing would be, is you H/partner be going too? I wouldn't want to find out without my H there.

ally3242 · November 2014

Hey, you're paying for this ultrasound...so why not ask if she can make out the sex organ clear enough to let you know.

taahira · November 2014

No harm in asking, they can only say yes or no.

Anicole14 · November 2014

They may ask if you want to know if they can tell what it is. I had an ultrasound done in the ER at 15 weeks, I didn't ask about the sex but the tech said "I don't know if you wanted to know but I can't tell if its a boy or a girl yet". I already knew it's boy thanks to the Harmony testing. I don't see the harm in telling you if they know.

Lyndsey13 · November 2014

My previous pregnancy was a twin pregnancy so I had an ultrasound every 2 weeks. At 14 weeks, the tech asked if we wanted to try and see what we were having and correctly guessed both babies. Although, this was at a MFM so their machines are a little higher tech than the typical OB's office. I would definitely ask.

lacey0482 · November 2014

I would ask too - worth a shot! I had an elective u/s at 15w4d and it was clear as day so if the tech agrees and the baby cooperates it should be a quick check! Hope all goes well with everything.

HK1020 · November 2014

Thanks for the input y'all. I'm asking! @FlyThruMyDreams9‌ yes I meant you, sorry! Mom brain -_- @catlover790‌ the husband won't be there, but he doesn't want to know either way so that's okay. Our three year old will be there, I'll have to tell him earmuffs so he doesn't hear and spill the news!

catlover790 · November 2014

HK1020 said:

Thanks for the input y'all. I'm asking! @FlyThruMyDreams9‌ yes I meant you, sorry! Mom brain -_- @catlover790‌ the husband won't be there, but he doesn't want to know either way so that's okay. Our three year old will be there, I'll have to tell him earmuffs so he doesn't hear and spill the news!

I hope you can find out!

Side note: How do couples have one person know and the other not? I feel like I would slip and say "he" or "she" or pick out something for the baby and give away the secret. I've heard of other people doing this and I just don't know how no one gives it away by accident!

HK1020 · November 2014

@FlyThruMyDreams9‌ April 30! Just barely made it into this birth month club, how about you?

HK1020 · November 2014

@catlover790‌ good question lol, we both found out with our first. He doesn't want to know this time, and he knows there is a 99% chance that either myself or his mom or sister (who are notorious for their inability to keep a secret) will let it slip before the big day. At this point, he's almost doing it to see how long we will all make it, with the hope that it might stay a surprise until the end. But it means no announcing on social media, only a few people can know... We'll see how it goes!

ur_mom222 · November 2014

I actually had a u/s at my last visit 16w because of cramping. I was only there to measure my cervix and after like the 5 whole seconds that took she goes okay now wanna see your baby? Showed me all of baby and then asked if I wanted to know the sex. Baby girl! I think the techs will check the baby too just because you're already there and why not show mom baby if she has the chance. I know I sure would

good luck hope all goes well!

ScarletOflaherty · November 2014

Can't hurt to ask!

topaz7777 · November 2014

I went at 16 weeks and they asked me if I wanted to know. And then when the DR came in and was looking, he asked if I wanted to know also. I think they enjoy guessing. Definitely more than our board enjoys guessing!

HK1020 · November 2014

UPDATE: no cyst! Praise! Everything looked great. The ultrasound tech almost immediately asked me if I wanted her to look for the sex of the baby. This baby is very clearly a BOY! His big brother will be thrilled

ASCrosby · November 2014

Yay! I was praying for you. Congrats on the baby boy!

c+est+la+vie · November 2014

Great news! Congratulations!

HK1020 · November 2014

Thanks y'all! It was a relief to see that everything is healthy, and I am amped on having another boy! It's cool to be able to call him his name (in my head, or alone, since the hubby doesn't want to know), and I definitely went out after my 3 yo's nap and bought a bunch of boy summer clothes on clearance.

HK1020 · November 2014

Hahaha yeah, he just doesn't want to know the sex. We've got names picked out for both already, so he already knows the baby's name technically.

HK1020 · November 2014

@rsaj0807‌ I already have almost given it away, this is the hardest secret ever. I could never not know - I hate surprises. I hate being surprised with dinner. I wouldn't last a minute. I will definitely report on how long this stays a secret. So far, only myself, and our moms, and this group of internet strangers know.

HK1020 · November 2014

@FlyThruMyDreams9‌ haha wouldn't that suck!? I don't think I would want full control over the name, that's a big responsibility. Not that my husband was all that helpful. He didn't make suggestions, but rather just exercised the power to veto.

HK1020 · November 2014

rsaj0807 said:

FlyThruMyDreams9 said:

HK1020 said:
@FlyThruMyDreams9‌ haha wouldn't that suck!? I don't think I would want full control over the name, that's a big responsibility. Not that my husband was all that helpful. He didn't make suggestions, but rather just exercised the power to veto.

I know! That's what I was like "say what?!" I'd have major anxiety over picking a name by myself. My husband also rejects every name I suggest, so if I had to pick one and surprise him with it at birth, that'd be the worst. Glad that's not what is happening here though! Haha! Good luck keeping the sex a secret! I know I wouldn't be able to.
my husband's name is Randy. If it's a girl, he wants to name her Randi. Really? Lack of creativity, much?

Bahahaha! I can just picture that "aha!" moment where he realizes his name is just perfect.

Our first son is Jackson (Jack), and my husband is Jake. His only input was that we should spell it Jakson, because it would look like Jake... -_- if looks could kill, he'd be dead.

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