For those of you with shared or close to shared custody...

knqsmith · June 2009

What is your schedule?

Seems like a lot of you have one week on one week off...

We have 2 week nights and every other weekend. It works out to 5 nights in a row and then 2 nights in a row. I think we like this way because SD gets to see each parent in a week. It was a long road and battle getting it to this schedule and I hope it works out for a while.

taagent · June 2009

We have one week on, one week off. P/u and d/o on Fridays so we each get a weekend.

It used to be every other day but it was too much for SD she didn't know if she was coming or going and before that DH had full custody (I wish he still did!).

We wanted to change it two years ago to us having SD during the week and BM having her on the weekends because SD was having issues at BMs and wasn't happy there but BM said no.

DREWLILY · June 2009

We have SD every weekend and every other Wednesday

Saran · June 2009

We split the week down the middle and rotate the Sundays. So we get them on Wed. at 5pm (or just pick them up from school during school year), and they go back Sat. at 5pm and every other Sun at 5pm. We thought about doing a week on/off but DH didn't want to be away from the kids that long and we didn't want them to be away from their little sisters that long. (A week is a long time for a 2 year old).

knqsmith · June 2009

Saran:
We split the week down the middle and rotate the Sundays. So we get them on Wed. at 5pm (or just pick them up from school during school year), and they go back Sat. at 5pm and every other Sun at 5pm.

That's the schedule that we wanted by BM said she didn't understand it and therefore wouldn't agree to it

Saran · June 2009

knqsmith:

Saran:
We split the week down the middle and rotate the Sundays. So we get them on Wed. at 5pm (or just pick them up from school during school year), and they go back Sat. at 5pm and every other Sun at 5pm.

That's the schedule that we wanted by BM said she didn't understand it and therefore wouldn't agree to it

What's not to understand? SS &SD were 2 years old when they split and felt a week away from the other parent was too long for a 2 year old. They are almost 8 now and it still works. This way, both parents are involved with what's going on with the kids every week at school. Both sides know what is being learned, are involved with homework, test etc...and get to interact with the teachers every week. It also helps with any younger siblings (we have 2 year old twins) who have a hard enough time watching their older siblings leave for 3 or 4 days.

knqsmith · June 2009

She didn't get the splitting Sunday thing....she can be very dense at times. It makes perfect sense to us though.

knqsmith · June 2009

Our schedule now is fine also.....we have her mondays and tuesdays, she has her wednesdays and thursdays and then we alternate the weekend. I just thought the other one would be even easier on our SD, but BM tried to say it would be too difficult on both her and BM.....I have no clue why.

dnh · June 2009

We originally had the kids eow and one night during the week. Then dh proposed this shared parenting plan to BM, she said she would accept under the condition that ?dh does not look to have the child support adjusted. He agreed cause he wanted more time with the kids. So now we are on a one week off one week on schedule. We pick up the kids from school on our Fridays and then the BM picks them up from school the following Friday. The kids are very happy with this schedule. GL

gosse1km · June 2009

We do two weeks on, two weeks off per CO, but we have her every weekend from Friday night until Monday morning when I drop her at daycare.

So really we pick her up Friday, and drop her off on the third Monday, pick her up again that Friday, drop her off Monday, pick her up Friday and keep her until the third Monday.

Technically the CO says the "other" parent gets one night a week during the two weeks opposite parent has her, but BM never calls to take her during our time and we have her so much anyway it's not necessary.

Saran · June 2009

dnh:
We originally had the kids eow and one night during the week. Then dh proposed this shared parenting plan to BM, she said she would accept under the condition that dh does not look to have the child support adjusted. He agreed cause he wanted more time with the kids. So now we are on a one week off one week on schedule. We pick up the kids from school on our Fridays and then the BM picks them up from school the following Friday. The kids are very happy with this schedule. GL

Don't get me started on CS for joint custody! I think it's crazy that two parents share time equally but one has to pay CS cause they make more. Given we only pay $275/mo and DH got to come up with the amount (we were not paying anything until last year when we wenr to mediation), it's still crazy. We cover Medical & extra curricular activities and have done that since the beginning. I stay home cause we have twin 2 year olds and our living expenses are double hers so even though we make more, our living expenses are more cause we're a family of 6 (7 on the way). I'm better about it now and try to remind myself it's for the kids, but I'm still a work in progress! LOL Maybe I'm just mad that she drives a BMW SUV and lives in a great neighborhood and I drive a chrysler out in the country. LOL

Laurie_Valqui · June 2009

We get SD every Tuesday, Thursday and every other weekend and BM gets SD every Monday, Wednesday and every other weekend. I feel that SD goes back and forth too much, but DH didn't want to be away from her for too long so we figured as long as it is not effecting her school work it was fine.

whidbeymomma · June 2009

We are working out a week on/week off schedule at the moment. Right now, we have her Friday @ 12 until Monday @ 12...

mommyof2texans · June 2009

Ours is very similar to yours but a little weird. I have them every Monday and Tuesday, every other Wednesday and every other weekend. So it ends a rotating two week schedule like this for me (I get 8 out of 14 days):

M, T, F, S, S

M, T, W

MCKS · June 2009

We have SD every other week. It seems to work out really well for all of us. BM and DH's house is very different and I think a week at a time gives SD some stability. Last year SD, BM, and DH talked about switching the schedule and SD thought it would be too much doing less than a week switching. It was talked about doing every two weeks and that she thought was too much time away from each parent, so we just stayed at every other week

I do like the schedule, as others have mentioned, of Monday Tuesday or Wednesday, Thursday and then EOW as an alternative.

la79al · June 2009

We have Tue and Wed overnight and every other weekend Friday evening through Monday morning. Plus every other week over the summer and every other holiday. We are currently getting along with BM though so we shift the schedule to fit the kids a little better if needed.

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