don't bash us

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Im so sick of moms with only mildly annoying symptoms bashing miserable moms to be. I've been sick since I was 4 weeks pregnant. Throwing up, fainting, feeling like I'm gonna die is a daily occurrence. Nausea is my norm,.painful "practice" contractions for months. I don't eat well so I'm hungry ALL THE TIME! Water gives me the worse heartburn bringing tears to my eyes so I'm dehydrated. The aid in my throat all the time means my throat hurts all the time. I've lost weight so actually have people telling me how "lucky" I am after I've just thrown up my lunch. Note that I'm finally full term I want DS OUT of my body. I get that he's doing great. What about my kids, husband and yes what about me? We're all suffering and baby is wonderful and will thrive during life on the outs. But when I'm looking for information about safe ways to induce my labor all you get is let baby come in their own time, mother discomfort is no reason to rush and other useless pieces of advice. Can people help without judging if you have something helpful to say than say it before you give me your 2¢. Because you don't know what I've been through or what my dr has said.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Btw 38 wks, just woke up to puke what I didn't eat for dinner and I'm still hungry afraid to eat anything bc I have heartburn and have already taken my acid script and enough rolaids to slow an elephants bowels.

AnnieRoo13 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Im so sick of moms with only mildly annoying symptoms bashing miserable moms to be. I've been sick since I was 4 weeks pregnant. Throwing up, fainting, feeling like I'm gonna die is a daily occurrence. Nausea is my norm,.painful "practice" contractions for months. I don't eat well so I'm hungry ALL THE TIME! Water gives me the worse heartburn bringing tears to my eyes so I'm dehydrated. The aid in my throat all the time means my throat hurts all the time. I've lost weight so actually have people telling me how "lucky" I am after I've just thrown up my lunch. Note that I'm finally full term I want DS OUT of my body. I get that he's doing great. What about my kids, husband and yes what about me? We're all suffering and baby is wonderful and will thrive during life on the outs. But when I'm looking for information about safe ways to induce my labor all you get is let baby come in their own time, mother discomfort is no reason to rush and other useless pieces of advice. Can people help without judging if you have something helpful to say than say it before you give me your 2¢. Because you don't know what I've been through or what my dr has said.

I'm sorry, what? Who has been bashing anyone? Wtf?

ssstephanie214 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Im so sick of moms with only mildly annoying symptoms bashing miserable moms to be. I've been sick since I was 4 weeks pregnant. Throwing up, fainting, feeling like I'm gonna die is a daily occurrence. Nausea is my norm,.painful "practice" contractions for months. I don't eat well so I'm hungry ALL THE TIME! Water gives me the worse heartburn bringing tears to my eyes so I'm dehydrated. The aid in my throat all the time means my throat hurts all the time. I've lost weight so actually have people telling me how "lucky" I am after I've just thrown up my lunch. Note that I'm finally full term I want DS OUT of my body. I get that he's doing great. What about my kids, husband and yes what about me? We're all suffering and baby is wonderful and will thrive during life on the outs. But when I'm looking for information about safe ways to induce my labor all you get is let baby come in their own time, mother discomfort is no reason to rush and other useless pieces of advice. Can people help without judging if you have something helpful to say than say it before you give me your 2¢. Because you don't know what I've been through or what my dr has said.

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Ed. Dangit annie you are always up so early I can't believe you got to this a minute before me. I was so excited.

runningmama14 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Btw 38 wks, just woke up to puke what I didn't eat for dinner and I'm still hungry afraid to eat anything bc I have heartburn and have already taken my acid script and enough rolaids to slow an elephants bowels.

Qfp again

sweetbabyrahe · November 2014

Campaigning for most awful pregnancy ever? Wanting sympathy? Many of us also felt like crap. What's your point?

AnnieRoo13 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Btw 38 wks, just woke up to puke what I didn't eat for dinner and I'm still hungry afraid to eat anything bc I have heartburn and have already taken my acid script and enough rolaids to slow an elephants bowels.

I'm sorry you feel sick. We have lots of moms on here who have been very sick throughout their whole pregnancies. We also have many women who have been on bed rest, in and out of the hospital for serious complications and lots of preemie and some super star micro-preemies. I don't think that we're insensitive to women who have had difficult pregnancies or situations.

Maybe I missed something, but who is bashing you? You're right, no one here knows your lyfe, but that's because no one knows you. We have developed relationships over the last 9 months and feel comfortable with each other. Saying you're "full term" is also very subjective. Some people define that as 37 weeks whereas I believe Harvard defines it as 41+1 (@abbyful correct me if I got that one wrong!). Most people believe in letting their baby stay in as long as possible for the best development. This is why you might receive negative reactions when you say you want the baby out.

Also- do you even go here?

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

My point is just as I said. If your going to comment be helpful don't just bash bc what I'm doingisn't what you think I should be. And yes its a rant bc I feel like shit got a problem with that?

Curlyfries851 · November 2014

Here here @lovebuggies1‌ !!!

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

I'm reading comments people have posted to questions I want answered too and people are such jerks. It annoys me. Why be such a jerk to someone having a hard time and looking for info. Thats wtf.

hidingangel82 · November 2014

SPEECHLESS.

Seriously... this is a joke, right? O14 ladies, is this you? C'mon out, very funny!

runningmama14 · November 2014

As I type this on bedrest, I'm hoping to get at least 3-4 more days of this baby inside in order to get to 39 weeks. 37 weeks is considered "early term" now. Although most babies born at that point do fine and don't need nicu time, they still gain a lot of brain development in the next two weeks.

-team keep my baby inside for now

hidingangel82 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
I'm reading comments people have posted to questions I want answered too and people are such jerks. It annoys me. Why be such a jerk to someone having a hard time and looking for info. Thats wtf.

If we are such jerks, why are you wasting our and your time posting here then?

runningmama14 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
My point is just as I said. If your going to comment be helpful don't just bash bc what I'm doingisn't what you think I should be. And yes its a rant bc I feel like shit got a problem with that?

Jonnie&Nic said:
I'm reading comments people have posted to questions I want answered too and people are such jerks. It annoys me. Why be such a jerk to someone having a hard time and looking for info. Thats wtf.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Wow so since I dont post not allowed to comment now. Ive been a member since 2004 actually. And ill continue to get my support elsewhere bc as I was told "this thread isnt going so well" apparently all the bashers are up at this time bc you all took such offense when obviously since none of you have bashed me I couldnt be talking about you. Thanks from the distraction from how crappy I feel tho.

sweetbabyrahe · November 2014

We get a muffin @budzer? Is that delivered? Havent got mine yet...

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

I didnt know you were jerks

runningmama14 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Wow so since I dont post not allowed to comment now. Ive been a member since 2004 actually. And ill continue to get my support elsewhere bc as I was told "this thread isnt going so well" apparently all the bashers are up at this time bc you all took such offense when obviously since none of you have bashed me I couldnt be talking about you. Thanks from the distraction from how crappy I feel tho.

Jonnie&Nic said:
I didnt know you were jerks

Well, lesson learned, I guess.

mander82 · November 2014

I am wondering who this is directed at. When I read it, I thought it was directed to people IRL. Maybe I am still sleepy though since I just woke up.

Further comments look like it was directed at us. Stupid mobile makes it too hard to investigate!

ssstephanie214 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
But when I'm looking for information about safe ways to induce my labor all you get is let baby come in their own time, mother discomfort is no reason to rush and other useless pieces of advice.

OP go talk to a doctor or maybe a therapist, I am not trying to be offensive but if you're really miserable you can't be resentful of your baby for it. That shit scares me.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Actually I was going for not getting hated on for being miserable. And just speaking my mind after reading in general boards people getting such mean things said to them for asking questions. It was in general not directed at anyone I would have tagged. Strongly worded bc I feel strongly. And the comments I'm talking about are comments like I received to this post. You don't have to reply do negative to everything. Why would this board think I was talking about any of them?

crystaldh · November 2014

Sorry you've had such a hard pregnancy, but this is one weird post. You came on here assuming people would bash and judge you--that's obvious by the subject line you chose and also by the last two lines of your post. It's not the friendliest way to approach people.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

heisenberg said:
I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. You win the pain Olympics. Congratulations.

Is that what you wanted to hear?

You win the jerk award. Is that what you wanted to hear?

mander82 · November 2014

Olympics!

misterdonut · November 2014

OP stop creating more drama if you want the drama to end.

This entire thread makes me sick. Can we all form a united front to not even give into OP's replies?

Silence starts... Now!

mander82 · November 2014

All this talk of muffins and I would still rather have a donut. I have a serious problem.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

I came to what I thought was a safe place for a rant after a rough week and night. I chose don't bash us as a headline bc it sums up what the rant is about. I posted thinning other people who have been bashed for asking questions would comiserate with me. All I got were people attacking bc they've never bashed me personally before.

absolutelymaybe · November 2014

What!? No GIFs yet?

Come on, guise! We are just so mean. OP obviously has had the worst pregnancy EVAH and came here for...support?

Maybe it's a new old wive's tale if you bitch at random internet strangers your baby will come sooner?

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Heisenberg actually started the award ceremony here. I'm still hoping for the outcome I wanted. So don't want to read the "drama" get off the thread. I'd rather talk about what I posted instead of how I shouldn't have posted it at all. You don't have to be involved.

mander82 · November 2014

I don't feel like I have been bashed for wanting baby out. I do have some IRL women in my life that had a really hard time with infertility and they seem to think it's pretty shitty when I say I want my body back and that I can't take this pelvic pain anymore. They don't understand how I can't just suck it all up and not complain because they want what I have so badly. I understand where they are coming from.....but that doesn't make my pelvis hurt any less.

I don't feel bashed though. I just let it go.

Basically I am whiney and people aren't sympathizing with me. They have never been in my shoes, so I don't really expect them to understand.

manders9479 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. You win the pain Olympics. Congratulations. Is that what you wanted to hear?
You win the jerk award. Is that what you wanted to hear?

Bahahahahahahahahaha, all I can think about is the Seinfeld episode where Someone says "Hey George, the ocean called and they're running out of shrimp," and George says "Well the jerk store called and they're running out of you."

Sidenote: OP, you need to take it down a few notches. Many of us have had hard pregnancies and want our babies to be born, but not so much that we'd risk their health, which is why you see people saying keep baby in for the full 40+ weeks. .

mander82 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
Heisenberg actually started the award ceremony here. I'm still hoping for the outcome I wanted. So don't want to read the "drama" get off the thread. I'd rather talk about what I posted instead of how I shouldn't have posted it at all. You don't have to be involved.

Your original post was not clear, if you want serious answers, perhaps apologize for being unclear and ask more specifically what you were trying to accomplish here. Instead of just calling people jerks.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Why so insulted by a post on bashers? No offense but thats exavtly ehat im talking about you had a baby early so can't understand how someone wouldnt be willing to wait. I've had two almost two weeks late. How is saying suck it up helpful? Why did most of you post? Just to tell me how wrong I am? Thanks for that. Honestly I didn't mean to offend any of you but most of you just proved my point. But thanks to the few people who had something not so negative to say.

lisaren · November 2014

@Jonnie&Nic‌ girl you done went cray cray.

hiketheworld · November 2014

I think the real question is donut or muffin? Maybe I will start a poll...

OP- sorry you are having a rough pregnancy. You're almost done and you get a great little baby at the end. I get that you feel like shit, but your comments are very aggressive so of course nobody is reacting well to them.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

I apologize for being unclear. My goal was to bitch about how shitty I feel and complain about people (none of you) who are jerks to people that are in my situation. I also ask that before you negatively comment to post like that you also add something positive so at least yhe poster can get something helpful and not just feel attacked. My goal was to find someone who comiserated this fact with me or would also like to complain about people being jerks in general.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

Ok I take that back. Some of you are jerks

MrsG1019 · November 2014

absolutelymaybe said:
What!? No GIFs yet?

Come on, guise! We are just so mean. OP obviously has had the worst pregnancy EVAH and came here for...support?

Maybe it's a new old wive's tale if you bitch at random internet strangers your baby will come sooner?

Bat signal to my LB @Kllopez1221‌!!!!! You need to start bitching more!!! Gotta try out @absolutelymaybe‌'s theory & report back -- hopefully with a squishy picture of Max in your arms!

lisaren · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
I also ask that before you negatively comment to post like that you also add something positive so at least yhe poster can get something helpful and not just feel attacked. .

Thank you for the rules.

Jonnie&Nic · November 2014

You guys are going crazy. My post was not even touching about the struggles of someone who had her baby early or about chwilliams. It was directed at the person who said suck it up. Like anyone had another choice. I am ignorant in how I don't see how that comment was cruel. I'm still commenting on this thread bc I don't see why y'all are so pissed. And arguing with you is making me forget about my nausea.

AnnieRoo13 · November 2014

Jonnie&Nic said:
You guys are going crazy. My post was not even touching about the struggles of someone who had her baby early or about chwilliams. It was directed at the person who said suck it up. Like anyone had another choice. I am ignorant in how I don't see how that comment was cruel. I'm still commenting on this thread bc I don't see why y'all are so pissed. And arguing with you is making me forget about my nausea.

@chmwilliams‌ was the one who told you to suck it up. Don't even think about saying one word against her here. She's basically out hero. She told you her baby was born at 26 weeks. She was a micro-preemie and spent months in the NICU. Don't try to compare that to being sick while pregnant.

Just fuck off now and save yourself while you can.

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