Been for 20 wk scan today and all is well. Just feel so very blessed as I know that there are many others who have not been so lucky as me. Just starting to feel movements too. There are few times one gets to feel as lucky as this and plan to savour every minute. Thank you for listening to my waffle
Re: Very happy and feeling blessed
It's great that you're happy and your a/s went well, but as a loss mom myself this really rubs me the wrong way.
Still in poor taste, OP.
The denotation is religious but connotation here wasn't. I've just noticed on the boards people are very quick to make false statements pertaining to god and religion whenever they get the chance.
Sorry, I've been at class all day and having a hard time trying to write out what I mean. I just hate that it always goes to that place "oh well god must be so happy about -insert terrible thing here-" and I hate that anyone thinks or says that because it's not true. I'm trying to refrain from inserting too much of my beliefs in here, it's hard sometimes. I might be out of line.
Less than perfect anatomy scan, but perfect little boy to me
But we don't need to have a religious debate. The point is, it is hurtful when people suggest god had a reason for someone having a loss, or a person isn't blessed if something goes wrong or they lose a child or what have you. That is an upsetting suggestion, for religious and non-religious people alike.
Obviously we all have different experiences with pregnancy, and TTC. Some have suffered losses, and some haven't. Some have never been this far along before, and reaching milestones is a very big deal. Some people feel very lucky, fortunate, thankful, grateful, or some might say blessed to be pregnant. I also know people who did not plan their pregnancy, were miserable the entire time, and shrugged off congratulations as if to say "whatever" or "yea right." Talk about rubbing me (with my fertility issues) the wrong way. I personally don't think saying you feel blessed is a bad or controversial thing and I am not the most religious person.
But I think OP has made it clear that she didn't mean to offend.
As a previous loss mommy, and a mommy with a child who is not "typically developing" this post did come across as inconsiderate
Kudos to OP for apologizing for that.