spilling the big news...

babypaymay · November 2014

Have any of you ladies told any one (other that the father) that you are expecting, when do you think you will? Its so hard to contain it!!

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paradebegone · November 2014

We're planning on telling people over Christmas. I had a bad experience with telling people so soon last time. But I'm already feeling the itch to tell people!

tashala107 · November 2014

Not yet, and it is driving me crazy! Haha Although, it is kinda fun having such a big secret to share with DH

I think we'll tell our families and closest friends soon, then announce to the world around Christmas/New Years

Bjross1 · November 2014

We've told close family and friends but will wait fil around Christmas to announce it to everyone else.

ariaforte8 · November 2014

DH and 2 very close friends are the only people IRL that know. And I know I can trust them to not spill the beans. Everyone else will have to wait.

future ms L · November 2014

Our best friends know, but they have been a huge support during the IVF process and I would want their support if anything happened. My very close coworkers know also because they helped through the IVF process. My parents know and we are telling his parents on their anniversary as a suprise. I know it is a lot of people, but no one I wouldn't want the support of if we lost the pregnancy.

ariaforte8 · November 2014

It seems backwards that I told friends but am keeping it from family, but both my family and ILs are terrible at keeping secrets. Telling them basically means making it public knowledge which I'm not ready for.

pmreed79 · November 2014

My mom and my co-teacher are the only people we have told. Other parents and siblings will find out after our first ultrasound. Won't go public until around Christmas.

KatD2011 · November 2014

Not until Christmas if I can help it!! I'm so worried I'm going to get called out by one of my girl friends. I want to tell my parents so bad but DH wants to keep it a secret until 12 weeks (which happens to be the week of Christmas)

chelssrenee · November 2014

We haven't told anyone yet except a few Co workers due to constriction with my job description . But we are we really trying to hold out until Christmas if possible so hard not to tell my mom ! His family will be ecstatic! Excited , so very excited lol.

kayandtony4 · November 2014

Haven't told anyone but my partner, the ladies who make appointments at the doctors office and my gastroenterologist--he's the first person to congratulate me! I wish I could tell more people but it's kinda fun having such a big secret!

anfranklin2 · November 2014

I've only told a couple people at work and my boss, because I work in surgery and being pregnant limits the doctors I can work with.
It's killing me not telling my mom!

Kaylevs · November 2014

pmreed79 said:
My mom and my co-teacher are the only people we have told. Other parents and siblings will find out after our first ultrasound. Won't go public until around Christmas.

@pmreed79‌ are you a preschool teacher?

Kaylevs · November 2014

We have told H's immediate family as well as my immediate family. My boss knows;she is also trying to get pregnant so I wanted her to be aware that I may be out on maternity leave at the same time as her (I am the Assistant Director).
My best friend asked me last night how operation pregnancy was going and I can't lie to her so she now knows. I wasn't planning on telling her so soon just because the day before we found out our exciting news she found out that they had miscarried. She is obviously happy for us but I know it's hard for them.
Other than that we plan on waiting until Christmas.

SlurpeeLove · November 2014

My coworker who was helping me out with mints before I knew, guessed. Three friends, the hr woman at work (I was asking how maternity leave works), my sister, and DH. I'm awful at keeping secrets. We're seeing our families over thanksgiving, so we're doing a small announcement then. The big official announcement will probably be over New Years, if I can handle it.

beckwa · November 2014

We've told our immediate families and I've mentioned it to a few close friends... Fingers crossed all being well might mention it to a few others early December.... No Facebook announcements though!

beepity · November 2014

DH, one coworker friend (who asked me point blank) and a close friend from school (who told me she's 11 weeks last night) are the only ones who know.

A few more at work will probably know soon and we also want to wait until after the first US to tell family. We have a lot of them coming in for MHs graduation at 11 weeks and we want to tell them in person!

bosco213 · November 2014

I've told my parents & sister, my 2 closest friends and my mentor at work (I needed some career advice because after baby comes I'm going to need to modify my schedule). We will wait to tell DHs parents until after we hear the heartbeat. Everyone else will find out at Christmas!

staylucky · November 2014

We have told my mother and stepdad as well as a close coworker/friend. She is helping me not be so crazy. We are telling his family and the rest of my family after the first appointment. We are letting work know after the new year. As long as everything goes to plan, that is, and I can keep my big mouth shut!

wineandcake · November 2014

We told one other couple, we're all really close and they're due 3 weeks ahead of us. They accidentally let it slip in front of her mom (we're friends with her as well), but I'm not worried about that.

bnk2012 · November 2014

We have told my parents, my sister, a few close friends & my boss (who were all supportive through the IVF process) but we are waiting to tell my brothers, my in-laws and everyone else until Christmas

I just want to be sure everything is good & Christmas is such a fun time to break the news--best present ever!!

imnotfancy · November 2014

I've told two friends. We plan on telling DH parents this weekend when we see them and I'll tell my family at Thanksgiving. It'll be difficult to hold it in till then! I'm definitely an over-sharer. And I dot want our parents to miss out on a second of happiness. My sister didn't share till she was 17 weeks and I feel like the rest of us really missed out on a lot of time. I'm just so excited! Only telling the people that would be super supportive and loving if something bad happened.

SlurpeeLove · November 2014

imnotfancy said:

I've told two friends. We plan on telling DH parents this weekend when we see them and I'll tell my family at Thanksgiving. It'll be difficult to hold it in till then! I'm definitely an over-sharer. And I dot want our parents to miss out on a second of happiness. My sister didn't share till she was 17 weeks and I feel like the rest of us really missed out on a lot of time. I'm just so excited! Only telling the people that would be super supportive and loving if something bad happened.

I'm an oversharer too and I've been avoiding contact with my parents because I can't keep secrets for anything! I've spoken to both of them via text, but with every passing day, I want to tell someone else! I'm telling my family at Thanksgiving as well and I'm thinking of doing the real announcement around Christmas time.

LadyAnnibal · November 2014

As of right now only 2 people know (mostly because SO and I have no friends). I plan on telling the family on Christmas after the first ultrasound.

Julz81 · November 2014

I told my parents and two close friends. I wanted them to know incase I have another miscarriage, they were the ones that helped me through it. We may tell dh mom and dad around thanksgiving, but not sure yet, he has a huge family and stuff spreads quickly there. After Christmas we will tell everyone else.

RivieraBound · November 2014

Pretty much told all family and close friends, because why not? I despise the "don't tell anyone til the 2nd trimester" rule. I had followed that rule once and ended up having a MC and never felt more alone since no one knew.

We will hold off on announcing on fb til we see the heart beat in a couple of weeks (hopefully).

ashiscute · November 2014

We've told our parents and siblings and my best friend. But we aren't really keeping it a secret so those people will probably tell more people.

I'm not sure about a Facebook announcement. We didn't do it with the others but we might do it. We'll see. Most people I know do.

foodie12rn · November 2014

Last month, I suffered a loss at 6 weeks. That was after telling my parents, grandparents, aunt & uncle, sisters, sister in law, and a few friends. I also had to tell my work because we routinely have patients in the ICU with illnesses pregnant women shouldn't be exposed to.

After my m/c, I had to "untell" all of those people. DH and I were sad enough as it was; when I told my aunt, she cried hysterically and I had to console her.

Needless to say, we won't be telling everyone this time around. I did tell my parents, sister, and best friend; if I had another m/c I would need their support!

Jgibble2011 · November 2014

Waiting until around Christmas! Telling everyone whenever we celebrate with them. It will be between 11 and 13 weeks if we can hide my belly that long. Might be showing since it's our second.

RWPhoenix · November 2014

DH knows plus the nurse at the school I work in (I had to tell her because I have been feeling so aweful and she gave me some tips. Plus my regular Doctor because I have a sinus infection and had to go see him. We are waiting to tell my parents and ILs at Thanksgiving after our first U/S. Probably will tell friends around Christmas, if my really bad nausea doesn't give me away first.

britleekler · November 2014

I told both sides of my family but keeping it quiet til im 12 weeks to tell friends.

Lottie&Paul · November 2014

We're waiting until after the 1st trimester to tell people, with the exception of my mom and best friend. When I get the urge to tell people sooner, I remember being pregnant with my son, and by the start of my third trimester, I was already sick of coworkers and strangers making comments about my pregnancy, my body, what I was eating, what I should have been eating, etc, or asking things they had no business asking. There was a point where I even got sick of hearing friends and family make really supportive or appropriate comments, because I was just tired of talking about being pregnant all the time. So it's nice to keep it secret for a bit.

puppygurl21 · November 2014

We told my mom and stepfather this weekend at lunch. They were asking me to drink some wine so it was hard not to! My father and in-laws will find out after the first ultrasound on Thanksgiving. Friends and family will find out on Christmas!

getnauti · November 2014

We're not telling anyone at least until after my first appointment on 11/18. With my first, we told both sides of the family on Christmas Eve and Christmas day(I was 5 weeks) but PGAL changes you.

SeaParrot · November 2014

No one knows. My husband will - if there's still something to tell - on the 14th since we have a trip coming up. No one else will be told until we can't hide it anymore. Neither of our families will be happy for us and we don't want their negativity.

babypaymay · November 2014

I work in childcare an dc i need to tell my biss soon because these symptoms are getting harder to hide, i jnow i want to twll my co teacher soon just to give her a. Heads up

kate5all · November 2014

@jefa621 I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. That must be really tough.

I told my Mom and twin sister...and that lead to telling my brother. We're trying to decide when to tell my in-laws. I'm going to a "Hunting Widows Weekend" with my mom's side of the family the weekend of 11/22 and my mom really wants to tell her sisters that weekend, but I wouldn't want the aunts to know before my in-laws. So I'd have to tell them in like two weeks. Trying to decide if that would be such a terrible idea.

I want to be really positive and in the moment. But I know the risk of loss is really high right now, so I'm torn. :-/

iamsipo · November 2014

We've told two of out CF and our parents. Everyone else will find out after we're in the clear... Maybe a few weeks into the second trimester.

AdaliaAngel · November 2014

We told our prayer group and my boss because she has to know why I'm sick all the time and may have to miss work for appointments.

We announced on Facebook the first time and had to "untell" when I lost it a week later.

We told both our parents, best friends, and my brother the 2nd time and still had to untell everyone. It causes a lot of pain for everyone.

So this time we're waiting for the 2nd trimester. DH and I can help each other through it just fine, without causing pain for the family.

Chasity08 · November 2014

My parents and DHs sister know, and then some of my coworkers know as they were part of my support group during fertility treatments. We will be announcing to everyone else at Christmas.

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