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SO Discouraged by my Dr's Appt!!!

LauraG812LauraG812 member
in November 2014 Moms
So I haven't really posted on here but I am really feeling awful about my appt today. I am 38weeks today and at 36 the OB started getting my hopes way way up telling me that I am going to have a baby any day and making my appointments just a matter of days apart! Now at 38 weeks she literally told me..well I'm sure you won't have a baby this week. I am currently only 1cm dilated and 75% effaced. I really thought the chance to meet our little one was close because I have been up each night with terribly painful and many times reliable BH. I have basically a constant  back pain which seems to shoot up my back before a contraction, and I am experiencing cramping that doesn't seem to get better no matter what I do for it. I probably am trying to make myself feel better after being so excited and then let down, but what do you think? 
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  • lesliegolemlesliegolem member
    I don't blame you feeling discouraged. It just sucks your Dr got your hopes up like that and you're not the first woman on here to say their Dr was like that so you're not alone. With my first the Drs I saw were a little like that. This time they say every time, we have no idea when your baby is coming. Which is a little discouraging but I know its the truth and I just keep thinking no matter what I'm near the end. So if baby wants more time she can have it :) hang in there! You're almost there!
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  • ssstephanie214ssstephanie214 member
    I feel you. So annoyed at pain without progress. The only thing keeping me sane is the fact that I still have to do so much non baby stuff. It's really better that she waits to come out.

    I can't imagine what it would be like just WAITING with nothing to do. Get at me next week.
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  • misterdonutmisterdonut member
    What everyone else said, and remember that our due dates are never truly accurate... They just go by our supposed last period or the ultrasound, and could still be off. I for example am supposedly 40 weeks plus 1, only 1cm for the past 2 weeks. Books have said it doesn't matter how dilated you are though, you could progress very quickly in labor
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  • AuthorMomof2AuthorMomof2 member
    I think she was trying to tell you at 36 weeks that you only have a few weeks to go, I think you misunderstood. 39 weeks is considered full term so I don't know why you thought you were having a baby soon. You might even go over that quite possibly. Since 40 weeks is considered the metric for average gestation that would have meant you still had a month to go, I think you just go too worked up. You probably have another two weeks, maybe more, you're just stressing yourself waiting. Read your pregnancy books and relax.
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  • phdprocrastinatorphdprocrastinator member
    I hate when doctors do this!  One of my friend's doctors did this to her both times.  Kept telling her she was "definitely" going to be early (so not to worry about the fact that he would be out on vacation on her due date).  She actually delivered on her due dates with both kids (crazy!).  It just makes the entire wait so much more difficult when you hear this - you're going to go into prepping over drive and then find yourself sitting around, doing nothing.

    I had several weeks of crazy BH - DH and I were pretty positive a couple of times that they were turning into real contractions.  It's crazy-making.  Good luck with your wait!
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  • mrsodonnell12mrsodonnell12 member
    Your doc sucks. That's all.
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  • LauraG812LauraG812 member
    So to answer the question about why the Dr was talking about this at 36 weeks- I have very high amniotic fluid- Polyhydramnios, So the baby has actually been developing a little faster which is common for that issue. I had an ultrasound at 36 weeks and when my doc took a look she was saying that with his position and measures we wouldn't be waiting much longer and I was already 50% effaced by then. So she probably did get my hopes up but I don't think I misunderstood her. Also, in any case, I was only complaining about the doc. It just seemed like she was going back and forth with me. But he can have whatever time he needs to cook.I guess her words plus what I was feeling was making me think that he may actually be coming sooner. Nice to know that some of you ladies have had the same frustrations at your appointment.
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  • hollystoyboxhollystoybox member
    Yup, you're not alone with doctor who doesn't know what she's talking about.  Mine saw me at 4cm dilated/80% effaced and told me I'd have a baby that weekend and for sure not reach my due date.  Almost a week later, and guess who's not progressing?  Except now, because of her rash statements during my entire appointment about how quickly he would come, neither I nor any of the family can relax because who knows!?!  If she'd said nothing, I could've spent the next two weeks a lot calmer and just assuming I would go past my due date.  
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