Atheist/secular mamas?

Pintobean39 · November 2014

@stark01938209‌ my youngest son is big into science and I think that's where he pulls his religious beliefs or lack there of from. His aunt actually got upset when she found out how he believed and called and told me it's my fault because I let him watch Big Bang Theory. SMH

EntropicEpona · November 2014

Ha! The Big Bang Theory!

stark01938209 · November 2014

Love BBT! My group of friends was super excited when Catan was on there. We were like hey- we've been nerds since 2005!!! Now they sell it at Target. Crazy. My husband actually went and saw Tyson speak a couple weeks ago here in Indy. My family blames my "liberal education".., then I have to explain to them I was the most liberal person for miles in my MBA cohert... Ha!!

ashleymritchie · November 2014

ramy3 said:

T1green said:

Hi! I'm agnostic and will not be baptizing my child. I want my children to establish their own beliefs when they are old enough to make that decision.

I'm a Christian and will not be baptizing my children. They will make that decision for themselves when they're old enough to understand the meaning behind it.

This!

Nita2603 · November 2014

Another atheist here. Raised catholic - well, attended catholic school, anyways. My mother isn't religious, really. School was quite enough though.

bczappas · November 2014

I'm a Christian and belong to an amazing non-denominational church. I respect everybody's opinion I haven't read any of the comments but I had my daughter baptized in our church. Since I had her baptized I promised to raise her to know Jesus and teach her what I can. When she is older I hope she will continue to have a relationship with Him but if she chooses another path I am completely okay with it! I love her no matter what! My mom is not religious at all and I have always had a close relationship with Him. My husband doesn't attend church with us as much as I'd like but that's his choice and I won't try to change him ever. I feel like it is all out of our hands our kids will choose their path

SchoolPsychSteph · November 2014

I think I love you all. It's so nice to hear these things when you live in the Bible belt. Breath of fresh air!

I would consider myself agnostic at this point. We did not baptize DD and will not baptize this little one. I have faith, but it has slowly decayed over this past year. Like many of you, I was raised a Catholic, but neither of my parents were practicing catholics. My dad insisted we have DD baptized, but we quickly shot it down.

I like this thread!

evakatharina · November 2014

Godless heathen here checking in!

Raised catholic, including catholic school. (Like so many on here it seems.) My mom and grandma are pretty religious and probably will not be pleased that the baby's not getting baptized. We occasionally go to a Unitarian church and overall I like it. Our child will probably be an only and I like the idea of being able to give our kid the community of church without the other nonsense.

robotgal · November 2014

Glad to see this thread! Agnostic married to an atheist. Husband's family is very Catholic, but much too polite to impose their views on us. I doubt the issue of baptism will come up.

wlrtimes2 · November 2014

Ladies this is such a refreshing post! I am pretty much agnostic but happen to be married to a very religious husband involved in a very strict religion (Mormonism) We have overcome a lot of our disagreements as far as religion goes and have found a sweet spot for our marriage. We have talked about how we want to raise our kids and this is where is gets tricky. I know we need to compromise. So what do you ladies think are fair things to give up? I have suggested that they can attend church with him, but when they say no...it means no. But as far as baptism and all the other stuff we really don't have a plan yet. Are there any ladies who are with super Christian partners? How have you walked the fine line of respecting each other but still teaching your kids something you are comfortable with?!

j3nnyb3nny · November 2014

Neither me or my brother were raised in any particular religion but we were baptised (because it was what you did). He has found his and I haven't.
It might sound silly but i would love to have a belief system but I am just so sceptical and scientific.
DH and his family are similar to mine so no pressure from the IL's.
I would feel like a hypocrite to baptise my child when they haven't made their own choice.

ladyvez2014 · November 2014

Hello! I am lucky to come from a diverse background as well as my husband. My husband is atheist, I am still deciding if I am atheist or agnostic. My MIL and SIL are atheist. Both my parents are atheist. My brothers are non-judgemental and non-practicing Christians. We were all raised Christian on my side and were encouraged by my parents to chose our own path. My husband also comes from a family that encourages making your own choice. We have decided that we will not ever force religion on our child the way religion was forced upon myself and my parents growing up.

emilyanimals15 · November 2014

I was mostly raised atheist with some Jewish traditions and rituals (and the occasional Christian tradition) thrown in. DH is French and is strongly anti-religion. I live near Boston and I feel like my views are totally acceptable in this part of the country. I will probably introduce my children to some of the Jewish traditions and stories- and yes- Santa Clause. I never felt any resentment about Santa Clause or any of that. I think that's because when I asked I was told that they are concepts that help keep the spirit of the holiday alive. So no baptism for sure, but also no bris, no baby naming. Like so many others here, I will let my children choose their own paths.

squeezebean · November 2014

I love this thread! Another Catholic school kid here. DH and I had a wedding that was open and inclusive to the idea of God, but with no specific religious elements. Our household is the same. I kind of feel like I will wear my teacher hat with LO - in our district we are allowed to teach about religions, as long as we cover them equally and don't endorse one over the others. I actually think organized religion is fascinating, just not something I choose to participate in any more. Our kids can if they want to. So glad to hear many of you taking similar open-minded approaches!!

jennadesigns · November 2014

I'm so impressed with this thread. I waiver between being atheist or agnostic. I wasn't raised with any religion. My parents thought it was important that I make my own decision what I wanted to believe in when I was an adult. When I had my son 12 years ago, I was married to somebody who was extremely religious and his family insisted we have our son baptized at the hospital before we even went home. We did not take him to church except for the big holidays, much to their dismay. We divorced, and I had my daughter with my SO five years ago. She was not baptized and I have no plans to baptize her. My SO is religious, but not oppressively so. He does take her to church about every other week and I have no issue with that as it exposes her to one set of beliefs. I make sure to talk to her about what I believe and what others believe and she seems to have a good balance and understanding. I have no plans on baptizing this baby either. I believe strongly that you can raise good, kind children without having religion forced down their throats. I'd rather they grow up and decide on their own what to believe. I know I appreciate my parent's letting me have that choice.

animaldoctor12 · November 2014

I like this thread. Atheist here. I was raised in a household without any religion and was never baptized. For this baby, I plan on leaving the decision up to my husband. His family is intermittently religious and if it is important to him, he can take the bull by the horns and have it done. We will raise this baby to be a good person, tolerant of others and other beliefs and if they want to try church at some point, I won't stop them!

Good to know that we aren't alone!

ellab043 · November 2014

This thread makes me feel so much better.

Living in the heart of the bible belt in a very conservative suburb in Texas is pretty suffocating.

DH is an atheist and I am more agnostic. Won't be baptising baby. My family is extremely southern baptist as is most of the general public here. I was raised highly conservative Christian with christian private school but Dh was raised Christian Scientist.

Dealing with the whole "please leave my child alone about Jesus" already with DD who just turned 7. Grandmother insists she goes to Vacation Bible School and all sorts of other things. Told her the other day that rain was god's tears and I about lost my mind.

PlayboyMommy · November 2014

I'm on the bench of 'somewhat-religious-but-not-really-still-believe-but-not-sure-what'. So I guess agnostic, since the very word means without knowlege, and I feel we all lack knowing the 100% truth.

That said, we don't attend church and won't push it on our kids. H was raised Catholic and won't touch it with 10 ft pole now, much to his parents' chagrin. I was all about JC in high school and did the youth group thing, etc. for quite some time. I'm not at all anti-God or even anti-religion, I just internalize it and make it personal. I'll tell you all about what I believe if you ask, but I won't go spouting off about things. If I had to pick a church to attend, I'd go Unitarian or Quaker. I like the simplicity and inward reflection of Quaker faith. I've also been told I'd make a good reform Jew. I just believe in life, human decency, and love for all. I also don't discount or discredit science. I don't think belief in God=not believing in science or vice versa. I don't think any one religion speaks to everything I believe, yet neither does being atheist. Anything is possible.

so...yeah. hi.

EntropicEpona · November 2014

I'm so very glad to see you ladies here. Thanks for speaking up!

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