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Daddy Post-Partum Blues

MrsSarahReneeMrsSarahRenee member
in October 2014 Moms
In the hospital the nurse went over the normal info regarding baby blues and pp depression. She also talked about the prevalence of anxiety and depression post partum in SOs. I found that really interesting!

I was wondering if anyone else got this info after baby was born/if you have noticed changes in your SOs moods etc.
And how you were coping with so many fluctuations in hormones and moods for you and SO.
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  • MrsSarahReneeMrsSarahRenee member
    @Cantisa‌ interesting that it lasted two weeks! I hope DH feels better at the end of the week then. He has had extreme lows and anxiety. Poor guy is so worried by every baby noise...
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    keelyd said:

    I didn't get this info, but I actually feel like H's mood has been a lot more variable than mine. I'm interested to see how other's SOs are reacting.

    Yep, H was way more moody than me, but in an irritable kind of way. He said he was fragile too, but expressed it by lashing out (as opposed to my weepy episodes PP). He felt pretty hopeless and like a terrible parent the first week. Also, now that he's getting more sleep, it's a thousand times better.

    No one at the hospital talked about it and it never occurred to me. It makes sense though. Anytime there's a huge life change I think it can leave anyone vulnerable.

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  • MrsSarahReneeMrsSarahRenee member
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    crawford411 said:

    I've never heard of the daddy pp blues, but all of the things you are describing sound like classic adjustment disorder, which is to be expected in situations like bringing home a new baby.

    https://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/mental-health-adjustment-disorder

    Interesting! It clearly wasn't a clinical diagnosis. I just found it interesting that she talked to us both about our mental health. I thought it was smart.

    She talked about lack of sleep and healthy food as related to aggravating depression and anxiety symptoms. So she said to make sure we both took vitamins and consciously ate fresh greens etc.

    My DH doesn't lash out but he is definitely down and I think he feels guilty for feeling down which just makes it worse.

    I actually think I feel better than him.
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  • MrsSarahReneeMrsSarahRenee member
    @BobKat22‌ I hope it passes for you! Have you tried talking to him?
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    crawford411 said:

    I've never heard of the daddy pp blues, but all of the things you are describing sound like classic adjustment disorder, which is to be expected in situations like bringing home a new baby.

    https://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/mental-health-adjustment-disorder

    Yeah, I was thinking this is more adjustment to being a dad, which is probably a lot more sudden and dramatic for a man considering they can distance themselves a bit during pregnancy since they're not pregnant. then it's ton of bricks to the head.
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  • ashie0610ashie0610 member
    MH had a rough time during the second week were home. It was almost like life should have been starting to get back to normal but it wasn't yet.

    I was still recovering, DS1 was acting out for attention, and he was taking care of all the housework he's not used to doing based on how we typically split up our responsibilities. Since "my" responsibilities cover the more day to day urgent stuff (dishes, shopping, cooking, laundry, etc.) he had to prioritize those things first and I think it made him feel like he was failing at both work and his responsibilities around the house (yard work, maintenance, etc.) He was not working his regular job for the two weeks but they still were needing him for a lot of things. He was very much on edge.

    When he went back to work the following week and my mom was here helping us, he was like a different guy.
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    I just asked DH about this today because he's obviously not himself. DD has been a real handful and he's had to deal with the majority because I have a baby on my boob what feels like 12 hours a day. I probably should give him more sympathy and maybe if he jumped up to volunteer for ONE MOTN diaper change I might have some.
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