How did you decide when to TTC?

bmo88 · November 2014

bmo88 · November 2014

Ahh, so sorry, I thought I was adding this to my previous post. Is there anyway to delete this and move it over?

jennypolkadots · November 2014

Totally planned. Got married, finished college, started careers, bought a house, saved then saved some more, then started ttc. We got pregnant 1st month trying so boy am I glad I didn't listen to everyone you said "there is never a right time". Right now feels pretty darn right for us.

MKM2014 · November 2014

Can't say we followed through with our plan yet because the plan is not to TTC until mid-2015 but for now we've stuck to it at least in that we haven't started yet. We'll see how ready we feel when the actual month comes around, but right now we are motivated and excited.

We waited until I graduated & started my career before getting married, although DH was established in his career throughout our relationship (as I was still in college). We already had a house that meets our requirements for housing a future family. Now we're saving up, the wedding & honeymoon cleared out a bit more of our savings than expected

In a perfect world where you have some say in your due date, winter would be our last choice (winter is a rough time where we live, with lots of snow that impairs driving conditions, temps that can drop well below zero, as well as a very difficult flu season, people normally feel confined to their homes. With a brand new baby as a first time mom on maternity leave, it just seems like it'd add difficulty to that adjustment). So, right now we plan to start trying for March or April due dates and work our way back around the year. We should reach our savings goal/debt payment goals with that TTC timeline. Of course, if we end up having trouble conceiving then we'll just be happy with any due date we can get. I understand that it can take a year for the average couple and several if we encounter problems, but eh, the way we see it if you have a time of the year you'd rather avoid why not give that your best shot?!

Cat&S · November 2014

I wanted to start trying fall 2012. DH wasn't ready and wanted to wait til summer 2013. I said fine and dropped it. Ideally you start taking PNV three months before getting pregnant/TTC, so when I happened to find a good deal (buy one get one free) on PNV in March 2013, I bought some. Didn't say anything to DH about moving up our TTC timeline or make a big deal about it at all. I was fine with waiting til summer. The next time we DTD, he said he was ready to TTC out of the blue and we stopped using any kind of protection. But it took me 10 months to get KU, so it really didn't make much difference in the end.

Kingfisher1 · November 2014

I started the Depo shot back in August because we were both under the impression that we wanted to wait a couple of years before having a baby. Then, one night while we were in bed just talking, DH very sincerely stated that he would like to have a baby. I was, surprisingly, on board with him, and decided not to get my next shot last month.

catrb89 · November 2014

We're newlyweds and want to take a big trip in July 2016. At our 2 year anniversary in September 2016, we are planning TTC. I'm excited to have a child, but we're very mindful of our savings.
We also have an Aussie Shepherd mix who's 1.5 yr old. She's very smart but still quite hyper. For us, deciding when to have a child is mostly about financial security. However, my husband also wants to have a child before he is 30- so in a way, age plays into our situation as well.

MissAmandaAnn · November 2014

My husband is 5 years older than me, so he's wanting it now, now, now! I guess I'm not getting any younger either..

I'm 29 & this is the first time in my life I've had baby fever so I'm giving in.

redwine410 · November 2014

We planned it. We got married and I went back to school. I got pregnant with our daughter during the summer before I graduated in December. We're waiting this time until DD gets a little bigger.

kksquared · November 2014

We set a date when I had really bad baby fever for 6 months later (that will be Feb. 2015). I'm counting down the days!

HSTeacherHeidi · November 2014

We got married...bought a house...saved...took a few big international trips...decided after our last trip to Africa in spring 2014 I would let vaccinations from trip clear my system and three years after getting married I stopped taking the pill...two months later I got pregnant...due the beginning of May 2015! Still don't feel totally "ready" but as ready as I think first time parents could be!

darkangel42 · November 2014

We planned, tried, failed, gave up then *poof* surprise baby conceived on BCP.

atlrae9 · November 2014

DH and I made a pact when we got married that we'd start on babies some time between when he turned 30 and I turned 30. He turned 30 in late October, so I started taking my PNV and we're jumping on the TTC train next month

I've had baby fever for awhile and it's only gotten worse now that we're the last couple of our groups of friends who don't have children. I was tempted to throw out the plan many times but am glad we've stuck with it. I'm anxious and excited about the journey ahead!

vballbaby · November 2014

Well I'm 42, hubby is 33 and we've actually been trying for about the past year but just got married in June and decided we'd better do it ASAP. He knows I don't have time to waste and he totally wants kids, in fact he would love twins, since at my age if I'm lucky enough to have 1, who knows if there would be a #2. I am very thankful he's on board. With our age difference, I'm thankful he wants them now, because if he had wanted to wait, I'd be screwed.

katieteacher123 · November 2014

We haven't started TTC yet, but we do have a "plan" in mind. Although I use the term "plan" loosely since sometimes plans just don't work out.
I'm going of BCP before our honeymoon and if it doesn't happen within 6 months of "let's se what happens", then I am going to start charting and temping.
DH is a little older and can't wait for babies, but since our honeymoon is all inclusive I don't want to take a chance and go off of BCP now.

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mondaymami · November 2014

I'm a bit of both..?

We planned for December 2014 but then he tried to move it back a few months to accommodate our new house we are building - but then I protested, "No one is EVER ready"... and I guess that sunk in pretty hard because the next day, he began TTC without telling me hahahaha.

Do your thing, J, All good!

bmo88 · November 2014

@mondaymami congrats on starting TTC, but if you don't mind me asking...how did he start TTC without telling you?

mondaymami · November 2014

24/7 we pull out.. then, suddenly, he decided to party in the hallway.

bmo88 · November 2014

@mondaymami That makes sense.

14whitney I am guessing she would realize he didn't have a condom on...and that would be "telling her" he changed her mind...

mondaymami · November 2014

Thank God your not with my rockstar boyfriend then.

I'm over the baby moon...

mondaymami · November 2014

14whitney said:

Thank God your not with my rockstar boyfriend then.
I'm over the baby moon...
Lol what?

Okay recap.

You said, I would be livid if my DH did that and we hadn't talked about it.

then I said,

Thank God your not with my rockstar boyfriend then.

I'm over the baby moon...

Usually, "OVER THE MOON" means EXCITED, EAGER, HAPPY.

I added baby in there for emphasis that that BABY + MOON = me, shit excited, PUMPED. yay GONNA MAKE A BABY. etc.

Cool?

mondaymami · November 2014

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/over+the+moon

See? Don't worry, I got's this.

AMMR84 · December 2014

My husband and I turned 30 this year and I also finished my masters program. We have been on the "someday" train - we both always knew we wanted to be parents, but until this year we always felt too much "in progress" and focused on our own career goals. Plus, we don't have a lot of close friends who have had babies yet, so we weren't feeling much peer pressure. Then this year I suddenly started feeling baby crazy, and my husband really got on board when we had paid off student loans. We have a pre-conception appointment scheduled this month and I'll go off BC. I'm anxious to start the whole temping-charting-opk journey! So, the plan to wait and now TTC has been pretty intentional. and I thank goodness for reliable BC assisting with that!

Kaelynn91 · December 2014

We had always planned on waiting about 1.5-2 years after marriage to have a baby. It ended up being on the short end of that. My husband and I were at a hotel celebrating my birthday and we just decided to go for it! So I guess there was a bit of planning and a bit of spontaneity to it.

Our second daughter was a complete surprise so there was no planning there...

Number three will hopefully be conceived in May-July of next year! I don't think I could have any more surprises before then. My plate is FULL right now!

Twinkie0612 · December 2014

We planned TTC, but the plan hasn't worked out the way I had hoped.

We got married in June 2010 and planned on waiting 1 year to TTC, to give us time to work on some projects around the house we had just bought. When June 2011 rolled around I didn't feel ready so we waited a few more months and started TTC in August 2011. And we are still TTC. It's been 3.5 years, 4 IUIs, 3 Fresh IVFs (cancelled transfer, c/p, and BFN, 1 failed FET with donor embryos, and our 2 blastocysts from our fourth IVF (first including immune treatments with a RI) had to be frozen due to lining issues. We will be doing a FET with our 2 frozen blasts in January. If it doesn't work we will either move on to another donor embryo cycle or look into a donor egg cycle.

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