so I've posted before on the 0-3 forum about my baby who absolutely hates her car seat and is now starting to cry when I start lowering her in her case seat. (she would sit in that car seat just fine when it's attached to her stroller and we are walking around) she is 3 months 10 days now.
I tried white noise, kids music, adults music, static, hanging her favorite soft toys that make sounds from the car seat handle, paci, you name it, nothing has worked and she cries the entire trip to anywhere. When we are riding with my husband, I get in the backseat with her and she would either take a bottle or if she isn't hungry I'll entertain her till we get there and she wouldn't cry. But when I drop her and pick her up from nursery it's a nightmare, I try so hard to focus on the road because my heart about shatters every time we are on the road because she starts crying normally and then escalates to shrieking. Yes I checked the straps, there is nothing physically hurting her in there and she doesn't have reflux.
I just noticed one thing lately, when I pick her up her back is so sweaty and yesterday I even noticed a heat/sweat like rash on her back, I cleaned her up and put some baby powder on it, similar to the one she got in the fold of her neck from drooling so much. She was wearing a cotton short sleeve bodysuit with leggings, no jacket, no double layered stuff just one layer. The AC was on and it's actually cooler now than it was before here.
What do I do to prevent her from overheating in her car seat, and could that be what's making her cry?
if it isn't...what can I do to make her stop crying in the car I keep praying not to get into an accident from hearing my baby constantly cry at the top of her lungs?
I know this might sound stupid but will she hate me? or feel insecure from being left to cry for so long (over an hour if we are stuck in bad traffic but she will be sleeping and crying on and off) I normally don't leave DC to go to work until she gives me a few smiles and she is usually fine once I get her out of the car but the last two days she wouldn't smile at me and kept turning her head away when I tried to make her smile...is this in my head?
and how do I treat such a heat/sweat rash...is cleaning her up and putting powder on enough? do I use her diaper rash zinc oxide cream?
Our neighbors bought our baby a fabric keyboard that plays music and notes and animal sounds when touched with a little shatter proof mirror in it and lights and it can be tied to the crib or plaid on while on the floor. I tried putting it in her lap today and pressed it a few times before driving off and it kept her tears free! (I tied it to the seatbelt so it doesnt fly away in the car)
Kept turning back to press it at traffic lights and eventually she kicked it off her lap up against the back of the seat and she liked the fact that the back was bright green and kept kicking it (on the way back i will tie it upright to the back of the seat so she can foot click it.
No tears! No screaming, she started fussing right around the corner from DC, i guess thats when she had lost interest in the plain bright green back of the keyboard so i will make sure it stays still. But i'm loving the fact that i didnt feel horrible all the way to DC today or that i would crash into something and that she wasnt miserable and i didnt have to listen to Bingo was his namo or white noise on the speakers at deafening levels and was able to listen to the radio, not that anything good was on anyway but Hey! The score is Mama 1- Baby troubles 0 in my score book for today!!!!