Gender Reveal Parties- Ideas with twins?

Lyndee720 · October 2014

I am planning to do a gender reveal party after my gender ultrasound and I was just wondering if anyone did anything special with twins? I am thinking I will do two separate gender reveals at the party. Maybe cake for Baby A and balloons for Baby B. Any cute suggestions on twin gender reveals?

AandStilltrying · October 2014

If we had more time I would have made the confetti poppers! One with a and one with b. We did cupcakes that I made and filled with blue frosting. We had everybody dress in their guess- pink, blue or yellow for 1 of each. We then took guess pictures and they held up princess crowns or mustaches on a stick and posed! I loved the pics of people who picked both! Attached is a picture of the banner I made for living room.

DivaMom22 · October 2014

We did a cake with the frosting between the layers as the reveal. One end for each baby. The frosting on top stated which one was baby a and which was baby b. The guests picked either blue or pink forks and knives as their guess. I wanted to do gift boxes with colored m&ms but we were on a time crunch.

ksgsmu · October 2014

We passed out cans of blue silly string to our families. ( both are boys) We took off the labels and marked them baby A and Baby B and had them spray each other to find out. Our pictures turned out great! . We knew the sexes of the babies so we just got to watch their reactions and it was so fun! If we hadn't known the sexes we would have sprayed eachother or had our families spray us.

I found the silly string at a party supply store...cheap and fun!

Lyndee720 · October 2014

Thanks for all the ideas. And I have to say this, what is so wrong with gender reveal parties? I have seen the animosity towards them online, and I just don't get it. I understand that some see it as an excuse for the parents to ask for more gifts, but if the parents don't want gifts, what is so wrong with it?

My husband and I tried for 3 1/2 years to get pregnant. We went through clomid treatments and 3 failed IUIs. Then we finally scrounged up the money for IVF. After weeks of pills, injections, surgery, and several 6-hour trips to the fertility specialist, we were blessed with twins. We are ecstatic and so are our families. Given our struggles to become pregnant, we believe this will likely be my only pregnancy and we decided to celebrate as much of it as possible.

I decided that I wanted to do a gender reveal party, because I do not want to look back later and wish I had done it. I also believe it is a fun way to share this news with others. It will be a very casual party and we have let our friends and family know by word of mouth that we do not wish to receive gifts. We simply want to celebrate with them. If someone doesn't want to attend, that is fine. We will not be offended.

Honestly, everyone I have told about this party seems very excited. They know our story and how much we have wanted these babies for so long. This is just another chance to get together with our family and friends and enjoy their company and support. What is so terrible about that?

Lyndee720 · October 2014

I'm celebrating every development of my unborn babies. The way a baby is formed in the womb by God is amazing to me. It is a miracle and should be regarded as such. I'm sorry others don't see it that way.

And what is the first question you get asked? What are you having? In fact I have several friends who have been pestering me nonstop to see if I know what I'm having yet. So, yeah, I'm pretty sure they are interested. I don't think I would be "devastated" by not having a party. I'm pretty sure that isn't what I said. I just said I wanted the whole experience. Gender reveal parties are a part of the experience for some people. If you don't want a party, I'm not upset by that. I would never tell someone they should have a party. That would be extremely rude of me, since their parties are really none of my business.

I understand society's views on sex versus gender. Being a Christian, I have certain views on that, too. But this is not the place for that discussion.

I would never presume to tell someone they can't buy a gift. However, I didn't want others to feel that was expected. I don't like others to feel obligated to do things. I have a close enough relationship with my friends and my family and they know me well enough not to be offended by me telling them they don't need to bring me a gift. They know my motives and just want to celebrate with me. I'm very fortunate to have such a supportive and understanding circle, especially given how negative some people can be.

ksgsmu · October 2014

Lyndee720 hang in there... don't stress about your reveal party. Celebrate your pregnancy however you want!

breezyweezer · October 2014

I agree with ksgsmu that you should celebrate however you want and not worry

It is your pregnancy after all. You might, however, have better luck finding ideas via Pinterest and google.

absolutelymaybe · October 2014

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

1. You can celebrate without throwing a party. Hell, you can even do pink/blue cupcakes at Thanksgiving dinner. An entire party over your children's genitals isn't needed. (For what it's worth, had my family been able to get together just to hang out, I would have done the cake thing, but as an aside, not as the reason to get together.)

2. Yes, people will ask you what you are having. But it's a natural question and a blip on their radar. Not something they necessarily want to give up five hours on a Saturday to find out.

3. Christian or not (yes, I am Christian myself) sex is still defined as what's between the legs (and in the chromosomes) and gender is, in a way, what's between the ears. Just like people confuse an IVF transfer (putting the embryos in) with implantation (when the embryos hopefully stick and become a pregnancy), one does not equal the other.

4. The thing about mentioning gifts at all is that it comes off that you (collective you, not necessarily *you* you) are expecting that people will buy you a gift. Then, if you say no gifts, some people will follow that and some won't. Some of the people who don't buy a gift might feel awkward. Some of the people who do buy a gift might find out that you didn't want gifts and feel awkward. The goal should be to make all of your guests as comfortable as possible and mentioning gifts can make people uncomfortable. Now, if someone asks what they can get you, you can say "Oh, we just want to have a fun party, and the opportunity to hang out with you."

5. No one here is being negative, just giving you a realistic view of how many people view sex reveal parties. Essentially, you are celebrating how your child will eventually peeing and having sex. It's more than a bit off-putting. Some people also do nursery reveal parties. At some point, you have to wonder where the AWishness ends.

I seriously want to have your babies @Happy_Yahoo_Personaler!

ALL OF THIS!!!!!!!

(Sorry, OP. Not a fan of "gender" reveal parties either. But if it's what you want, go for it!)

greks84 · November 2014

I'm going to have a sex reveal party! I'm combining it with a moving out party since we are moving right before Christmas. I honestly don't care if people don't like the idea or not. We aren't asking for gifts at the party, just people's presence. My husband and I are both very family oriented and we have get togethers with family all the time. My entire family already has bets going what sex the twins will be, it's pretty cute.

. I love the idea of celebrating every aspect of baby and any excuse to get family and friends together as well. Unfortunately I don't have any great ideas yet! I love the silly string idea but not crazy about the clean up! I will probably just do two cakes.

frustratedfemale · November 2014

This is an interesting thread. I actually don't know how I feel about gender reveal parties, I don't know anyone who has had one. And it seems to me a little bit like the new wedding trend about having a party for every little thing possible, engagement party, wedding shower, bachelorette party, etc. but that might be me being negative and so anti-consumerism which seems to be constantly increasing in the US, despite the fact that I would think that it is hardly possible.

Anyway, I'm not sure I agree with what Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said about why she is against them, but what I wanted to say is that I do detest all the gender stereotyping that I see so much with Facebook gender reveals and people's gifts. I think the buying pink for girl and blue for boy just equates to barbie for girl and tonka truck for boy and to this is what you should act like, talk like, be like because you are a girl versus a boy, eventually leads to what do you want to be, oh a nurse is perfect for a woman, but a man well he should be a doctor. And we all know what result that has for the overall gender equality scheme. I would just give this as caution to anyone as you play up the boy/girl stereotypes inherent during your "gender reveal" parties.

I think I have wanted to say that for a long time, since I started seeing the blue balloons and footballs and pink balloons and barbie announcements on Facebook.

SV917 · November 2014

... I do detest all the gender stereotyping that I see so much with Facebook gender reveals and people's gifts. I think the buying pink for girl and blue for boy just equates to barbie for girl and tonka truck for boy and to this is what you should act like, talk like, be like because you are a girl versus a boy, eventually leads to what do you want to be, oh a nurse is perfect for a woman, but a man well he should be a doctor. And we all know what result that has for the overall gender equality scheme. I would just give this as caution to anyone as you play up the boy/girl stereotypes inherent during your "gender reveal" parties.

I think I have wanted to say that for a long time, since I started seeing the blue balloons and footballs and pink balloons and barbie announcements on Facebook.

This is my big problem with gender reveal parties (besides the name). It starts the pinkwashing even earlier than the baby shower and/or the first birthday party. Our society's obsession with pink for girls drives me crazy. Also, I think it's super AWish to have a whole party around the baby's sex. You aren't celebrating the baby (the baby isn't even there), you're celebrating how you are going to treat the baby. And your girl is going to have frilly pink things and your boy will have bowties and play baseball. Feel free to prove me wrong with a women in science themed sex reveal party.

littlebeachbird77 · November 2014

Lyndee- I've never commented on any of these boards yet, but I felt like I wanted to share my thoughts with you after reading all the other strong opinions- which of course, in a public forum are bound to be diverse. My husband and I are also due with twins after infertility. My husband also travels with his job a LOT! He was not home when I got my positive pregnancy test, he was not home when I found out we were having twins and we can not guarantee that he will be home when my body decides to go into labor and deliver our little miracles. For all I know, it could be emergency c and I myself may be knocked out for it- which I of course hope is NOT the case. For us, a sex reveal was something that we could control the timing of and was one of the most memorable moments of my life! A friend took the envelope from my doctors and filled 2 huge boxes with balloons. My husband and I were able to learn and celebrate together, with several of our close family and friends, that we are having a son and a daughter. And I have decorated their neutral palette nursery with a travel theme... Because my daughter is just as likely as my son to follow daddy's footsteps and become a pilot! It may not be everyone's choice, but for us, it was perfect!!! Best of luck for a healthy pregnancy and I'm glad you're cherishing the experience.

krm3615 · November 2014

Who knew balloons and silly string could get some people so riled up! I too am expecting twins after a long IF journey and my husband and I plan on doing something to share our news with our families. After going through IVF the big reveal that we were pregnant as exciting as it was, we didn't get to have that "we surprised you" moment with our families. We are hoping to share that moment with them during our sex/gender reveal.

I think gender reveals/sex reveals, whatever title blows your skirt up, are an adorable way of celebrating with close friends and families. I don't see the issue people have with it but then again some people will have issues with just about anything. Once we all have these babies we will all parent the way we see fit and I am sure it will all be different so why would you assume that we would celebrate our pregnancies the exact same way?

If you want to celebrate with your family than that is what you should do! Now back to the actual question before people starting voicing opinions on a board they shouldn't be on if they are anti- gender reveals.... I think balloons are adorable, I've seen piñatas, obviously cake, silly string, paint wars, etc. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!! Enjoy it!

SV917 · November 2014

krm3615 said:

Now back to the actual question before people starting voicing opinions on a board they shouldn't be on if they are anti- gender reveals....

Wait. Why can't people who are anti-gender reveal party post on the Multiples board?

krm3615 · November 2014

I didn't say you can't post on the multiples board but if you're anti-gender reveal why would you reply to a post that says "gender reveal party ideas for twins"?

AandStilltrying · November 2014

Holy cow I missed a lot. To sum it up... Have a party or not. Your choice. I see both sides. I had never heard of them until being invited to one. We were actually kinda pushed into it by friends and while it was fun, I don't think I would do it again.

The problem is that when you ask for an opinion on here you WILL get it...some you like, some you don't. Can't get offended but rather skip over what you don't agree with. Just remember if you ask, you will be told. Gotta keep a thick skin on these pages. But I also feel people should respect each other's opinions and say things in a way that doesn't come off as too harsh.

Hope you have your party and it's all you want it to be.

vmpj · November 2014

Ugh, some people are just sad. Sorry you got so many unsolicited and negative opinions, OP.

I am excited to plan a party as well, since these babies are not only beautiful miracles and the first grandchildren on both sides, but after suffering from infertility, we are happy and blessed to be able to celebrate every little bit of good news. Heartbeats, fingers, toes, genitalia....you name it. Babies are incredible blessings, as is carrying a growing baby, so we should be able to celebrate and enjoy it as much as we want without being flamed. It is something not everyone has the privilege of experiencing, and who knows if we will get to do it again.

But since you asked for ideas and not opinions, here's what I have planned so far: blue and pink decorations, cupcakes with blue and pink frosting, a chalkboard for people to write down their guesses, and the reveal will be 2 of the large black balloons filled with colored confetti (etsy). DH will pop one and I'll pop the other. We're also inviting guests to dress in the color of their guess (pink = 2 girls, blue = 2 boys, and orange = 1 of each). We will take a picture with each group before the reveal.

vmpj · November 2014

AshB62 said:

vmpj said:

Ugh, some people are just sad. Sorry you got so many unsolicited and negative opinions, OP.

I am excited to plan a party as well, since these babies are not only beautiful miracles and the first grandchildren on both sides, but after suffering from infertility, we are happy and blessed to be able to celebrate every little bit of good news. Heartbeats, fingers, toes, genitalia....you name it. Babies are incredible blessings, as is carrying a growing baby, so we should be able to celebrate and enjoy it as much as we want without being flamed. It is something not everyone has the privilege of experiencing, and who knows if we will get to do it again.

But since you asked for ideas and not opinions, here's what I have planned so far: blue and pink decorations, cupcakes with blue and pink frosting, a chalkboard for people to write down their guesses, and the reveal will be 2 of the large black balloons filled with colored confetti (etsy). DH will pop one and I'll pop the other. We're also inviting guests to dress in the color of their guess (pink = 2 girls, blue = 2 boys, and orange = 1 of each). We will take a picture with each group before the reveal.

If you think this is a flaming, you might need thicker skin.

The opinions weren't unsolicited since the OP herself asked why people dislike gender reveal parties.

NO ONE said babies shouldn't be celebrated or implied that babies aren't blessings. Many of the ladies here suffered from infertility. It took me 3 years and 4 miscarriages to get my boys. The fact that I didn't have a penis party doesn't mean I don't appreciate them for the miracles that they are.

OP got some good ideas and no one offered up their opinions on gender reveals until she asked. I'm pretty sure no one here cares if others have a party or not.

The 2nd reply said "I really, really hate the idea of a party to celebrate what sex parts your child has." before offering any ideas. I never accused anyone of not appreciating their babies for the miracles they are. I am simply saying that if you have negative sentiments towards a topic, use your energy to type something on another thread where you would provide something of value. Isn't that the point of these forums? For us to share experiences and advice with other ladies in similar situations? To be HELPFUL, not NEGATIVE. If you want to voice your disagreement regarding gender reveal parties, start your own thread on the topic and let people asking for ideas get their ideas and nothing else.

SV917 · November 2014

This is what the OP asked.

Lyndee720 said:
... And I have to say this, what is so wrong with gender reveal parties?
...

And several people answered this follow-up question that the OP asked. Read the whole thread people. Please.

Also, are we having heartbeat parties now? Fingers and toes parties? Please don't give Pinterest users any ideas.

vmpj · November 2014

AshB62 said:

SV917 said:

This is what the OP asked.
... And I have to say this, what is so wrong with gender reveal parties? ...
And several people answered this follow-up question that the OP asked. Read the whole thread people. Please. Also, are we having heartbeat parties now? Fingers and toes parties? Please don't give Pinterest users any ideas.

I keep trying to figure out why everyone is all, "I'm sorry they answered the question you asked."

Don't play stupid. The only reason she asked that was because she got a negative response so soon. The title of the thread is very clear that she is looking for ideas, and her post directly asks: "Any cute suggestions on twin gender reveals?". Had people stuck to the question ORIGINALLY asked, there would be none of this nonsense. That is the takeaway here.

AandStilltrying · November 2014

Don't ask questions you don't really want an answer to. The whole thing is silly and so blown up now. So I sing this to you..."let it go...let it go".

AandStilltrying · November 2014

@Happy_Yahoo_Personaler‌ can we just take a sec. And laugh at what a "babies first poo" party would be like? I'm seriously cracking up over here. Lol.

diz1313 · November 2014

Could make one of those litter box cakes for it!

Millimeter · November 2014

Hershey's syrup from the bottle. Most closely resembles the first poo.

And @diz1313‌ you litter box trained your kids? I bet that saves on the cost of diapers.

diz1313 · November 2014

Well, I had cats first so it's been kind of hard to transition from cat training to kid training.

AandStilltrying · November 2014

Tootsie rolls!!!

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