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I can't cancel my get together right?

chelseymatchelseymat member
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I live on a street with 6 women who are all friends. Except now catty attitudes have prevailed and I feel like half of them are frenimies.  For example, there was a huge argument last night about donuts. (WTF?) and I got chewed out for telling one of them to relax. I'm supposed to have all 6 of them plus their families over for pizza on halloween. Can I make up and excuse and bail? No right? I just don't do drama and this nonsense is really irritating me. Plus, I really don't want to pay for 15 pizzas and beer so they can all stand around and fight and I certainly don't feel like buying dinner for the one who chewed me out. This is why high school sucked. I can usually get along with anyone but some of these ladies are making it really fucking hard. Ok thanks for listening……Feel free to share your vents or give me advice on how to get out of my party LOL

Gabriel 11/04/09 Vincent 9/17/11 Grace 8/02/13
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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
    thank you thats perfect!
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  • DochasDochas member
    I probably wouldn't have the nerve to cancel but understand why you would.  Are the kids young enough to get along and be disappointed?
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  • mandymackmandymack member
    Keeptruckin said:
    If you aren't worried about continuing the friendship I would bail. They sound like catty high schoolers. I am a tell it like it is person lol, so I would say something like, "hey, it seems we have some conflicts in this group. I think it would be more fun for everyone if we all just did a family Halloween."
    How uncomfortable, for so many reasons. :( I think I would email something along these lines as well. No point in being miserable until everyone's had a chance to cool off and maybe had some conversations in passing.

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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    Keeptruckin said:
    If you aren't worried about continuing the friendship I would bail. They sound like catty high schoolers. I am a tell it like it is person lol, so I would say something like, "hey, it seems we have some conflicts in this group. I think it would be more fun for everyone if we all just did a family Halloween."
    I think this is a great way to handle it.  Life is too short to deal with that kind of stuff.


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  • GuennieGuennie member
    Ugh, I don't envy you. It seems that if there is that much conflict going on they may be secretly relieved if you cancelled. I like the idea of sending out an email. It's probably best not to try getting together as a whole group anymore.
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  • outnumberedoutnumbered member
    Are the kids old enough to be excited about the pizza party?  If so I would not cancel.  Does nobody chip in for the pizza?  We have a neighbor who hosts a Halloween pizza party.  We all chip in and bring a six pack.  If the kids are young go ahead and cancel.
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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
    outnumbered said:
    Are the kids old enough to be excited about the pizza party?  If so I would not cancel.  Does nobody chip in for the pizza?  We have a neighbor who hosts a Halloween pizza party.  We all chip in and bring a six pack.  If the kids are young go ahead and cancel.
    The kids are 5 and under but the older ones are excited. I talked to DH and he doesn't want to cancel because our kids are excited. I get it. I have to buy all the pizza…..irrationally it makes me extra annoyed to pay for pizza for people who are being bitches to me hahaha 
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  • outnumberedoutnumbered member
    chelseymat said:
    outnumbered said:
    Are the kids old enough to be excited about the pizza party?  If so I would not cancel.  Does nobody chip in for the pizza?  We have a neighbor who hosts a Halloween pizza party.  We all chip in and bring a six pack.  If the kids are young go ahead and cancel.
    The kids are 5 and under but the older ones are excited. I talked to DH and he doesn't want to cancel because our kids are excited. I get it. I have to buy all the pizza…..irrationally it makes me extra annoyed to pay for pizza for people who are being bitches to me hahaha 
    That would bug me too!  I cannot imagine going to somebody's house for multiple pizzas and not throwing in some cash.
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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
    outnumbered said:
    chelseymat said:
    outnumbered said:
    Are the kids old enough to be excited about the pizza party?  If so I would not cancel.  Does nobody chip in for the pizza?  We have a neighbor who hosts a Halloween pizza party.  We all chip in and bring a six pack.  If the kids are young go ahead and cancel.
    The kids are 5 and under but the older ones are excited. I talked to DH and he doesn't want to cancel because our kids are excited. I get it. I have to buy all the pizza…..irrationally it makes me extra annoyed to pay for pizza for people who are being bitches to me hahaha 
    That would bug me too!  I cannot imagine going to somebody's house for multiple pizzas and not throwing in some cash.
    Oh one of them offered to bring carrot sticks LOL
    Gabriel 11/04/09 Vincent 9/17/11 Grace 8/02/13
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  • Spin313Spin313 member
    Here's hoping the lady comes over with a smile and an apology...(or just keeps her snarky behind home)
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  • jag101jag101 member
    I don't envy you one little bit. That is a tricky situation. Any chance that they have some time apart to cool down and now they will be fine? What if you went along the lines of what Keeptruckn said, offer them an out, maybe they will decline on their own? Then you can take your kids out for pizza before TOT. Plan B) Get drunk before everyone gets there, sit back and enjoy the show!
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