Not sure what to do anymore..

edelat11 · October 2014

I know easier said than done, but leave him! I have no experience so who am I to give advice. HOWEVER, I do know its important to respect yourself and your baby and get to a safe environment where your baby can grow up in a healthy place!. Itll take a lot of courage and hopefully you have a great support system! I wish you the best!

polynomz · October 2014

Once you get out, youll realize it wasnt so hard to do after all. Too many women get comfortable in unhealthy relationships. I wish you the best. .

Edit: Sorry, late response. Im glad you got out of that situation

Yaz14 · October 2014

ballerinamom said:
@bsdub @kris10michelle‌ Hey guys, things have been much much better lately! I haven't been this happy in a while. My friends have been really supportive and have helped me continue to stay out of contact with him. I'm still staying with my mom right now but I'm hoping to find a new place to live sometime soon. I can't thank you guys enough for helping me see things clearly and giving me the strength to actually leave him. Thank you! >:D<

Edited to tag because I forgot to

Good for you @ballerinamom‌! So glad you've managed to stay away from him. Stay strong mama!

emimummi · October 2014

You deserve to be treated better than this. I also hope that you believe your precious bubba deserves to have a better life than the one you have given us a small glimpse of. The one thing I've learned as a psychologist is that people only change if they want to, others willing and wishing will not make it so.

70point3 · October 2014

@ballerinamom‌ - as others have given fantastic advice on the now, here's my advice for the later........

I broke off an engagement with a semi controlling guy years ago. The best advice I got was from my dad: Go watch 'Cast Away' and listen to what Tom Hanks says at the end. "Tomorrow the sun will rise and you never know what the tide will bring in."

I'm now engaged to my best friend. An amazing man and future father of our first kiddo and couldn't have planned this if I tried. That movie always helped remind me that the craptastic parts will pass eventually. Creepy internet hug and good luck lady!!

vspek · October 2014

I would say that you need to leave. Looking at some of my friends who are currently going through painful divorces where they battle over kids and the reat, I would say leave now before anything else happened.

bsdub · October 2014

@ballerinamom‌ congratulations! This is a huge step for you and your bub. I'm so happy you found such tremendous strength inside yourself. Stay strong and know that we're always here as a support for you.

theinvadermothership · October 2014

Congrats! So glad that this is working out for you. It's always so nice to see positive news after hearing about such a horrible situation. Really, just good for you. Just think how much stronger you are now and just what a strong and loving mom you can be for your baby, with no worries of abuse and control.

Morena Mama · October 2014

My first marriage was abusive and I stayed for six years because I thought my kids needed a Dad. That was the worst mistake I ever made. Good for you for taking the initiative to reach out and seek help. There are so many resources online that can help you find local resources and get you set up to be free. Keep moving forward and know that you are starting your life as a mother out on the best possible foot by protecting your child.

shoeflypie · October 2014

Just seeing this thread for the first time. I'm so happy that you got out of that relationship! Stay strong!!

And great job to the ladies in this group for showing her the light!

miahbelle · October 2014

Thanks for the update! I'm glad you're doing well!!

dana1047 · October 2014

Run....quickly!!

Remember just because he helped make this baby, doesn't mean he's a dad. Anyone can be a sperm donor.

I've never met my real father, as my mom ran away from an abusive husband (newlyweds).

My dad is an amazing man who has known me since I was young and adopted me when I was 6.

Don't think this man could be your only "happy ending". There's Lots of wonderful guys who would love the chance to treat you like you deserve.

You will be the biggest role model for your child. He/she will respect this decision when they are older. If he doesn't play fair now he'd really have you in his control if you marry him. Please don't for your emotional well being!!

Get your family or close friends involved to help you make an out plan and follow through with it.

smeliemelie3 · October 2014

So proud of you! That must have been so hard, and I bet it still is quite hard most times as the brain has ways of trying to remember the nice parts of old relationships, and forget the bad parts. You are strong. You are smart and intelligent, you are WORTH so much more. I'm so glad you have friend and family around to remind you of these things! Before I met dh I was in a similar situation and I owe those friends who kept speaking truth to me my life. Trust them and keep them close. Eat some icecream, be sad, but also truly feel empowered because you have made a difficult but the very best decision! Much love and hugs an prayers.

doxiemom415 · October 2014

@ballerinamom good for you!! There's a lot of women that don't have the strength to leave and do what's best for themselves and baby. I've been in your shoes, and it's tough, but YOU know you're breaking point, so glad you've made the step to a better life!

Also- no sure if anyone has said this, but most hospitals when you go into L&D, you can tell the front desk that you'd like a "password" for anyone that wants any information or wants to be let into your room. Anyone that comes to see you or ask for you will need that password to get ANY kind of information, room number, whether the baby is here, whether you're even there, etc. Might check into that!

Good luck, praying for you and baby and strength for you both!

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