So we've talked about how there are benefits of having 2 kids (entertain each other (when they're not fighting), etc). Could you tell me some positives about having 3 compared to 2? I'm on CD3 and trying to talk myself into TTC this cycle.
The DDs were cute and sweet with DH yesterday, he said, so I think he's on board at the moment
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
Re: Moms of 3+ Tell me the good things
DS1: Quinn - 10.22.10 and DS2: Cole - 01.18.13
I won't lie - it was MUCH easier in just about every sense before I had the boys.... like every single thing was easier.... but I also had twins instead of just one baby... so that perspective may not be shared by those who had an actual 3rd singleton... but even with all of the struggle and frustration, I didn't feel "complete" with just the two kids. Now I do. I knew I wanted a third, and I wasn't satisfied with only two. While I might be overwhelmed with four and I know it would have been easier if I still had just the two kids, I *do* feel complete now. There hasn't been any yearning or wishing I could have another. I think that reassurance is good - but I think that if you still have that desire for more, you will feel more fulfilled and happier pursuing that choice.
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
In truth, going from 2 to 3 has been my biggest, hardest change, but that might be more the ages (C was 7 and E only 18 months). But it's also been fun. I'm really enjoying 3 now.
**but the possibility of 4 still strikes panic in me even though I get the little bit of longing every time someone starts talking TTC.**
Honestly, I think the more the merrier. With having two you already know what it means to be busy and have your attention divided. What's the big deal about dividing it a little more? It's another baby to love on and another sibling for your children. In the end, that brings so much joy that you forget about being so busy
This time... Not so much. Two babies is kicking me. I've got days when I think, "I've got this, I can do anything, let's have another!" And then there are days like today where I think, "Which one would get the highest bid on eBay...."
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence