AW: sister

4littlebears · October 2014

I'm sitting here all anxious like I used to be when DH and I were TTC. She and her DH are TTC, and I can't handle the suspense. She said she'd tell me when/if she gets a bfp, so I'm absolutely not bugging her but I just SO badly want to know! I really think she should have either gotten a bfp or her period by now. Maybe it's because I just really want some fabulous news since I'm so down in the dumps! Thanks for letting me rant!

Edited for redundancy

southernyankeegirl · October 2014

Ooof... I get that you're excited, but please please please just don't say anything about it until she brings it up. I'm sure she'll be thrilled that you're there to squeal to about everything when she wants to, but if it doesn't happen as soon as she wants, having someone impatient for good news adds pressure.

I'm jaded, I know, but 1 in 8 couples face infertility, and even a normal fertile couple can take as long as a year just by dumb luck. Try to be patient! And hopefully it happens soon! I do know how you feel slightly, one of my best friends is on her 2nd month of trying and I'm also hopeful but I bite my tongue.

4littlebears · October 2014

Oh hell, no I won't do that. I've had my own journey and she's just beginning. But she knows I'm here for support no matter what happens!

4littlebears · October 2014

Plus, she'll really want someone to spill the beans to but she doesn't want to announce anything until after the 1T. She's had too many friends (and her sister, me) go through miscarriages and infertility. But she said she will really want to tell me. So that is why I'm all antsy! I don't know, when we were TTC we told NO one because we didn't want people pestering us, lol

kellyfo14 · October 2014

I am pretty sure my sister is pg but I know she will not say anything till she is through the first trimester as she did with her first. I told her the second I was pregnant but we are just kind of different people in that way. I can tell because she hasn't been having a glass of wine with dinner when we are at my parents just about weekly. Just waiting now...

My mom is thinking she is too but I told her she wasn't allowed to say anything. She called me out when I was just a week or two along this pregnancy. I was ok but my sister would have an absolute freak out.

Maebb · October 2014

GL to your sister, @4littlebears‌, and yours too, @kellyfo14‌.

My SIL was pregnant at the same time as me, and it was a lot of fun! And also fun to see our babies grow up together.

I agree with PPs to be sensitive about it, but it sounds like you are.

mandikins27 · October 2014

That is exciting and i dont see your post as a vent

and im sure as soon as she knows you will be the first to know!

4littlebears · October 2014

Thanks ladies! I'll admit, I posted it here so it would take away the temptation to call her and ask. We both want so badly to have just 1 child close in age. She doesn't have any yet and this will be my last. I promise to be sensitive to her, she's my best friend

I suspect my brother and SIL may be TTC too, but I definitely don't dare ask them, lol. They are very private like we are, so I get that too.

mandikins27 · October 2014

holy babies in the family!

I wish I had that

4littlebears · October 2014

It would be really nice if I could have that too! My oldest is 8 years old, with only 1 cousin who just turned 6. This is the last chance for us to have cousins close since we won't be going for littlebear #5

DH and I are older, but we also started younger too. I had the baby fever

MusicFanatic · October 2014

Aw, good luck to your sister!

I know how you feel- mine just found out a few weeks ago she's pregnant (after 11 months of trying) - it's been super neat to be pregnant with her, even if we live in different countries and it's only been a few weeks for her. Still awesome.

emilyp2013 · October 2014

Good luck and happy you're resisting the urge!! Nothing was quite as painful to me about infertility as others' expectations. Even if they never said it, I felt like I was letting them down month after month and I was pained when they so much as asked about it. Crossing fingers for her and I know she deeply appreciates your support, empathy, and patience!! :-)

4littlebears · October 2014

@MusicFanatic, congratulations to your sister!! That is definitely awesome!

@emilyp2013, Thank you

and I'm so sorry people made you feel like you were disappointing them. I promise not to do that to her!

LadyXaverian · October 2014

Good luck to your sister, and I'm glad you're resisting temptation to ask. When I TTC #1, I told my sister ahead of time, and she used to ask frequently. It took 10 cycles to get pregnant. Around cycle 5 she started asking me if something was "wrong", and it became stressful. I kind of wished I hadn't told her. So, yeah, I get why you're excited, and I hope it happens quickly for your sister, but you're doing a good thing by keeping quiet.

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