For some reason my husband thinks...

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• Nichole8787 member

  October 2014

  I can totally relate.

  

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• pjaimeal member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  Same here. DH is playing video games as we speak. We had a "conversation" about having his parents over this weekend and I had to explain to him that it isn't as easy as just letting them know a good time to come over. Plus, it is my last weekend before I have to go to work. So I really just want to relax and enjoy my time with LO (and apparently Bump it up). What seemed to work was attempting to relate to him by comparing it to not being appreciated at work (he doesn't fully understand what goes in to caring for LO all day) and then your boss just throwing a project on his desk last minute and expecting it to be easy (scheduling a visit around naps, feedings, and on top of all of that having to "clean" the house for his parents to come over). Hey, it may have been a bit of a stretch on my part but at least I got him to tell his parents that this weekend wasn't good for visits! 

  
  

  PS. I am not implying that visits are always inconvenient and of course I will always fit them in when it is needed. I mainly wanted him to understand the dynamics involved and the reason why this weekend wasn't ideal.

  
  

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• Prncesta member

  October 2014

  Yup, same here! I finally went to have my hair colored yesterday since he's off fridays and he told me "not too take too long" really?? I made sure I took my time and didn't rush...he survived.

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• jnnfrrose6 member

  October 2014

  DH is usually pretty good about understanding stuff, but one of the best things I ever heard from him was during the first weekend he was on his own with DS.  He had spent a few hours with him as needed on days I had things to do, but I took a girl's weekend a few month's after DS's first birthday and on the second day I told me "when you get home, I think we should look into a house cleaner."  He finally understood how hard it is to get EVERYTHING done and why housework tended to be put on the bottom of the list beyond the necessities.

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• mary1217 member

  November 2014

  I needed to go shopping this past weekend to get some clothes for me and when I told DH that I needed to go shopping alone he asked why they couldn't come? The last thing I want to deal with on a Saturday is navigating a mall with a 4 month old and having to leave when she gets fussy. 

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• Skeemer member

  November 2014

  DH kept the toddler & 4 month old for basically a full day while I did a 5K & then went to a wedding with my mom. When I returned he said "I don't know how you do it every day."
  It wasn't a strategy to make him understand BUT it totally worked in my favor! **WINNING**

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• middleschoolmommy member

  November 2014

  My DH thinks the 1 hour he takes ds at night during the week is more than enough of a break for me. He "needs his free time" since he goes to work and I have sooo much free time during the day.

  

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• lamarei member

  November 2014

  Just don't do anything unless it is strictly baby care related for a couple days. Words don't work. Seeing what looks like a tornado hit the house does. Then go away for a few hours while he starts to repair the damages. Lol.

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• Nichole8787 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  Lately dh has had the perfect knack for making me feel unappreciated. I'm so over it....He's been a real asshole. I'm to tired to argue wHich is always what happens when I try to explain how irritated I am

  

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• chelseakae07 member

  November 2014

  DH wakes up every morning and says "Wow! The baby slept all night!" The baby has yet to sleep completely through the night. -_-

  

  

  
  

  
  

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• BeanPSU123 member

  November 2014

  The line that gets me is "your not doing enough" after a stressful day at work and not getting as much milk as I need (DS drinks 16oz during daycare). I already drink 8-12 glasses of water and pump 4 times a day. I'm pretty sure guys would fail at breastfeeding.

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