Wishing for early labor?

janadeek · October 2014

I would complain about enduring pregnancy but then I would just sound like a baby...and in 2 weeks, I'll have a real one. But is it wrong to wish for early labor?

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

It's not wrong, but personally I would rather the baby stays put as long as possible for development and growth reasons. I'm uncomfortable, but I'd rather be uncomfortable than risk my child's health. I know not all early babies have issues, but there's always that possibility with an early baby.

ETA: also, if you're due in two weeks (on mobile and can't see if you have a siggy) I'm sorry to tell you that really means nothing! You could have another 4 weeks to go.

janadeek · October 2014

What's a siggy?

janadeek · October 2014

I will say that I was very hesitant to say anything because I've seen so many women get crucified on this forum over something meant to be innocent. I don't need the drama of someone mistaking me for being insensitive. I'd rather fold the laundry.

MuchlyGen · October 2014

I don't wish for early labor, because as PPs have said, I want her to come when she's good and ready and all her parts work perfectly and she's healthy as can be.

But I will say, if that moment arrived sooner rather than later, I sure wouldn't complain.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

lovebuggies1 said:

janadeek said:
I would complain about enduring pregnancy but then I would just sound like a baby...and in 2 weeks, I'll have a real one. But is it wrong to wish for early labor?
I think we're all in the home stretch and just freaking tired. I know I'm ready to meet my soon.

With that being said, this does sound like a bit much with all the losses and preemie births we've had with the N14 moms and hell just moms all over the world. Some women are wishing the could be in your shoes, close to a due date, waiting to meet their baby... and they can't.

I'm not trying to be mean... But I will never wish for him to come out when he's not ready. I am extremely miserable and I complain and I'm depressed but he's worth it. Idk, maybe I took your post too deep.

I don't know if that's fair. As you said- we're all in the home stretch and we're all getting pretty uncomfortable. Sure there are many women who have had losses and preemie babies but I don't think OP meant she wished for that. I've seen many regs wish for their babies to come a little early and no one has said anything to them like what you just said. I think you're kind of stretching to make OP feel badly. Not trying to WK here, but I think you're a bit out of line.

jac409 · October 2014

I know how you feel OP. I am 38 weeks, and although of course I don't want him to come until he is good and healthy and ready, I am more than ready for that day to be here. I had my appointment today and they told me it could be any day now. I can't say I was disappointed.

Soonergirl131 · October 2014

I'm 36 weeks and feel done, doesn't mean I want him to come if that means he'd be unhealthy but if he came two weeks from now instead on 4-5 I'd be okay with that.

silverwings72 · October 2014

No. But I get it. Pregnancy is uncomfortable. Im not emotionally ready to meet this baby yet. Also, I have a few more nesting tasks to do before he makes his appearance. I'll be happy if he comes on/around his due date -11/16.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

lovebuggies1 said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

lovebuggies1 said:

janadeek said:
I would complain about enduring pregnancy but then I would just sound like a baby...and in 2 weeks, I'll have a real one. But is it wrong to wish for early labor?
I think we're all in the home stretch and just freaking tired. I know I'm ready to meet my soon.

With that being said, this does sound like a bit much with all the losses and preemie births we've had with the N14 moms and hell just moms all over the world. Some women are wishing the could be in your shoes, close to a due date, waiting to meet their baby... and they can't.

I'm not trying to be mean... But I will never wish for him to come out when he's not ready. I am extremely miserable and I complain and I'm depressed but he's worth it. Idk, maybe I took your post too deep.
I don't know if that's fair. As you said- we're all in the home stretch and we're all getting pretty uncomfortable. Sure there are many women who have had losses and preemie babies but I don't think OP meant she wished for that. I've seen many regs wish for their babies to come a little early and no one has said anything to them like what you just said. I think you're kind of stretching to make OP feel badly. Not trying to WK here, but I think you're a bit out of line.
@AnnieRoo13 it's just my opinion. She asked. Her and everyone else can take it or leave it. Definitely wasn't trying to be mean like I said. But hers rubbed me wrong like mine rubbed you wrong. I'd say something to the regs too of course. As I've said I complain and everything. You can call me out when I do.

ETA: I think your original post sounded pretty much like making someone feel bad too. Just with health reasons instead of losses. No one wishes for that either.

I think you were on a self imposed Bump time out when we had a discussion about being nicer to newbs.

Anyway, throwing out the loss and preemie card was way different than what I said. Making OP feel badly because she's done with being pregnant? Aren't most of us done with it? I'm sure the HG mommas like @FhSTAR81‌ will be happy when they can eat and not feel sick all the time. I'm sure the bed rest mommas will be happy to get back to being able to be on the feet. If she was 32 weeks along and saying this, then ya throw out the preemie line, but we're so close to the end that it doesn't seem called for.

MrsDL · October 2014

lovebuggies1 said:

I would complain about enduring pregnancy but then I would just sound like a baby...and in 2 weeks, I'll have a real one. But is it wrong to wish for early labor?
I think we're all in the home stretch and just freaking tired. I know I'm ready to meet my soon. With that being said, this does sound like a bit much with all the losses and preemie births we've had with the N14 moms and hell just moms all over the world. Some women are wishing the could be in your shoes, close to a due date, waiting to meet their baby... and they can't. I'm not trying to be mean... But I will never wish for him to come out when he's not ready. I am extremely miserable and I complain and I'm depressed but he's worth it. Idk, maybe I took your post too deep.

Nobody's wishing for her baby to come early to the point they'd rather deal with medical issues than a few extra days/weeks..... and the whole "he's worth it" - who here doesn't think her baby is worth waiting as long as it takes? Sort of a self-righteous comment. There are actually risks for some women/pregnancies going past-term or even to term. Everyone is different.

ssstephanie214 · October 2014

Fight night fight night this thread needs a dancing flan

TeeJ526 · October 2014

I have to say that I understand it to some extent. I'm 39 weeks which is now full term and I wish she would come out, but I think the thought process is that I really hope she's not 2 weeks overdue. As it has been said, I don't think OP is wishing for preterm labor; after all, she already is 2 weeks from her due date, but just wishes time would fly by already and the baby just get here.

abbyful · October 2014

Oy, that escalated quickly...

silverwings72 · October 2014

Can I be frank?? I think it was the bringing in the premature babies and mentioning the loss mamas that sparked some emotion and concern. We are all super sensitive about this subject and I believe it may have come across as using those Mamas to shame OP. Honestly, OP does not sound unreasonable. Shes just tired of being pregnant.

elir9790 · October 2014

I, too, am 38 weeks and am so ready to meet my LO and have my body back! Although, the aches and pains have helped me fear labor less and less every day because at this point, bring it on!

janadeek · October 2014

I see that while I've stepped away, many have had a lot to say on this thread. I appreciate the support most have given or tried to give. But I find the funny comments more encouraging than the degrading ones. I'm not a first-time mom, therefore I have a sense of humor. I have had struggles in my pregnancy but would never use that to manipulate someone else. I WILL have a beautiful daughter and enjoy her when she gets here. But I will never again post to this forum.

I'll simple eat popcorn while I watch you ladies verbally berate each other. Again, thanks, to the like-minded people.

shindylahoe · October 2014

I wish to just be on time for once! :P

But yes, I totally get the desire for baby to come sooner. Just like as a kid you always wish Christmas would hurry up.

absolutelymaybe · October 2014

Hey guise, am I late for the party?

Do we need to page @lizzielu82‌ for the dancing mucus plug?

silverwings72 · October 2014

janadeek said:
I see that while I've stepped away, many have had a lot to say on this thread. I appreciate the support most have given or tried to give. But I find the funny comments more encouraging than the degrading ones. I'm not a first-time mom, therefore I have a sense of humor. I have had struggles in my pregnancy but would never use that to manipulate someone else. I WILL have a beautiful daughter and enjoy her when she gets here. But I will never again post to this forum.

I'll simple eat popcorn while I watch you ladies verbally berate each other. Again, thanks, to the like-minded people.

QFP

Wow. Alrighty then. It was nice knowing you! I'm glad you find it funny because that just proves how much of a troll you are. Don't do us any favors by sticking around. I tried to be nice, other ladies even stuck up for you, and this is how you engage in our community???

Bye Felicia! :-h

silverwings72 · October 2014

@amadkins197‌ - you rock! Thank you! It's perfect.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

silverwings72 said:
Can I be frank?? I think it was the bringing in the premature babies and mentioning the loss mamas that sparked some emotion and concern. We are all super sensitive about this subject and I believe it may have come across as using those Mamas to shame OP. Honestly, OP does not sound unreasonable. Shes just tired of being pregnant.

This. 100% this. It was inappropriate and I'm pretty sure our loss and preemie moms would agree.

And @lovebuggies1‌ I wasn't trying to throw you under the bus for being and HG and bed rest mom or for taking a bump time out. I actually didn't remember you were a HG/bed rest mom at all- I don't take notes on people here, sorry. In regards to the time out, I wasn't trying to be rude, but you did in fact miss the conversation we had about being nicer to newbs. The general consensus was that inside jokes, gifs, qfp and jumping down their throats wasn't very welcoming.

junglistmummyx · October 2014

Technically we are all term from 37 weeks so the baby wouldn't have any problems because they are viable now. So don't know what all the fuss is about. I lost my last baby at 24 weeks gave birth and everything and im not offended by this post. I too can't wait and it's more out of being scared it could happen again the longer your pregnant the more U worry

manders9479 · October 2014

Hahaha, now cue the argument about 37 weeks not being term....

lizgrace03 · October 2014

janadeek said:

I see that while I've stepped away, many have had a lot to say on this thread. I appreciate the support most have given or tried to give. But I find the funny comments more encouraging than the degrading ones. I'm not a first-time mom, therefore I have a sense of humor. I have had struggles in my pregnancy but would never use that to manipulate someone else. I WILL have a beautiful daughter and enjoy her when she gets here. But I will never again post to this forum. I'll simple eat popcorn while I watch you ladies verbally berate each other. Again, thanks, to the like-minded people.

Things like this make me think it is very possible to take the "be nice to newbs" mandate too far. There is a difference between being nice to newbs, and being nice to trolls.

Also, WTF at the bolded.

silverwings72 · October 2014

manders9479 said:
Hahaha, now cue the argument about 37 weeks not being term....

Anyone?? Ok, I'll bite.

Pulled this gem off the ACOG website.
https://www.acog.org/About-ACOG/News-Room/News-Releases/2013/Ob-Gyns-Redefine-Meaning-of-Term-Pregnancy

"The following represent the four new definitions of ‘term’ deliveries:

Early Term: Between 37 weeks 0 days and 38 weeks 6 days
Full Term: Between 39 weeks 0 days and 40 weeks 6 days
Late Term: Between 41 weeks 0 days and 41 weeks 6 days
Postterm: Between 42 weeks 0 days and beyond
“This terminology change makes it clear to both patients and doctors that newborn outcomes are not uniform even after 37 weeks,” said Jeffrey L. Ecker, MD, chair of The College’s Committee on Obstetric Practice. “Each week of gestation up to 39 weeks is important for a fetus to fully develop before delivery and have a healthy start.”

On average, a pregnancy with a single fetus lasts 40 weeks from the first day of the last menstrual period. This calculation determines a pregnant woman’s estimated date of delivery (EDD). Previously, babies were considered ‘term’ if they were born anytime between three weeks before and two weeks after the EDD (37–42 weeks of gestation). “Until recently, doctors believed that babies delivered in this five-week window had essentially the same good health outcomes,” said Dr. Ecker.

Research over the past several years, however, shows that every week of gestation matters for the health of newborns. The last few weeks of pregnancy within these 40 weeks allow a baby’s brain and lungs to fully mature. Babies born between 39 weeks 0 days and 40 weeks 6 days gestation have the best health outcomes, compared with babies born before or after this period. This distinct time period is now referred to as “Full Term.”

Peace out, homies. And word to your motha

kstirton · October 2014

I think what makes this post a valid one is that babies are considered full term at 37 weeks... so naturally, that makes us all feel "done" around that time. Statistics show that an equal number of women go into labor naturally at 38 and 39 weeks as they do 40-42 so depending on what you are considering "early" Yeah, I'd be totally cool with baby deciding she's cooked at ready anytime after 37 weeks. That's what our little siggy's and preggo books condition our minds to think. After 37 weeks, your considered good to go or "safe". That's why doctor's are inducing at 39 weeks... But, if my baby girl decides to stay where she is, we won't be coaxing her out until 41 weeks, I want her to have the full 40 weeks if that's what my body chooses.

Kristy774 · October 2014

Sooooo how do you guise feel about membrane stripping at 37 weeks???

Just kidding! Please no one really answer that....

manders9479 · October 2014

Hahahahahaha

silverwings72 · October 2014

Yes, can I please have your opinion on using "Castro Oil" at 37 weeks??

NOT! Lol

lincoln79 · October 2014

I would like a fast forward button for all involved in our situation.

runningmama14 · October 2014

lincoln79 said:
I would like a fast forward button for all involved in our situation.

I bet!

lizzielu82 · October 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

Hey guise, am I late for the party? Do we need to page @lizzielu82‌ for the dancing mucus plug?

Sorry I was off busy eating birthday flan!

On a related note, let's party down with the celebratory N14 mucus plug friend!

lisaren · October 2014

For fucks sakes.. I seriously can't wait for all of you bitches to have your babies.

That was sarcasm, yo.

nikkihrobinson · October 2014

Yes, it's normal to wish for your pregnancy to just be over already! 2 weeks can seem like an eternity to wait when you're ready to meet your baby after waiting & waiting the better part of a year. Not to mention the joy of sleeping on your stomach again! (I can't wait!) Opinions are like @$$holes, everybody's got one...I didn't think your question/post was insensitive in the least. It's how you feel, and it's like how a lot of moms feel at this point. Some people need to get their maternity panties out of a wad and lighten up!

Melissa2216 · October 2014

I'm a second time mom, I have a sense of humor, and I STILL take offense at the "panties in a wad" comment. I bought larger size bikini underwear and they still ride up my ass all day long. I'm so ready to have this baby so I can start to get my normal butt back.

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lisaren · October 2014

Bwhahahaha @kyliedaniellexx‌

Finduilas · October 2014

Please no one jump down my throat, but honestly I wouldn't mind meeting my son early.
I'm excited and I have been patient, and now I'm just like "OH MY WORD THESE LAST FEW WEEKS FEEL LIKE ETERNITY!! Lol"
I'm a FTM, plus I'm exhausted, nausea is beyond old, and I am tired of dealing with people dictating how I can and cannot act while pregnant, (i.e. Telling me I "don't seem to want my child" cause I complain about throwing up, and don't sugar coat my feelings on some of the sucky sides of pregnancy.)

I will be happy whenever my son gets here, whether that was tomorrow or past his due date, but honestly I would love to meet him soon.

akatiegrl · October 2014

of course i'm anxious for my baby to come!

i seriously can't wait to meet her and i'm nervous about delivery and just want it to be over already! i think us getting anxious/wanting it to happen already is a gift because it helps us be more mentally ready for labor.

i'm about a week from my due date which is obviously different than someone who's still a month away. but after having drs and nurses tell me 'any day now' and 'you're so close' it is only making me more anxious and wondering when it's gonna happen!! i want to know the future!

ceb1211 · October 2014

I'm going to be a first time mom, and at this point I like to read & take in as much info as possible, because yeah, the days are dragging on now... But this has just gotten nasty. I don't even want to read anymore!!! Let alone would I dare coment on the topic.
The title of this is "Wishing for early Labor?" If that offends you, why are you in this discussion? There is one called "Monday Bitchfest" if your just looking to be a... Well... Bitch.
Maybe I'm out of line, after all I guess I'm a newby, but I couldn't keep quite. It's really nice to have a place to go to relate to others going through the same things as you, and some of you are ruining that!!!

MrsG1019 · October 2014

ceb1211 said:
I'm going to be a first time mom, and at this point I like to read & take in as much info as possible, because yeah, the days are dragging on now... But this has just gotten nasty. I don't even want to read anymore!!! Let alone would I dare coment on the topic.
The title of this is "Wishing for early Labor?" If that offends you, why are you in this discussion? There is one called "Monday Bitchfest" if your just looking to be a... Well... Bitch.
Maybe I'm out of line, after all I guess I'm a newby, but I couldn't keep quite. It's really nice to have a place to go to relate to others going through the same things as you, and some of you are ruining that!!!

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