What's going on in this week?
So, even though I laugh, roll my eyes, etc. when someone starts a 'just for fun' post about the Ramzi Theory, I have to admit that when
@lgsdesigner posted that pic of the actual theory I ran to grab my u/s pics from both my babies. Yah, I have no more insight than I did before about the sex of this baby. But...you know....I did it just for fun.
Re: FFFC
So last night I wake around 1am to see my DH isn’t in bed. Curious, I get up and look for him and see he is in the hallway bathroom. Fine. As I’m walking back to the bedroom, the floors creak (as they always do), which alarms my very OCD spouse. I crawl back into bed and try to fall back asleep when he burst from the bathroom, turns on every light in the house, and searches for a possible intruder. He then kept waking in the middle of the night and look out the window and checking the house again.
I found this to be quite hilarious, and never told him it was actually ME who was walking around.
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I'm with ya there, sister.
EDD: 5/4/2015
It's a girl!
My little ladies - Lola (RIP), Cecilia, and Peggy Sue
~Mama to two daughters and baby #3 coming soon~
~Mama to two daughters and baby #3 coming soon~
I'm scared shitless of giving birth. I mentioned this in the epidural thread, and after reading the whole thread, I am even more scared. I've even had moments like "Do I really want this baby?"
But those moments only last a second, then I'm like "Of course I do! It's all worth it!"
I know I will get through it and it will be worth it, but I'm terrified of giving birth. And it's not the pain I'm truly afraid of - it's the needles. I'm a huge needle phobic. I can't even look at one without getting lightheaded.
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~Mama to two daughters and baby #3 coming soon~
#1 I ate an entire shrimp at my desk Wednesday (and have another one in the freezer)
#2 I have to go home tonight and hand wash an entire load of dirty dishes in my dishwasher because it won't start. I am pissed at DH because he isn't home to fix it. Not his fault, but for whatever reason I am holding him responsible. Not my usual reaction but I am not happy about my first world problem.
EDIT: That would be a shrimp RING haha.
DD #1: March 20, 2013
DD # 2: May 2, 2015
EDD #3: March 4, 2018
Next year I'm going to have one of these screaming babies too.
I am perfectly fine waiting for the anatomy scan and even then, my major concern will be "Is the baby healthy?"
I'll white knight just a little here to say everyone is at risk for chromosomal issues. More babies with Downs are born to women under 35 than over. You are never at an age when there is zero risk.
Having said that, I agree that a healthy baby is 100% the reason for the early tests and the anatomy scan and really any ultrasound. I get more irritated when women imply finding out the sex is the main reason for these tests vs those who announce the sex after they've had the test and found out their baby is healthy. I've never seen a post or heard an announcement of "It's a boy! And, oh, by the way, we found out the baby has Trisomy 18." I think most people assume that other people are interested in the sex and by announcing that it can be assumed that the baby is healthy.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
This Cluttered Life
DD #1: March 20, 2013
DD # 2: May 2, 2015
EDD #3: March 4, 2018
Having said that, I agree that a healthy baby is 100% the reason for the early tests and the anatomy scan and really any ultrasound. I get more irritated when women imply finding out the sex is the main reason for these tests vs those who announce the sex after they've had the test and found out their baby is healthy. I've never seen a post or heard an announcement of "It's a boy! And, oh, by the way, we found out the baby has Trisomy 18." I think most people assume that other people are interested in the sex and by announcing that it can be assumed that the baby is healthy.
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Unless you are talking about live births, that is inaccurate. It is well researched that women of AMA have increased risks of having children with chromosomal defects. If you have seen a fact about more children with Downs being BORN to younger mothers that's probably because older mothers may more often make the extremely difficult decision of terminating the pregnancy, therefore fewer children with Downs are BORN to them.
You are correct though that no one has 0% chances.
And actually, it's not necessarily about more women over 35 terminating, it's simply that more women of childbearing age are under 35, thus there are far more children born to women under 35 than over. But, as we agree, the odds of having a baby with a trisomy do increase as you get older and no one has a 0% risk.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
This Cluttered Life
Okay that was a depressing FFFC. For your enjoyment: I spent 3 hours after DS went to bed Sunday, reading threads on TB. A thread on TTGP led me to another, led me to Parenting, led me too SAHM, back to Parenting, back to TTGP. Nothing obviously was in proper chronological order and I actually got up and got pen and paper to write down notes and a timeline. I'm still not sure I'm fully caught up.
Coming from someone who did have genetic testing done I can say finding out the sex of the baby was not the reason for the test. After being told that we could be high risk for any of those abnormalities, and being referred to MFM after my OB stated that she saw some thickness on the back of the neck, the two week wait for those results was excruciating for DH and I. After years of infertility, with moments of doubt as to if we would ever be parents, what matters to us most is the health and well being of our baby. Boy or girl, doesn't matter, this is our miracle baby. That being said, as a FTM I want to scream at the top of my lungs every time we reach a milestone, and finding out the sex of our baby is such a time.
Me (34) PCOS
DH (36) Poor morphology and motility
TTC since 2011
2013 cycles 1, 2, and 3 on Clomid, all BFN
2013 cycles 4, and 5 IUI with Clomid, both BFN
DH and I took a break for several months
7/15/2014 started Acupuncture
7/26/2014 start Follistim for IVF cycle, ER on 8/8, develop OHSS, ET almost cancelled
8/13/2014 ET proceeds on our wedding anniversary, transfer 2 5DB, 8/23 BFP
EDD 5/1/2015
I've lost one of the debit cards. Can't find it anywhere. I was totally convinced I gave it back to DH but he says no. So I called the bank to see when it was used last. It was Saturday, apparently at Sonic. I don't remember that! I had to go through messages because I couldn't remember Saturday, or Friday, or Sunday. Nothing about these days stick out. I knew I went to the grocery store, Walmart, and FIL was over but not which days. So I finally get it was Saturday when I went to Walmart but I still don't remember going to Sonic and eating an entire chicken sandwhich. So yeah the debit card is missing and I'm starting to feel like I shouldn't be behind the wheel.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
Yes I can't help but side eye someone that's holding their bump before you even have one. It's odd!!! The last thing I want right now is attention brought to this extra fat I have on my belly.
I was going to make treats for everyone at work and leave a note, but I talked myself out of that. We posed some pumpkins for our FB announcement, and now I don't like the pic. I was going to get one of those pregnant skeleton shirts and wear it to work for our Halloween potluck today and now I'm rethinking that. Omg, Freddy. Do something already!