Agreed with the "loving when DH works a lot" team. I feel bad but sometimes it's more work having him home. He's getting so much better but it's taking many years of reminders!
I also have to say that sometimes DH is more work than Elle and I don't mind when he is working late. I feel awful for saying that but this move has been stressful and I feel like we are constantly bickering.
My DH makes the same $$$, home or working. He's so helpful it really sucks when he has a trip. A typical day without him means in addition to my usual workload (he usually handles all of this):
-I have to do pickup and drop off
-Take care of two dogs. If it is raining or muddy that means 3 baths for each dog for a total of 6 doggie baths a day
-Cook dinner (or order out)
He almost always gets S up and dressed in the morning while I am getting ready. I'm spoiled, really, but when you get used to having all that extra help it's hard when it is just gone for anywhere from one day to two weeks! The house usually stays cleaner when he is gone, though. I'm better at cleaning up as I cook then I always take the time in the evenings to clean up the toys in the living room. I sleep a lot less, though, so there's that.
If anyone buys Giles toys for Christmas they are being returned or donated. I just weeded out a giant pile of toys to put away. With the already giant pile I put away a month ago. Stuffed animals are great but we don't need two dozen.
Also Giles just ate something from the bottom of the toy box. Probably some food he stashed there a week ago. :-??
I was going to say something along these same lines. My 3 kids have SO MANY TOYS!!!!! For Christmas I'm just basically asking for 1 thing for each child of grandparents/aunts/uncles if asked what they want. I'd rather they do something with my kids instead of buy something for them. We will definitely be donating many of our current items before Christmas comes to make room. My post-Christmas goal is to completely reorganize our toys. It's really ridiculous and embarrassing.
@blairwitch I do not know how you do it with you DH working from home! My DH was doing it about 2-3 days a week and I also work from home so it was so hard. He makes the kids extra crazy when he is home. I am so glad he is only working from home 1 day a week now and it is my day off so the kids and I just go out for the day!
I love having DH home and hate when he travels, but he is like having a third child. Wednesday night he worked late and I had the kids in bed at 7:45. Last night he got home at 7:15 and the kids were so excited to see him, they got all crazy, and bedtime took longer. DD was in bed by 8:20 and it took until 8:45 to get DS in bed.
I keep asking my SO when he's going to start hunting regularly like he usually does around this time of year. He's been so busy with work that he really hasn't had time... but I like when he hunts because it gives him some down time annnnd... I don't feel guilty doing whatever the heck I want whenever the heck I want to.
I agree on the issue with Christmas. I keep telling DH I want to go easy because we just have so many toys in this house and I feel that we buy, just to buy. My mom does not like to hear that the kids do not need anything. As horrible as it is, since the kids are too young to notice, I wish our family woul give them money for their college accounts. I am not saying a large deposit, but if they were going to spend $30 on a toy, give them the $30. I am definately putting money into their accounts for Christmas. I do want some toys from Santa under the tree, but I am not going crazy. Two Christmas's ago we bought a giant toy box and last year a big shelving unit to hold toys, this year we need to clean out old toys and not over buy because we are out of space. Or we will be getting rid of the family room furniture!
@somerandomchick every single time I go to get rid of some of LO's toys he starts playing with them again, ugh. Then, I can't get rid of them because I feel guilty.
I confess that I'm guilty of being the person who bought most of Silas's toys. In my defense, I know what his interests are and usually the toys I choose get a lot of use. We doesn't go to daycare either so having plenty to play with at home is important. I try to buy stuff with a big age range too. He has a renewed interest in the snail at the moment
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I still don't agree with leaving your kid in the car alone. Would it have been easier to have left Haddy in the car while I walked two steps into the groomers this morning? Sure. Would it have been easier yesterday for me to have left Haddy in the car while I walked two steps into the cleaners? Yep.
I hate giving my H back rubs. He has a lot of tension so he asks for one almost daily. He's always willing to reciprocate but my back doesn't usually hurt and he doesn't give very good massages. I just don't want to do it everyday for the rest of my life!! (
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I hate giving my H back rubs. He has a lot of tension so he asks for one almost daily. He's always willing to reciprocate but my back doesn't usually hurt and he doesn't give very good massages. I just don't want to do it everyday for the rest of my life!! (
I just do a shitty job and he doesn't usually ask again for a while
My DH works from home...and I SAH. I LOVE when he has to go into the office!
My dh works from home too, when he's not traveling. I like having him around but I know Aiden and I bug him too much when he's working. It's hard for me to remember he's actually working so I tend to go up to his office when I shouldn't.
It's hard when he travels, but I enjoy star fishing in the bed at night
My FFFC: I may or may not have just had a mini meltdown, toddler style, because the door installer was an hour late to repair my tenants door. And then I may or may not have called Lowes and verbally accosted the store manager. I did apologize later, but I still feel like an ass. In my defense, I've been trying to fix the door for over a month and have been screwed over by 3 different companies.
I mean, COME ON!!!! How hard is it to fix one effing door.
When my SO says he's working from the office today, I'm all like ~X( get the FFFFFFFFFFFF out of my space.
He slows me down and he just sits and watches me. I don't like when my boss sits at my desk and monitors my performance... cuts into my bump time.
This is me when my husband gets the day off. In his defense, he's out the door at 4:30 am & works pretty late. He doesn't know how to run the house just like I don't know how to run his jobs. He'll help, but I have to tell him what to do usually.
Having Eliza help sort the toys and pick which toys to donate really helped us. She did want to keep some that you would think were obviously in the donate or throw away pile but it helped that she was part of the process.
Okay so I have a couple. Today I bought a bag of Pretzel Crisps. White chocolate and peppermint. I say screw your pumpkin. I'm ready for Christmas treats.
Now for a serious one. I feel like a bad mom a lot lately. I only see my kids for a few hours everyday. 6-8pm and maybe 20-30 minutes in the morning before I leave for work. This morning it was only five minutes. When I get home I feel like I cook and clean and we do bedtime and that's it. I don't get quality time with my kids except for bedtime. Then there are nights when I get out of the house for a moms night out and I feel guilty because I don't choose my kids for those few hours. DH asked me last night if he was going to be a bad dad when we switch roles and I stay home and of course I don't think he will be but mommy guilt doesn't always have to make sense.
I hate giving my H back rubs. He has a lot of tension so he asks for one almost daily. He's always willing to reciprocate but my back doesn't usually hurt and he doesn't give very good massages. I just don't want to do it everyday for the rest of my life!! (
Buy him an inversion table for Christmas. I recently received one as a gift from DH for my birthday and I haven't asked for a massage since.
@sparkymcgeee Mommy guilt is hard. I'm in the same boat, but remember that it is about quality and not quantity. I try to make up for it by reading an extra book to him at bedtime and having tons of fun on the weekends. It's hard, though, I know. I'm just now starting to schedule some MNO as well.
@Cfreymc My husband is the same. I used to groan and half ass it but now I feel guilty because it happens more from stress due to his PTSD than from physical labor back in the Army. I think I hate doing it because I feel like he's constantly asking me to rub his back or his head or his legs and never asks if I need something. He's getting better about spontaneously giving me shoulder or foot rubs though so at least progress is being made.
@sparkymcgeeeChrissieMeas, I try to make sure that for that full 2.5 hours I am fully engaged and I plan lots of things on the weekend. Mommy guilt sucks.
Re: fffc
I just looked, I thnk she looks pretty much the same, a little thinner overall maybe, but basically the same.
@blairwitch I do not know how you do it with you DH working from home! My DH was doing it about 2-3 days a week and I also work from home so it was so hard. He makes the kids extra crazy when he is home. I am so glad he is only working from home 1 day a week now and it is my day off so the kids and I just go out for the day!
I love having DH home and hate when he travels, but he is like having a third child. Wednesday night he worked late and I had the kids in bed at 7:45. Last night he got home at 7:15 and the kids were so excited to see him, they got all crazy, and bedtime took longer. DD was in bed by 8:20 and it took until 8:45 to get DS in bed.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
It's hard when he travels, but I enjoy star fishing in the bed at night
I mean, COME ON!!!! How hard is it to fix one effing door.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
BFP#1: 11.22.2012 EDD: 7.22.2013 DS Born 7.24.2013
BFP#2: 11.26.2014 EDD: 7.25.2015 *chemical confirmed 12.08.14*
And I think she actually looks better.