So let's talk TOT

klondikebar · October 2014

luxannie said:

I let kids pick their own candy out of the bowl. They're usually so excited and thoughtful about their choices. I can't wait!!!

I loved picking my own candy as a kid. It's so exciting.

vandelay · October 2014

I let them pick their own as well, and IDGAF whether they take a giant handful. I don't let DD do that at others' houses, but I don't get bent out of shape if kids do it at our house.

fancynewbeesly · October 2014

I will reiterate again, I freakin' LOVE handing out candy! The kids are SO happy. I let them pick. I don't bat an eye if they take a handful.

klondikebar · October 2014

I let the kids pick which big candy bar they want and then just give one each of the other candy treats.

I almost forgot that I have plastic fangs that come with a bag of candy blood in addition to the oozing zombie chocolate. I like searching the stores for unique candy.

klondikebar · October 2014

I love B.A. Sweetie! @bunkinmama

tattooedtragedy · October 2014

I'm excited to take both kids out this year. I'm just hoping the weather is alright. Last year I was walking around the neighborhood 8 months pregnant in rainy cold slush. It was pretty miserable but on the plus side, candy.

I've never lived in a place that got TOTers I wish we did I think I would go all out and have so much fun with it.

klondikebar · October 2014

You're welcome.

NotSharknado · October 2014

mcbenny said:
Thanks for reminding me again why I don't come here as much.

But you're the one who is getting bent out of shape. You don't think you're coming off a little harsh here?

klondikebar · October 2014

I tagged you in the other thread @sunnysideup26, but I had another idea. What about some type of empty plastic bottle and duct tape? You can cut a hole in the side for candy and add on the other parts in cardboard. Then cover in colored duct tape.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

DH's youngest sister is special needs. She's 23 so she's not exactly a kid but she'll never be a fully functioning adult. She loves TOT and we're not going to take that away from her. The family tries to encourage her to speak up for herself but she's not always able to. We try not to speak up for her to encourage her independence. So there are a variety of reasons why someone might not say please or thank you for someone else.

vandelay · October 2014

I don't think anyone was or is upset about what you said, @mcbenny; just disagreeing with you about how big a deal it is if other kids (not our own kids) say TOT or TY. I didn't take the comment as calling you, in particular, self righteous. I took it as a general statement that it's not worth getting annoyed over it.

vandelay · October 2014

SunnySideUp26 said:
Is two a no for TOTing? My kid won't repeat the phrase "trick or treat" yet. He says thank you and please. Does that count?

I guess I should rethink last year with the sangria and wagon trick or treating. With my (at the time) one year old. He looked cute. We loved it. Then there was more drinking and passing out candy to ALL THE KIDS!

I don't see why you should have to change your plan -- it sounds fun! We TOTed at two; we just didn't hit a lot of houses.

klondikebar · October 2014

My kids TOTed at 2. It's a fun age for it IMO. I love seeing the toddlers faces light up at the sight of candy and you never know what they'll do. We've had some hesitant young ones and I've had to walk the candy down the driveway since our decorations are scary. Then we'll get the brave toddlers marching right up and poking my zombie skeletons.

vandelay · October 2014

Eek, so cute, @SunnySideUp26‌!

klondikebar · October 2014

He's so adorable @sunnysideup26.

You should take a photo of him in a dress shirt and glasses for a before and after.

msdrdg · October 2014

I dressed up DS when he was 4 months old. I took him TOTing the next year. Nobody side eyed me, they just oooed and ahhhed at the cute little pumpkin.

If you come to my door and aren't scared off by my crazy dogs you get a hand full of candy. I don't care who you are or what you are dressed as or what you say/don't say (unless you tell me to fuck off or something). I wish we got more TOTers. We live across from a cemetery and we decorate and have pumpkins and lights and yet we only get like 10 kids.

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

mcbenny said:

mcbenny said:

I just came here to say I feel like @KlondikeBar is and should be the authority on this issue.
I think I sprained an eye at this.

Why? That sounds a little hatery.
Sounded like bullshit. I spoke how I saw it. Like she's the only one who knows Halloween.

...

littlestjerry · October 2014

We will also leave a bowl out so DH and I can both go around with DS. I leave a note that says "Please take one...OR ELSE!" I wonder how many kids get candy before one asshole dumps the whole bowl in his/her bag.

Oh, and I buy whatever candy I like because I will play some role in eating it so...

NotSharknado · October 2014

Disagreeing and coming off bitchy aren't the same thing.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

mcbenny said:
Thanks for reminding me again why I don't come here as much.

Speaking of eye straining.

chevronseven · October 2014

I really want to do a family costume. Like my dream would have been for me and DH to be Anna and Kristoff and LO to be Sven or Olaf, but Frozen costumes are too expensive so we'll probably end up doing Doctor Who like last year. LO already has a TARDIS onesie and DH has the 11th Doctor's outfit, so I just need to throw together an Amy outfit.

NotSharknado · October 2014

luxannie said:
I don't think mcbenny was saying anything to be an asshole. I mean I haven't been around forever, but I think she's straightforward but not mean.

But when read through the eyes of someone who already has heightened sensitivity to these types of situations, I can see why offense was taken.

I'm sorry you got piled on @mcbenny‌.

Ugh, she did not get piled on. She's the one who came in guns a blazing. If she wasn't then she needs to cut back the exclamation points!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NotSharknado · October 2014

She took it personal and got a bit over dramatic and pulling the "woe is me, everyone is jumping on me" card. Again.

klondikebar · October 2014

klondikebar said:

Some children have medical conditions or are just plain shy. Unless they say, "Haha, fuck you. I got your candy, bitch!" don't judge them or their parents for not saying TOT or thank you.

mcbenny said:

I was going along with you until you said they don't have to say trick or treat or thank you like if you not in a costume you can at least say TOT?! Or thank you? I don't think that's too much to ask.

mcbenny said:

I didn't say I was judging any fucking body. I simply said no one could acknowledge the person at the door in anyway? Other people brought up a SN child so I said what about the parent? That was all JFC.
I thanked everyone that gave my kids stuff last year or waved at them or smiled from the sidewalk. I said an acknowledgement of some kind. I didn't say bow down before me oh little one before you get candy. I simply said why wouldn't there be some kind of acknowledgement from someone child or parent? Do people really grab candy and run? Like where does that go on at?

You didn't go along with me about not judging, but you're not judging. So you were actually agreeing with me?

NotSharknado · October 2014

mcbenny said:

NotSharknado said:

She took it personal and got a bit over dramatic and pulling the "woe is me, everyone is jumping on me" card. Again.

I actually wasn't even bothered until I was called self righteous by people who like have sticks up their ass about carts.

I also didn't pull the woe is me card. It is no matter what I say - it is wrong card. Someone will say the same exact fucking thing and there will be crickets.

I don't see this at all. I find myself agreeing with you a lot and I see others agreeing with you. Read back at your responses, they come off a little harsh even if that's not what you meant.

caladpi02 · October 2014

I feel like TOT is not a big deal where I grew up. We never had TOTers at our house and honestly, it was full of middle school and high school kids causing problems and scaring little kids. If I see 7th graders and up they are likely drunk or stoned and troublesome. I say this on good authority because I grew up here and that's what we did on Halloween, school night be damned.

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