Hey look! The My Little Pony crew has finally decided to grace us with their presence! They've been all over TB since the mayhem/chaos started, but they hadn't come to play with the Haggard Glitter Trolls yet. I was kind of feeling left out. Too bad they've lost some of their funny along the way.
Man, you guys are even meaner than people say you are. Sick burn, dude.
In some ways I think it depends on your "social circle", my friends and family would think this idea is totally awesome, whereas some of the board members here obviously would be offended. Only you know your friends and family. So if you feel they'd be cool with it, I say go ahead and make something special for him. In a sense celebrating the father is already untraditional so since you're already on the untraditional route go for it. But I'm sure you knew posting something like this on here would get tons of "no's".
#1 BFP 11/6/12 EDD 07/19/13 Delivered 07/23/13 - Baby boy Everett John
I think it sounds like a sweet idea for the father. I don't know how many guys would go to a "shower" though. A bbq or to watch a sports game maybe,- guys night.
In some ways I think it depends on your "social circle", my friends and family would think this idea is totally awesome, whereas some of the board members here obviously would be offended. Only you know your friends and family. So if you feel they'd be cool with it, I say go ahead and make something special for him. In a sense celebrating the father is already untraditional so since you're already on the untraditional route go for it. But I'm sure you knew posting something like this on here would get tons of "no's".
FYI I'd be offended IRL also, not just because I happen to post on this board. Someone throwing a party "for someone else" where the gifts received will belong to them is tacky no two ways about it.
Is there anyway someone else would want to throw you guys a shower? I would think since it's his first baby & yours are so much older that there is nothing wrong with a shower as long as someone else threw it for you guys. Or if you end up just wanting to do something special for your hubby, the guys day beer & sports thing sounds like a better idea.
If I was in your position I would just invite his friends over for football, beer, food and cigars. Do it as informally as possible though and make no mention of the word shower because it is weird.
No shower. How about just having his friends over to watch a football game and celebrate that he's going to be a father? no shower needed... no gifts and such... just guys drinking beer and watching football.
In some ways I think it depends on your "social circle", my friends and family would think this idea is totally awesome, whereas some of the board members here obviously would be offended. Only you know your friends and family. So if you feel they'd be cool with it, I say go ahead and make something special for him. In a sense celebrating the father is already untraditional so since you're already on the untraditional route go for it. But I'm sure you knew posting something like this on here would get tons of "no's".
Nope. It is against etiquette and rude to throw a gift giving event for yourself. The gifts received at a baby shower benefit both parents. It doesn't matter if your circle seems okay with it, you'll never know exactly what they think. Is it worth potentially offending or making a friend uncomfortable? Someone else is more than ok to host a shower for the mom or dad to be (for their first child) but it should never be the parents themselves. Never.
All you were missing was "all my friends jump off a cliff....."
I learned from @mauibliss (I think it was you lol) that you jump when they jump because you'll have no friends if you don't. But then you could totally throw yourself a shower since you'd be the only one left.
All you were missing was "all my friends jump off a cliff....."
I learned from @mauibliss (I think it was you lol) that you jump when they jump because you'll have no friends if you don't. But then you could totally throw yourself a shower since you'd be the only one left.
No, because if I throw a shower and no one's around, how am I supposed to get all the good loot?!!??! Geez, you people are amateurs.
Steal their wallets before they jump and buy yourself everything. Obviously.
Thank you all for your imput but a day of beer n football is not for my husband he hates sports n doesn't drink he is a pastor so strippers are out as well as porn ... I know these things are normal in today's world but not in our life he does want a daddy to be shower he even said so to his other pastor friends he should have a daddy shower .. I have decided to do a sip n see after the baby comes after all the negitive remarks of how distasteful a daddy to be shower is i have decided to do a sip n see following our daughters dedication cermony
A sip and see sounds great. One of my friends threw her husband a "oh crap, baby's almost here!" party for her husband a few weeks before delivery. No one called it a shower at any point. It was a whisky tasting with guys complete with giving them rides to and from the place and cigars. They had a great time and it was nice since it was a while before the guys could all hang out again.
I am throwing a beer and diaper party for my DH. Guy friends are coming over, football, food and beer. The guys are being requested to bring a box of diapers to celebrate. I won't be there, of course. Hoping to do it the same day as my my shower, which I am not throwing. So while the female half of their SO's will be at my shower, it gives the guys something to do. But that's as far as it's going. We've spoke with some of our friends about it and they're on board with celebrating. It's an exciting time, and after the fertility struggles we've had, it's gladly celbrated.
I am throwing a beer and diaper party for my DH. Guy friends are coming over, football, food and beer. The guys are being requested to bring a box of diapers to celebrate. I won't be there, of course. Hoping to do it the same day as my my shower, which I am not throwing. So while the female half of their SO's will be at my shower, it gives the guys something to do. But that's as far as it's going. We've spoke with some of our friends about it and they're on board with celebrating. It's an exciting time, and after the fertility struggles we've had, it's gladly celbrated.
Telling people what to give as a gift (in this case, diapers) is really poor taste and offensive. If it were me, I'd buy you a case of adult diapers... then play dumb and go "oh, you meant for the baby! I'm sorry... I thought this was a gift for your DH"...
I don't think a guy should have a typical baby shower, but if someone else like a friend or brother wants to host a diaper party then I've heard those are pretty fun. The host supplies the beer and pizza, and guests bring diapers. It gives the guys a reason to hang out and drink beer together. And regarding having a shower for the second or third shower...tacky if you throw yourself, but not tacky is someone throws for you and you have a lot of people who want to attend. Especially considering that your others are way older, it's like you're having two showers back to back. What's wrong with a bunch of close family and friends getting together and celebrating this surprise baby? I don't know about ya'll, but I've been to a few "second" baby showers and I loved them! It's mostly the friends and family who do this because it's fun and people like to shop for babies, I do at least.
I don't think a guy should have a typical baby shower, but if someone else like a friend or brother wants to host a diaper party then I've heard those are pretty fun. The host supplies the beer and pizza, and guests bring diapers. It gives the guys a reason to hang out and drink beer together. And regarding having a shower for the second or third shower...tacky if you throw yourself, but not tacky is someone throws for you and you have a lot of people who want to attend. Especially considering that your others are way older, it's like you're having two showers back to back. What's wrong with a bunch of close family and friends getting together and celebrating this surprise baby? I don't know about ya'll, but I've been to a few "second" baby showers and I loved them! It's mostly the friends and family who do this because it's fun and people like to shop for babies, I do at least.
Because guys need a reason to hang out and drink beer together?
Our friends have done this for other friends and everyone has had a great time. Call it tacky, but our close friends have already asked us if we were doing anything for my DH. Our friends have no problem bringing a box diapers as it's a celebration. Especially for the daddy to be.
Plus any excuse for the SO's to hang out with each other and drink beer is always welcomed. I guess our friends are excited to celebrate the new addition, regardless if a box of diapers are being requested or not. Our friends enjoy helping each other out. If someone throws a party everyone brings a dish. If we are watching football, everyone brings beer. It's just what we do.
Our friends have done this for other friends and everyone has had a great time. Call it tacky, but our close friends have already asked us if we were doing anything for my DH. Our friends have no problem bringing a box diapers as it's a celebration. Especially for the daddy to be.
Plus any excuse for the SO's to hang out with each other and drink beer is always welcomed. I guess our friends are excited to celebrate the new addition, regardless if a box of diapers are being requested or not. Our friends enjoy helping each other out. If someone throws a party everyone brings a dish. If we are watching football, everyone brings beer. It's just what we do.
Why can't your friends come and drink beer without being charge a cover fee of a box of diapers?
They asked us if we were doing anything for DH. I told them we'd like to have the guys over the same day as the shower. It's "tradition" in our group of friends to have a beer and diaper party. No one said they HAVE to, but it's what it's we do. It started 4 years ago when our first group of friends had the first baby of the group. Everyone dug it, so it's continued with all new babies. Our friends are different I guess. The guys look foward to it, just like the girls do with the baby showers. No one is REQUIRED to buy diapers. They aren't going to get turned away if they don't. LOL
Like I meantioned before, we do a lot of things with our friends and find many reasons to have small events. We all have super busy lives and enjoy being with each other and if it means bringing diapers, food, beer, a housewarming gift, engagement gifts, etc. I guess our friends are weird. We just don't look to deep into it. We all like to have a good time. Gifts or not.
Maybe I just don't like to judge people or be quick to call someone tacky. When my good friend's other good friend wanted to throw her a baby shower for baby #2 and I got an invite, I didn't roll my eyes and say, how tacky. I don't think of a shower in the literal sense that it's only for first time parents, I see as a chance to buy something cute for baby and hang out with my friends. And if I had a problem with it, I wouldn't go. Plain and simple. This is my first pregnancy, so I really don't know what to expect with shower etc, but I've been invited to a ton, and I love them! I love buying presents whether they've been registered for or not. And I don't judge my friends (typically who you get an invite from to begin with) as tacky or not. Do you think it's tacky that I'm having two showers? One in my city hosted my my step mom, and one in my hometown for all my relatives hosted by family? Or maybe I should just make everyone travel to my city to avoid someone judging me as being selfish for having two LOL. I'm hosting neither so I'm not really worried about it, people can choose to come or not. It doesn't matter either way. I'm just thankful that I have family and friends who would do something so nice for me. Many of y'all sound so bitter, like you hate baby showers or something.
Maybe I just don't like to judge people or be quick to call someone tacky. When my good friend's other good friend wanted to throw her a baby shower for baby #2 and I got an invite, I didn't roll my eyes and say, how tacky. I don't think of a shower in the literal sense that it's only for first time parents, I see as a chance to buy something cute for baby and hang out with my friends. And if I had a problem with it, I wouldn't go. Plain and simple. This is my first pregnancy, so I really don't know what to expect with shower etc, but I've been invited to a ton, and I love them! I love buying presents whether they've been registered for or not. And I don't judge my friends (typically who you get an invite from to begin with) as tacky or not. Do you think it's tacky that I'm having two showers? One in my city hosted my my step mom, and one in my hometown for all my relatives hosted by family? Or maybe I should just make everyone travel to my city to avoid someone judging me as being selfish for having two LOL. I'm hosting neither so I'm not really worried about it, people can choose to come or not. It doesn't matter either way. I'm just thankful that I have family and friends who would do something so nice for me. Many of y'all sound so bitter, like you hate baby showers or something.
Well aren't you a peach?
*Going back to my corner to be bitter and judgy now*
LOL I'm just stating my opinion which we all entitled to. Just because I wouldn't have a second shower doesn't mean that everyone should be like me and if they're not, I'm going to call them tacky. That's all I'm saying. Try not to hate me over this, it's just thebump.com, not real life. When my husband announced that we were expecting, all his guy friends were asking if he's having a diaper party because they want in. Same thing when we bought our house, all our friends asked if we were having a stock the bar party or what we needed because they wanted to bring something. We politely replied we don't need anything, but they brought gifts anyway. Maybe we just like buying stuff for each other, and maybe we're weird and everyone else is normal LOL.
Maybe I just don't like to judge people or be quick to call someone tacky. When my good friend's other good friend wanted to throw her a baby shower for baby #2 and I got an invite, I didn't roll my eyes and say, how tacky. I don't think of a shower in the literal sense that it's only for first time parents, I see as a chance to buy something cute for baby and hang out with my friends. And if I had a problem with it, I wouldn't go. Plain and simple. This is my first pregnancy, so I really don't know what to expect with shower etc, but I've been invited to a ton, and I love them! I love buying presents whether they've been registered for or not. And I don't judge my friends (typically who you get an invite from to begin with) as tacky or not. Do you think it's tacky that I'm having two showers? One in my city hosted my my step mom, and one in my hometown for all my relatives hosted by family? Or maybe I should just make everyone travel to my city to avoid someone judging me as being selfish for having two LOL. I'm hosting neither so I'm not really worried about it, people can choose to come or not. It doesn't matter either way. I'm just thankful that I have family and friends who would do something so nice for me. Many of y'all sound so bitter, like you hate baby showers or something.
a) if your 2 showers, in different cities, are something that was offered to you and hosted by someone else, fine.
b) any kind if diaper/book party is tacky and there is no amount of fluff or glitter that makes it acceptable to tell someone what to get you as a gift. It's just tacky and rude.
What about baby showers for baby #2 (and #3 and…) Baby showers for the second-time mom (and third timers) have become acceptable only recently, but if friends, family, or coworkers want to throw showers for all your beautiful babes, why stop them? Keep in mind that it’s particularly helpful to register for gifts for subsequent babies, because depending on when you had the first child, you may not need a load of supplies — only a mountain of diapers! Want to forgo the gifts this time? Just ask the friend who is throwing the party to indicate on the invitation that you want only the pleasure of their company.
These celebrations can be huge blowouts -- a trip to Vegas or Mexico -- or a simple fishing or golf trip, barbecue or cigar party. It all depends on the guy. We’ve heard the festivities can include a baby bottle beer-drinking contest (really), or even better, the dad-to-be buys a keg and each guy who attends brings his “entry fee” -- a pack of diapers -- in order to partake.
I'm sure you'll all find an etiquette website that says something opposite which is why the whole etiquette idea is contradicting so I recommend not being so quick to judge people because they read a different etiquette website than you did.
We'll I have to get back to work now, this was fun. I still look forward to your legitimate sources guys Seriously, baby stuff is new to me so I really don't know anything. When I have a questions, I go to baby websites and compare. All say different things. Regardless, I will be having a shower for only first baby and if someone wants to throw my hubby a diaper party, I won't intervene and say no.
So to the poster here, I think we can all agree that YOU should not throw your husband a shower. Have a great day guys!!
Bahahaha!! Do you know that XO Corporations and other parenting websites link those articles to increase revenue for their sponsors? So what you are referencing is a load of marketing bullshit, steering people in the direction of feeling obligated to spend money so businesses make a profit. It has ZERO to do with actual etiquette.
Try a legitimate source, kitten.
This... all of this... companies will write an article saying it's ok to do ANYTHING if it increases their site visits, which in turn, increases their revenue. Just because it's ON the internet doesn't make it true. Sorry sweetcheeks.
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#1 BFP 11/6/12 EDD 07/19/13 Delivered 07/23/13 - Baby boy Everett John
#2 BFP 07/06/14 EDD 03/12/15
I think it's a nice thought, but are you sure he would want a shower? My guy would be mortified.
Nope. It is against etiquette and rude to throw a gift giving event for yourself. The gifts received at a baby shower benefit both parents. It doesn't matter if your circle seems okay with it, you'll never know exactly what they think. Is it worth potentially offending or making a friend uncomfortable? Someone else is more than ok to host a shower for the mom or dad to be (for their first child) but it should never be the parents themselves. Never.
I learned from @mauibliss (I think it was you lol) that you jump when they jump because you'll have no friends if you don't. But then you could totally throw yourself a shower since you'd be the only one left.
Steal their wallets before they jump and buy yourself everything. Obviously.
I am throwing a beer and diaper party for my DH. Guy friends are coming over, football, food and beer. The guys are being requested to bring a box of diapers to celebrate. I won't be there, of course. Hoping to do it the same day as my my shower, which I am not throwing. So while the female half of their SO's will be at my shower, it gives the guys something to do. But that's as far as it's going. We've spoke with some of our friends about it and they're on board with celebrating. It's an exciting time, and after the fertility struggles we've had, it's gladly celbrated.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
Our friends have done this for other friends and everyone has had a great time. Call it tacky, but our close friends have already asked us if we were doing anything for my DH. Our friends have no problem bringing a box diapers as it's a celebration. Especially for the daddy to be.
Plus any excuse for the SO's to hang out with each other and drink beer is always welcomed. I guess our friends are excited to celebrate the new addition, regardless if a box of diapers are being requested or not. Our friends enjoy helping each other out. If someone throws a party everyone brings a dish. If we are watching football, everyone brings beer. It's just what we do.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
They asked us if we were doing anything for DH. I told them we'd like to have the guys over the same day as the shower. It's "tradition" in our group of friends to have a beer and diaper party. No one said they HAVE to, but it's what it's we do. It started 4 years ago when our first group of friends had the first baby of the group. Everyone dug it, so it's continued with all new babies. Our friends are different I guess. The guys look foward to it, just like the girls do with the baby showers. No one is REQUIRED to buy diapers. They aren't going to get turned away if they don't. LOL
Like I meantioned before, we do a lot of things with our friends and find many reasons to have small events. We all have super busy lives and enjoy being with each other and if it means bringing diapers, food, beer, a housewarming gift, engagement gifts, etc. I guess our friends are weird. We just don't look to deep into it. We all like to have a good time. Gifts or not.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
Baby showers for the second-time mom (and third timers) have become acceptable only recently, but if friends, family, or coworkers want to throw showers for all your beautiful babes, why stop them? Keep in mind that it’s particularly helpful to register for gifts for subsequent babies, because depending on when you had the first child, you may not need a load of supplies — only a mountain of diapers! Want to forgo the gifts this time? Just ask the friend who is throwing the party to indicate on the invitation that you want only the pleasure of their company.
What happens at a man shower
These celebrations can be huge blowouts -- a trip to Vegas or Mexico -- or a simple fishing or golf trip, barbecue or cigar party. It all depends on the guy. We’ve heard the festivities can include a baby bottle beer-drinking contest (really), or even better, the dad-to-be buys a keg and each guy who attends brings his “entry fee” -- a pack of diapers -- in order to partake.
From thebump.com
https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/baby-showers/qa/man-showers.aspx