2nd FB group discussion

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LadyXaverian · October 2014

@britt1406 If I were you, I'd edit the title to include the word "Facebook". I think more people will notice the thread that way!

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liladelphia215 · October 2014

I would join. I'm in the original FB group - which is great - but big and hard to get a handle on who everyone is. I love the small feel of my February 2011 FB group (There's only 60 of us). I'm not sure how strict I would make the rules though because life happens.. some people take a vacation from FB. I think if you don't post for a long while (a few months or more) and don't respond to "Are you okay?" posts then that's one thing, but making a post limit per month is a little strict IMO, but others may think differently

ksilmom11 · October 2014

I just got a new bump account last week. But was an active member with DS in 2010-2011. I love my dec 2011 group of 115 girls.

I'd be interested.

liladelphia215 · October 2014

MrsDigger10 said:

I think it was discussed that after babies were born we would wait a month or two and see who stuck around. From those posters possibly create a FB group.

My last BMB did terrible on FB. They were very catty and I eventually left the group (sorry if there are any sept11 ladies on here, it was just too much drama for me).

I am hoping by waiting that won't be the case with this group!

This is what I think should happen - otherwise, the second group will still end up very large.

ksilmom11 · October 2014

I'm down for waiting. I just love the friendships I've gained through my first group. And would love to talk issues over again as a second time mom.

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kellyfo14 · October 2014

I'm in.

ksilmom11 · October 2014

@Britt1406‌ I've met some of my "online friends" irl too!! Just met a new girl last weekend. Lol.

How old is your first?

liladelphia215 · October 2014

If the group is small enough, you get a feel of who never posts and who just may be out of town. I'm not sure if I would have a set rule on it.

Lanatir · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:

irishgrover said:

I might consider joining the 2nd group if there aren't a ton of member and we don't allow inactive members. I'm not sure how you'd track how many times someone posts per month but maybe do a cleaning house post and whoever doesn't "like" it within 24-48 hours will be removed? Just a thought.

That's not entirely fair either. When I am on a cruise I don't check facebook - so that's a week where I can't post and then I am SOL and kicked out of the group?

Plus, some of us are on computers only. I'm so old school with my phone, they tore the school down. hahaha. So if I'm away from my house at all, no internet unless I drag a computer with me or borrow someone else's.

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ksilmom11 · October 2014

Yes! I love it. And that's what I want again. My current group will be super helpful but it won't be the same as a bunch of other moms currently going through it.

My DS will be 3 in December.

AlfiesMOM · October 2014

I would consider joining! I am in the other one and its good but it is really large. My old BMB FB group had rules about posting (it was at least once a month). I really liked that and it did bring the group down a lot.

MusicFanatic · October 2014

Id be open to it.
I kinda left the other one- it was just too much for me. Too many people I feel I didn't know at all. I'd be open in the future to a smaller one with people who are more familiar to me.

MusicFanatic · October 2014

FTR, I'd never leave

I like FB better for phone purposes, but I find this format easier to keep up with.

liladelphia215 · October 2014

MusicFanatic said:

Id be open to it. I kinda left the other one- it was just too much for me. Too many people I feel I didn't know at all. I'd be open in the future to a smaller one with people who are more familiar to me.

I wondered about this. Yours was one of the names I recognized.

motherboy · October 2014

I'd be interested in it. I'd like to privately share pics of the new baby and my stupid phone doesn't upload pics to the bump app. I left the other group too. It was really large.

I still prefer the bumps format with titles that I can choose to read or not.

YaMrWhite · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:

I am down with a FB for after the babies are born as well, but I hope ladies are planning on sticking around here. I love it here, I like the format better, I think it is easier to read all the comments, so I hope this board stays active after the births and everyone doesn't defect to FB.....

Ditto this. The FB group that is already active moves WAY too fast for me to keep up with. Lots of insignificant posts to skim through just because it's too easy to post a random thought.

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liladelphia215 · October 2014

~200 but not all are very active - but it's a lot of faces. It's a good group no drama, which is very nice - but like the other ladies said.. it's a lot to try to keep up with.

ETA: It's a lot especially if you are trying to keep up here, too. Luckily my projects at work have been at a stand still so I'm able to keep up with both here and there... sort of.

MusicFanatic · October 2014

liladelphia215 said:

MusicFanatic said:

Id be open to it. I kinda left the other one- it was just too much for me. Too many people I feel I didn't know at all. I'd be open in the future to a smaller one with people who are more familiar to me.

I wondered about this. Yours was one of the names I recognized.

Well I'm still here!

I just couldn't keep up. And because I felt like I didn't know the ladies as well, it was super hard for me to connect real names with names here. And so many of the ladies didn't even post here, so I felt like I was mostly with random women.

Totally up for a different (maybe smaller) group again of ladies from here, though, in the future!

southernyankeegirl · October 2014

I would want to join for support as LO goes through phases in sync with your kids but I am super cautious about who knows my real name. It would be a game-time decision to see how comfortable I feel with the ladies who are joining. The smaller and more exclusive the group, the more likely I will join.

I don't really care how active they are on the FB group, but I care how long they've been on here and how active here to rule out potential catfish.

Samuelismomma · October 2014

I'm in it the fb group! I think it has around 200 members but I notice a lot of us are the same posters. I think they need to kinda clean house. It is a closed group. I woiuld love another board or something after baby is born to get to know ladies more and meet irl. My ds is 2 1/2

liladelphia215 · October 2014

Maybe in early March we can reassess? By then we will all have had our babies for about a month.. those who are still here will probably be here for the long run and we can always add someone if a very familiar face that we love reappears? Or is that too long to wait? I'd rather wait and have a smaller group of those who are likely to stick around...

aerotigergirl · October 2014

MusicFanatic said:

Id be open to it. I kinda left the other one- it was just too much for me. Too many people I feel I didn't know at all. I'd be open in the future to a smaller one with people who are more familiar to me.

I'm feeling the same way, honestly. I am in the current FB group, but I haven't been nearly as active there as I am here. I've commented to a few posts, and everyone has been totally friendly, but I just am more of a lurker on that side. I think I would be more active if I was in a FB group that has fewer people.

I do like that it's a "secret" group, so that whatever I post there isn't showing up on the news feed of everyone I know. I really don't want to be that mom who is constantly bombarding everyone I know (on facebook) with pregnancy/parenting talk, so a secret group is an idea I like for any future FB group in which I'm invited to participate.

FitmomJess · October 2014

I left the FB group bc certain members were posting the same posts on there and in here.........

robsbabygirl08 · October 2014

I would want to join. I missed the cut off for the other group and now I regret it.

Aillise · October 2014

I would be happy to join closer to due date or after LO arrives. So I feel more comfortable with everyone and the members are all active to a certain degree.

motherboy · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:
I am part of the current group, but I am not nearly as active there as I am here. I like it here better. But I still comment/like/ etc when something pops up in my news feed from the other group

Yep. I definitely think the format here allows for better discussions, with features like quoting and tagging. I'd just like a more private group to show pics.

MusicFanatic · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

I think I have a little bit of ADD because I like things moving fast, with lots of posts. I actually find it slowwwwww around here a lot!

There are days where I am hitting the refresh button constantly, thinking SOMEBODY SAY SOMETHING!!

I AM TRYING :P That's why I've been doing the random threads. Help me, people! Help me!! Post more!

YaMrWhite · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

I think I have a little bit of ADD because I like things moving fast, with lots of posts. I actually find it slowwwwww around here a lot!

There are days where I am hitting the refresh button constantly, thinking SOMEBODY SAY SOMETHING!!

It can be slow here but that helps me get work done...at work. Haha.

LadyXaverian · October 2014

FitmomJess said:

I left the FB group bc certain members were posting the same posts on there and in here......…

There are people on the FB group who aren't here and people who are here who aren't on FB, so I don't see why this would be considered a problem...

LadyXaverian · October 2014

I'll be interested in watching to see what happens with a post-baby FB group. I do find the current one super busy which can sometimes clog up my newsfeed, but I actually like that I can post something super random there that I wouldn't start a whole thread to post here.

I like the idea of a smaller group, though, so like I said, I'm interested in seeing what happens. Though I have to say, even though it's a fairly large group, I haven't seen any major drama, so that's nice.

britb618 · October 2014

I'm down for a post baby secret fb group too. I didn't join the last one for all reasons mentioned and also didn't realize it was secret. If I had known that I may have joined, but like others don't want all my real information going out to total strangers, but there are a good group of ladies here who post regularly who I would love to interact more with on a site where pics are easier for me

Samuelismomma · October 2014

I wonder if we should post something on the fb group now about cleaning out members who joined but never do anything and about after baby comes. It might bring the two concepts together. New moderator because old one couldn't do here and there:) I like both sites and like pp , like it is secret .

MusicFanatic · October 2014

Samuelismomma said:

I wonder if we should post something on the fb group now about cleaning out members who joined but never do anything and about after baby comes. It might bring the two concepts together. New moderator because old one couldn't do here and there:) I like both sites and like pp , like it is secret .

Not really to me.. because one of the reasons I left was because I didn't know half of them, so that wouldn't really do much to me but weed out some. It was like "my sister is due in january, can she join?" type of thing that just wasn't for me. Not everyone is from here. I'd rather be in a smaller group of ladies that just post here

LadyXaverian · October 2014

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

LadyXaverian said:

I'll be interested in watching to see what happens with a post-baby FB group. I do find the current one super busy which can sometimes clog up my newsfeed, but I actually like that I can post something super random there that I wouldn't start a whole thread to post here.

I like the idea of a smaller group, though, so like I said, I'm interested in seeing what happens. Though I have to say, even though it's a fairly large group, I haven't seen any major drama, so that's nice.

Any time I join a FB group (I'm in QUITE a few between the two children/pregnancies, haha) - I turn off the notifications from my newsfeed. Then I don't see any of it unless I click on that group page. It used to drive me nuts to have it in my feed!

As long as I've been on FB, I've never been able to figure out how to do this. School me, @icarriedawatermelon !

YaMrWhite · October 2014

MusicFanatic said:

Samuelismomma said:

I wonder if we should post something on the fb group now about cleaning out members who joined but never do anything and about after baby comes. It might bring the two concepts together. New moderator because old one couldn't do here and there:) I like both sites and like pp , like it is secret .

Not really to me.. because one of the reasons I left was because I didn't know half of them, so that wouldn't really do much to me but weed out some. It was like "my sister is due in january, can she join?" type of thing that just wasn't for me. Not everyone is from here. I'd rather be in a smaller group of ladies that just post here

That was my issue too. I gave it another shot but am slowly inching closer to the leave group button again

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