TTCAL GTKNY People telling you they are pregnant.

Re: TTCAL GTKNY People telling you they are pregnant.

• tlc35 member

  October 2014

  Well said, as always, @Eurydicenymph.
  

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• meredithcarole member

  October 2014

  lav17 said:

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  If you are reading this thread because you are looking for best ways to announce - don't ask someone with a prior loss (and especially multiple losses) to empathize with your worries about a healthy pregnancy that's going well. 

  
  This. I am here for a good friend if, God forbid, they need me, but don't give me reasons to be anxious over your pg unless there is a serious (like you are bleeding and cramping) reason. Getting me worked up over something like "my boobs don't hurt today" is cruel.

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• MyFirstRaspberry member

  October 2014

  Km380 said:

  Has anyone told people they are close with, that know your history, that text or email is preferred? I think people think that's impersonal so they think it's a bad idea

  Yes I have asked my close friends to notify me via email.

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• CreechMommy member

  October 2014

  PinkCamino said:

  CreechMommy said:

  Also, timing is so important.  If you know a friend had a m/c - know her "sensitive dates" (Mother's Day, loss date, EDD, and holidays) Announce on any other day of the year and I think you're in the clear.  

  
  

  Also if announcing to someone you know has a miscarriage maybe send a text saying something like "I have some exciting news I want to share with you.  I know this is a sensitive topic for you which is why I'm sharing through text and not in person.  We're expecting." 

  
  

  Something to that effect because it lets the person know you are being considerate of their feelings that you remember what they have been through.  I think that would be the way I would want to find out.  

  That's really not the case for me. I really don't feel that there will ever be a day that I am in the clear.
  

  You're right - I guess I shouldn't have worded it that way.  I meant other days are slightly better. I feel like there are extra sensitive days and announcements on those days are bound to be way more traumatic.  An announcement on a random day could be better - still horrible, but slightly better.  

  
  

  I agree though - I don't think there will ever be a day that's just wonderful. 

  
  

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