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need some advice

lauramckolaylauramckolay member
in February 2015 Moms
This may not be the right place to talk about this and I apologize in advance but I can't talk to anyone else because I'm not even sure what to do myself. My fiancé and I got engaged the beginning of the year and in may our little miracle happened so we put the wedding off just for one more year but we're still planning everything out like things haven't changed. Now being 24 weeks pregnant I'm a whole lot bigger than I use to be and he's been distant ever since the belly came in to play. She's been kicking like crazy but every time I ask him to feel he makes an excuse not to feel he's been distant lately not wanting to be home wanting to go out and he started talking to me about stories at work and this girl keeps popping up she's new but I just have this gut feeling. Some how she got my number and told me she needed to talk to me about something. I'm so scared and expecting the worse to come and that he's going to leave.... what do I do?
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  • Maple403Maple403 member
    I agree with @jennjilljoite

    Also, keep in mind that men handle/process pregnancy very differently than women. My husband is not very into touching my belly, he is less into sex now that I'm bigger, and he doesn't like obsessing over baby registry stuff. It doesn't mean that he isn't excited and preparing for the baby. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love me. He does everything differently. I was worried he wasn't on board with the baby but he and I had a heart-to-heart and it made me realize how much he does think about the upcoming birth and prepare for it- just in ways that didn't occur to me. Keep an open mind and hopefully you and your fiancee can work out any issues.
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  • mommadozermommadozer member
    jennjilljoite said:

    Talk to your significant other about it in a calm and rational way using "I feel" statements instead of you statements and taking turns talking. I don't recommend talking to or meeting with people who mysteriously get your phone number. If the conversation leads to fighting them see a counselor to mediate the conversation and help prevent fighting.

    Yup, this is the best advice. Sorry you are feeling this way. :(

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  • lailoulailou member
    I wouldn't under any circumstances meet up with her!!! I think you should have a chat with your fiancé and really talk things out. Even if it's sonething you don't want to hear, you don't have much longer until you'll both be parents, it'll be good to clear the air now. Wishing you all the best x
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