Trying to stay positive

lulubee85 · October 2014

It's crazy how you can go from one high (finding out your pregnant) to an ultimate low (finding out your miscarrying) all within a week!! I found out on October 1st that I was pregnant! My bf and I were thrilled!!! Five days later I started to bleed and ended up at the hospital! Reading all of your stories has helped me a lot knowing that I am not alone! Although this is a terrible loss, everything happens for a reason and it just wasn't right. I'm trying to stay positive and taking this as a learning experience! It just doesn't seem fair sometimes! So I just wanted to introduce myself and tell my story, because I think it's important that other people know that they aren't alone. I am looking forward to having all of you as my support system when we do start to TTC again. My heart goes out to all of you on this board and my fingers and toes are crossed for everyone!! x0

meredithcarole · October 2014

Sorry for your loss. Welcome.

foodie12rn · October 2014

Sorry for your loss!

Nikolie93 · October 2014

Sorry for your loss and it helps to know we all aren't alone! I'm in your same boat. I found out last Friday night I was pregnant and yesterday I started having my 3rd MC.

I was a bit skeptical but still happy when I got the positive test. Good luck on your journey!

kittymeowbark · October 2014

I am so sorry for your loss, truly I am.

Please do not say "everything happens for a reason." I do not think there is a "greater" reason why my daughter's brain never formed and why she was unable to be born or be here today. I truly hate that saying and it can rub people the wrong way.

As @ashtog has pointed out, please read "read this before posting here"

I hope this board is helpful and provides comfort as it has for me.

forevermyfenix · October 2014

@lulubee85‌ ,welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. I did want to second what @kittymeowbark‌ said above. I understand how it may make you feel a little better, but for many ladies on here it is hurtful. Please don't feel offended by thus suggestion, but I hope you understand our reasoning.

PinkCamino · October 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss.

There is absolutely no fucking reason why I should have to have lost so many babies. There is no greater power, greater meaning or greater justification for making what has happened to me and any of the other ladies here okay.

lulubee85 · October 2014

I'm sorry and I didn't mean to offend anyone by what I said!! It was just my personal way of handling things I guess! I am sorry and I will watch how I word things in the future.

negritosmami · October 2014

i felt the same way!from one second to just be on a constant joyous high..knowing you are about to have your dream come true...then in an INSTANT for it to be taken away from you!!it was devastating. I had an mmc and i didnt know about it for four weeks. The whole thing was just so traumatic!!!i have come a long way. In no small part thanks to this board. Like you said, there is healing in knowing you are not alone!so sorry for your loss!welcome to the board!*hugs*

uromys · October 2014

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. This is a wonderful community filled with loving and supportive woman. I agree with the PPs... Welcome!

BethKate2 · October 2014

There's no reason for any of it. I refuse to believe that my loss and infertility are part of some big plan and that this is the way it's supposed to be. If it helps you to believe that, that's fine, but please keep stuff like that off the board.

I'm sorry for your loss. Take the time that you need to grieve. It's ok to be sad and angry about what you've experienced